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"Keys to a Better Life"

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To gain a personal experience from the cutting edge and age old transformational information posted here as "Keys to a Better Life" (Awareness + 1, 2, 3), we recommend starting at the beginning.

Our Blog is in chronological order and the first post is titled "Greetings".

Enjoy!

Live the Life you Love                                 Love the Life you Live
~ Joanne Mangion                                                 ~ Anthony Harvey

Spiritual Blueprint

Prior to 2005, I thought there was only one way to be spiritual and that was to have a relationship with God…the Catholic way.

These days God or spirituality is a subject I contemplate to a great extent everyday, and on some days more than others. During the weekend of 17 & 18 March 2o13, I contemplated it even more because it was my spiritual grandson's Catholic Christening on the Sunday.

Once upon a time my Spiritual Blueprint told me that if we weren't baptised then God didn't know about us, and if God didn't know about us, and we died, our soul would be sent to a terrible place called "hell".

When baptised as a Catholic however, it meant God knew about me. Not only did this new title of "Catholic" save me from hell but, by practising and living the Catholic faith it made me eligible to get to another place called "heaven"; a very desirable place indeed. I also came to believe that a promise was made at the time of a Christening by the parents, God-parents, and witnesses to guide the child's Spirit in the ways of this particular faith - this was reiterated on Sunday.

There were some lovely concepts shared by the presiding priest at the ceremony that Noah was involved in, yet I found the Catholic belief still missing a fundamental and universal truth - that God and man are One because God is all there is.

That day in 2005 when I decided to no longer consider myself a "Catholic", was the day I conscientiously began to search for a way to avoid hell in a less fearful way and come to know God in a more uplifting one. This search led to the understanding that there are many ways to approach Spirituality and have a relationship with God. It also revealed that there was no physical place called heaven or hell, or even purgatory, but rather that these were states of consciousness and experiences that were possible to create in the here and now.

My Spiritual Blueprint today is based on the concept that there is nothing but God in all our Universes and Galaxies, and all that these contain. Everything in physical form is an outward or visible expression of this Supreme Consciousness that men call God and the only way God or Supreme Consciousness could not recognise Itself would be to forget momentarily that this Life Principle is all there is, ever was, and ever will be.

I believe this activity of forgetting or rather lowering our state of consciousness to a degree, for the great forward movement of the people and the planet, takes place by choice each time "I" birth into a physical realm. By doing so "I" get to experience, amongst other things, free choice to express mySelf anyway way "I" will.

God to me is no longer a physical entity and never will be except through Its offspring - you, me, US. Rather, to me God has become an Essence of Supreme Consciousness that is infinitely intelligent and onmipresent. It is all good, forever expanding and always evolving for the purpose of experiencing and expressing greater and greater degrees of Love, Beauty and Joy.

From the belief that God is all there is, everything and everyone becomes an outward expression of this Single Source of Life, It can only be.

I believe that this Spirit of Livingness exists in all things and everyone, to varying degrees, and the degree to which we are currently expressing this Spirit of Life is equal to the extent that we, individually and collectively, recognise and believe that man and God are One and that man is God expressed.

We are permanently connected and can never, in truth, be separated. We can only think that we are and even this doesn't make it so.

Now this is just a snippet of what my search for the ideal experience of God and spirituality has so far revealed to me about the Supreme Consciousness that man calls God and that man is an outward, physical expression of. We, like everyone, are doing our best with the information we have to express and demonstrate our highest state of consciousness for the highest possible experience and expression of Love, Beauty & Joy and the journey continues...

All Life is Precious because All is Life.

Live the Life you Love...
J x 

Relationship Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

7 Relationship Blueprint Updates

Writing these Relationship Blueprints has again caused me to consider some of the key concepts that Anthony & I tested and implemented as a couple in business, that had and continue to have a profound impact in moving us, our relationship, and our affairs from contraction and undesirable conditions toward joy and ever increasing expansion.

Listed are 7 powerful Relationship Blueprint Updates that you may wish to consider and test. As with all change, these too take a degree of practice before a return on investment yields lasting results. This, we are told, is due to the natural Law of Growth.

Although it would be impossible to reach the potential that these Relationship Updates offer when correctly applied, we quickly become part of the evidence that even a small tweak to our self, here and there, can make a world of difference and a difference to the world in how we relate to and with others.

So here's the first Update:

Update 1:  From What the heck don't you get to Know Thy Self

Have you ever felt like it wasn't just your words that got lost in translation but your life? That nobody gets you and that at times you barely recognise yourself and what your life has come to? Consider this, of the person or people you spend most of your time with each day, what percentage of your thoughts and feelings would they be aware of..? What percentage of your own thoughts and feelings are you aware of as you move about your day..?

Some of us were taught that what someone does for a living tells us who they are, that’s why we’ve been programmed to ask each other how our day went and what we got up to. Yet, who we are is a result of what we think about with feeling all day and not about what we are doing. And for those that haven’t heard it said before that’s why we are called human beings and not human doings.

To get to know someone better, including our self, we can ask, "What did I(you) invest my(your) time thinking about today?" And, "What feelings did these thoughts generate?"

When we can answer these questions consistently to our self we can ask another about them. Prepare to listen well and offer to go first many times before another may be willing to participate. It is preferred by some to capture their responses in a journal.

In the words of Pythagoras, "Man know thyself; then thou shalt know the Universe and God.”


Update 2:  From Everyone is incompetent and ignorant to Everyone is doing the best they can with the information they have

I believed everyone was doing the best they could with the information they had when I asked myself if I was.

I found I was doing the best I could even when I felt misunderstood and was continually in conflict with others. However, when I sought and found additional information, I was then able to experience better relationships and conditions and was able to shift my life toward becoming exponentially more positive and therefore more ideal.

A key to gaining additional information was to stop telling myself the story of what I no longer desired and began telling one that reflected my ideals. To this I added the faculties of imagination and visualisation as well as meditating on feeling the feelings of my wishes fulfilled.


Update 3:  From Nobody knows anything to Every man is my teacher

I knew just how little I and others knew when I began gaining additional information about the Cause of Life.

Before that, it appeared to me that most folks were incompetent and ignorant. Now I know, as mentioned above, that they were also doing the best they can and I have changed my perception to folks are my mirror reflecting back at me an array of available states of consciousness or personalities within a sophisticated contextual field we call Earth.

The truth is we all know things, many things in fact and it is these things (based on our thoughts, beliefs and values) that are shaping our life for negative, positive, or even more positive experiences.

Today, I understand that everyone is my teacher because everything they say and do has the capacity to teach me something else about myself.


Update 4:  From Should-ing all over others to Teaching what I want to learn most

When you use the word should with someone next, I invite you to take a moment to repeat the same sentience to yourself. For example, "you should watch what you say in front of the kids" to "I should watch what I say in front of the kids." Or, "You really should look after your health." to "I really should look after my health."

To stop should-ing all over others it is necessary ultimately to eliminate the word from our vocabulary altogether. When Anthony or I use this word on the odd occasion these days we are pretty quick to pick it up and correct our language. Using the word should seems disempowering and doesn’t feel friendly and uplifting. We found that using it somehow implies wrong doing, disappointment, shame or regret.

Words that are empowering and can easily replace it are Could, Can, Might, May and Will. For example, "You might watch what you say in front of the kids" or "You really could look after your health more." and "I can watch my thoughts and words more closely."

These days, I teach what I want to learn most by sharing blogs, posting status updates, having consultations, coaching sessions, or presenting someone with options via text, email or phone.  Each time I know I am telling them what I need to learn most. So I listen carefully to what all parities have to say because there is bound to be gold in it for me too.


Update 5:  From Hear me. Hear me. Hear me to Seek first to understand before being understood

When I first became a student of mental science (new thought), including metaphysics, I wanted everyone to know and feel the information and liberation that came with this ancient wisdom. I had a drum to beat that was inspirational and fun so I got around in a bit of a hear me or suffer in your ignorance type approach.

These days, believe it or not :o), I am quieter than I was, especially in social settings. I prefer to seek first to understand where someone is at on a particular topic or subject and then, if and when appropriate, share another model of the world that also exists and is assisting us achieve our desires at home, in business, and in relationship.


Update 6:  From Come on, I'll show you who is better to There is no competition only personal best

With a shawl of Everyone is incompetent and ignorant around my shoulders; a keen dancer; and an older sibling, I learnt competition young.

I learnt early about winning and losing, kill or be killed, and I enjoyed collecting medals, trophies and accolades.

Today, I understand that there is no one coming to take my place or play my part. I know that there is not another soul in the universe who is here to do what only I can do. Therefore, I also now know that there is no rush, no threat, and no competition. It is my personal best efforts alone that produce my conditions and outcomes.


Update 7:  From No! to Yes, and...

There was a period when Anthony & I began noticing that we were unintentionally making each other wrong in communication.  For example, we may be chatting about something and one of us would make a suggestion. Our conversations went from responding with something like, “No! I think we should do Y.”  to “Yes, that’s a good option, we need to consider this and that, and another option could be…”.

When we decided to act like best friends, and lovers, we began chatting with each other rather than talking at each other. The magic is in the couple when united values are based on love and beauty.  It is in this way that our chats that used to lead to arguments now lead us perfectly to an approach that meets our needs and desires as well as producing pleasant conversations…


In closing:  Self awareness is not something we can bestow on another, nor can we decide when another will have the experience. Those who know us also know that Anthony & I believe the magic is in the couple or the partnership (whatever form this takes) because while all awakening is golden, when we can experience this with our most beloved, or a mutually invested partner for example, to us this means having a constant best friend by our side to experience the highs and lows with, keeping each other buoyant and on track with what we say is ideal, and that special someone to cry and to celebrate with.

On our journey these precious moments became, and continue to be, our saving grace.

until I post again…
May all your relationships be joyful ones; and
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Relationship Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

At Universal Truths, we believe, through studying and consultations, that all disharmony in relationship, from upset to hatred and individuals to nations, stems from a mismatch in personal values (that which is important to us individually).

I've been reworking this Relationships Blueprint blog for some time now considering the most succinct manner in which I can share seven years of study and observation as well as experiences and findings on this subject concisely enough to produce a blog or two of around 800 words each.  More than half a dozen approaches must have come to me since commencing it the day after the previous blog was posted.

Relationships, although not the last of this Blueprint series, is the ultimate one because Life itself is about who we are being in relation to everyone and everything.  Our health, our work, our spirituality, our finances, and our many and varying relationships are all dependent on the manner in which we view and relate to these subjects.

Another fundamentally important aspect of relationships is the subject of communication because we communicate in alignment with our state of consciousness (who we perceive ourselves to be at any given point in time) and many people get, intellectually at least, that it's not what we say that counts so much as how we say it.  Therefore, the quality of all relationships are influenced by our ability to express ourselves in and through them.

By living in awareness of the laws that govern all life, we have come to know - intellectually and experientially - that the world and everyone we encounter is merely a reflection of our perceived self.  Conditions and people are our mirror image and tell us where we are up to or how we are tracking against what we think and say is "ideal".  An example of this is that I spent a period of my life believing people were angry and rude and the moment I began to eliminate anger and any form of rudeness from by expressions (facial, tonality, physical etc.) is the moment I began encountering different experiences. It took me many years to get to a place where I could accept this "mirror image" concept fully and today there is not shred of doubt left in me that this is a Universal Truth.  Don't take my word for it though, test it for yourself...

Who we are being, through the personalities we express, are yet again a composition of learnt values and behaviours. Our thoughts about a person, a place, a race, a country, alternative spiritual beliefs, sexual preferences, body piercing, hairstyles, fashion, tattooing, body compositions, public displays of affection, the rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, and the thief are, like all blueprints, initially taught to us, learnt and adopted.

To change what I see, hear, feel, know and reflect to myself about others, I change myself.  I have done this enough times now to know that every man is my teacher, reflecting to me a potential state of consciousness. Depending on the thoughts, feelings, and meaning I give to how someone else chooses to express themselves tells me where I am up to in my beliefs about whatever aspect of life they are expressing.  If I make a judgement, i.e. my thoughts and feelings are about them, I place my power to make a change outside of me.  If instead I make an observation, i.e. I view what is being said or done as merely an interesting way to express oneself, I empower myself to consider what I'm seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling about this tells me about myself.  I then become the change I wish to see in others - while not surprising anymore I am constantly amazed by the power these laws have to change my conditions. The understanding and implementation of judgements vs observations played and continues to play an integral part in living an ideal life.

When I first returned to the 'Big Smoke' recently to engage with the movers and shakers of our central business district or corporate world with my new found knowledge and skills, I was consumed by the public display of contrast available. The homeless, the shoppers, the buskers, the money collectors and so on and then, once inside a high rise, engaging with collegues, peers, senior executives as well as CEOs and an array of consultants and service providers who wish to converse and do business with us.  The world is our contextual field from which to define and design our ideals.

As a child I learnt judgment over observation. I was taught what was "right" and "wrong" sometimes with conflicting messages and demonstration. I was taught that what goes on in our home, stays in our home and this taught me how to live more than 'One Life'.  It was the days when visitors would just pop in because they were "in the neighbourhood".  The full blown argument that was occurring a one moment ago was set aside to act as though all was harmonious.  This could go on for hours before the visitors left and the arguing was picked up where things left off.

Within the past seven years I have learnt to live 'One Life' and maintain my centre of peace on a more consistent bases.  Once I could change my state of consciousness from "I feel great", to "I feel lousy" and everything in between many times a day. Now peace and contentment are my base achieved by exchanging swinging states of consciousness with regularly checking that my thoughts and emotions are aligned to my clearly defined ideals about how I wish to be perceived and relate to others - all human beings regardless of their current state of consciousness (who they believe themselves to be), or their race, skin colour, religious and sexual preferences and so on.

Who and how I relate with and to others is critical to Living a Life I Love. I have become more tolerant and compassionate by becoming engaging and genuinely curious and interested in other people's story.  I now understand that we are all living our dream life however for some this means nirvana while for others this is hell but all are derived by the same laws that govern life, whether we know them or not.  Our current conditions are derived from what we belief to be true and think about with feeling and are as temporary as our current thoughts about these subjects.

In Part 2 of Relationship Blueprints I'll relate more specifically to how blueprints affect our intimate relationships.

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

With around seven years of exstensive personal development and self contemplation behind me, I recognise that around the age of 8 I bought into the possibility, through suggestion, that I needed to be a good girl or the separation of my parents could be my fault. The outcome was that I became a master people pleaser and carried this trait into my school years and work life.

During this time, I placed a great deal of pressure on myself to do things "perfectly". I would do whatever was asked of me to my fullest potential. I was a masterful chameleon acting one to please my friends, and another to please their parents. I also had different acts with my work colleagues and managers.

All the while, I was ill equipped mentally and emotionally, and the manner in which I conducted myself often crossed my unconscious value system of fairness and expectation of recognitions and rewards. Given I had also learnt to argue and defy, I occasionally found myself in disagreements and conflicts.

During the first one and half decades of my working life I worked long hours, I was dutiful, and thought it essential to impress by constantly going above and beyond other people's expectations.

What's wrong with that some may ask? Sounds like a strong work ethic right? I found that it wasn't when the reason for the input and effort was to feel worthy, accepted, appreciated, liked, respected, and not responsible if it all went wrong. By living and working from this place of insecurity, I often "hit the wall" - becoming burnt out, depressed and developing undesirable physical ailments on an ongoing basis.

When Anthony and I self funded four years of full time study between 2006 and 2010, we identified that there are a set of infallible laws that govern all life.

Throughout this particular study period we became more and more enthusiastic about the potential these laws could have on business operations, culture, profitability and success. It's easy to see how valuable and relevant this is when we acknowledge that a business exists through its people. When we consider the various elements of a business like the owners, clients, staff, service providers, stakeholders, shareholders and so on, we see that there is not a single aspect of a business that is not operated by and reliant on people. However, based on our limited teaching and inadequate education, especially in the arena of human excellence, it becomes easy to see that a business or company cannot reach its fullest potential until its people do - regardless of the type of business and industry.

With new knowledge obtained from a plethora of sources and tried and tested concepts, I no longer see my businesses or places of employment as time stealers and income earners. I now view these vehicles and the people within them as sacred places in and through which people are on a journey and relationships (i.e. who we are, in relation to each other) are experienced.

My desire to please others, at any cost, including my health and personal relationships has transformed into a deep desire to seek first to understand and assist others get what they want.

I do this having first and foremost developed a relationship with my self enabling me to come from a place of self love, self worth, and self understanding.  By doing so, I find I am continually seeking ways to add more value. I understand completely, i.e. intellectually and experientially, that when I help others get what they want, I get what I want and as I become the person I wish to see in others, others become the persons I wish to see.

Knowing what and where the source of all my good comes from, I am able to release, with confidence, the amount of energy I require for the activities of my day, draw on greater depths of understanding, love, patience, compassion, and wisdom rather than only giving in the hope of gaining an immediate return for myself and becoming exhausted, depleted, burnt out, and feeling used and abused when these hopes fall short.

I have moved passed having a job, working on my career, or being desirous of a vocation. Today and everyday is the now the next step towards becoming and experiencing my self as a company cultural change agent equipped with a tool kit of of knowledge, skill, experience and happy expectation.

The next topic in this Blueprint series is Relationships...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

Since beginning this Blueprint series I have grown. I understand more deeply through experience that I simply can no longer focus my thoughts upon something with feeling and not produce an experience of it.

My posts are considered; what I mean by this is that I place significant time and attention on capturing my thoughts, reading and re-reading my words, refining the content and context of my message, contemplating what I write, the concepts I write about and what they continue to mean to me today, as well as who I am presenting to and as.

As a result, during the process of writing and presenting the past three of four posts, I manifested a cold sore, a migraine, and experienced contraction. 

 

What we focus on expands - pure and simple!  

Fortunately, each condition was short lived, brought me new insights, actions, and outcomes, and all three conditions related predominantly to work. Given that I'm currently dedicating around 90 hours per week of focussed attention (thoughts, feelings, words, and actions) directly to work, with Awareness, it's no wonder the conditions are manifesting through this vehicle. I know the work I do and the service I provide is my current tool for greatest potential and growth towards my ideal - without doubt.

To understand a little about the origins of my work Blueprint it's important, I think, to understand a little about my heritage. I am the second child of two with an older brother of three years. I am first generation Australian, born and brought up in the wonderful city of Melbourne, Australia, except for its climate :). My parents migrated from the island of Malta, a country situated in the middle of the Mediterranean Sea with a long and rich history. Unlike many other migrant families, when my parents arrived in the early 1960s, on their one-way honeymoon, no other relatives from either side followed. I've never had cousins, aunts or uncles around, and I didn't meet my grandparents in person. I have met my relatives on five or six occasions, mostly when I have travelled to Malta. Did any of these people have a major influence on your work Blueprint?

What I saw and learnt about work, I did so predominantly from my parents who arrived in Australia with minimal savings and no jobs at the ages of 19 and 20. I also learnt from what I saw and heard from other migrant family friends, school and ballet class families, teachers, and religious leaders.

The messages (values and beliefs) I adopted were that we worked to live and the harder and longer we worked the more income we earned - to the extent that one could budget that income they could achieve a measure of "success". From what I gathered, in my culture and socio-economic circles of the time, this generally meant that I would own my home as well as a holiday house beachside or in the country perhaps. I'd always pay cash for vehicles, clothes, gifts, furniture, toys, and travel and I'd have a reasonable slush fund of cash in the bank. The irony of these sentences is that they will mean something different to everyone who reads this post, than they do to me. What we will mostly agree on is what these things we call homes, vehicles, clothes, cash etc. are, and the part that remains personal, and can only be, is just what they each mean to us. For example, we mostly agree that a moped is vehicle and so is a mercedes benz.

By adopting these beliefs, I bought my first car with cash (AU$1,200) at 18 (the legal age for obtaining a driver's licence in the state of Victoria) - albeit predominantly from the cash my parents had been saving up for me from the board I was paying from my part-time job I started when I was 14. I bought my first home with a fiancee at the age of 19 (or 1988) for AU$114,000. It was paid by age 24 and we went overseas, paying cash, for six months.

There were benefits to this system of belief, like never experiencing financial stress - I never wondered where by household or living expenses would be paid from for I had budgeted for everything, and some, 12 months in advance. To some reading this post this may seem like quite an achievement and at that time and place in my life it was. Although by age 30 I had become asset wealthy to the tune of a couple of million dollars, as previously mentioned, it didn't however prevent me becoming suicidal by age 32 as I seesawed backwards and forwards between pride and the obviousness of my mediocre lifestyle.

Most influential in introducing me to the concept that, in life there are three stages to producing an income or earnings was Caroline Myss.  She says that first we get a job which is for the purpose of meeting our basic survival needs such as food, shelter, and clothing. In a well developed country, such as Australia, this perhaps includes education and healthcare too. Then we develop a thirst for a career because it pays more than a job, and this is followed by developing a need/passion for a vocation because it's spiritually fulfilling.

At the time of my 30 something life changing moment, in my view of the world, I was developing a career in corporate management while earning $100,000. In Part 2 I'll share how I went from my career as master people pleaser to being in the process of self mastery. My last corporate job, prior to the one I am currently engaged in (six months as at Nov 2012) was in 2005.

Where has your current work Blueprint brought you too?  Are you utilising the moments of your day in a job, a career, or a vocation (the true purpose and reason that You are here)…?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 4 of 4

The beliefs instilled in me as a child and throughout my young adult life differ greatly from the ones I live my life by today. As a result I recognise my self as being a happier, healthier, wealthier, and more loving person. Every area of my life has been redefined by this process and when it comes to my health Blueprint, changing my beliefs about depression was most impactful. 

I learnt depression from an early age; mimicking and expressing feelings of despair and hopelessness to the point of becoming suicidal in my early 30s.

Instead of ending my life, I chose to start it over and I anticipate that although I am in the first decade of this life transformation, due to invaluable life experiences and Universal Truths, I have fast tracked to what feels like a current age of around mid twenty.  At this pace I expect to be living an ideal life, not only in some areas as I'm currently experiencing most of the time, but in all areas, all of the time within this decade. :o)

My initial beliefs about depression taught me that it was due to a chemical imbalance. No one could tell me how this imbalance occurred or perform a test to evidence this manic depression diagnoses. All I knew was that this chemical imbalance would deliver a heavy cloud of despair and hopelessness into my life that rendered me seemingly incapable of functioning and certainly unwilling to continue enduring such a mediocre version of what I thought life could be and what I saw others demonstrating.

I seesawed continuously between "why me, poor me, what did I do to deserve this, I must be crazy?" and depths of guilt, shame and embarrassment at ever thinking I had it badly. Nonetheless, I still couldn't explain my immense unhappiness and a doctor could - or so I thought.

Long story short, as I have made reference to this state of consciousness we call depression on other occasions throughout these posts, my new belief about it is that depression is something we learn and something we do - not something we get or that happens to us. From this base both Anthony & I have eliminated the experience called manic depression from our existence.

I first heard, via Carolyn Myss, that depression is not a mental crises but rather a crises of the soul. We agree!

Metaphysically, I was shown that depression is "an anger we feel we do not have a right to have. Hopelessness" and that suicidal tendencies relate to, "Seeing life only in black and white. Refusal to see another way out."* From this I did what I needed to, to overcome these conditions and "I went beyond other people's fears and limitations. I created MY life." I began to, "Live in the totality of possibilities." Believing that, "There is always another way. I am safe." *

As works in progress, and in the process of fully manifesting our ideal life in all areas, all of the time, these days we experience moments of contraction. The difference is that we have developed the ability to recognise these moments immediately (Awareness is the key) and then apply 1, 2, 3.

Every moment, period, season of contraction is always followed by expansion. Each experience is becoming easier and more elegant and is filled with hope and excited anticipation as we continue learning to read the signs and remain tuned to our innate guidance system.

Our purpose is to evolve happily and that's just what we are committed to doing. We have defined our personal version of this and are continually refining our health blueprints (beliefs, thoughts, values etc.) to align them to this image. Have you defined a personal expression of Life and Health?

I am happy to share another perspective about any health conditions that may be keeping you or a loved one from Loving the Life you Live.

Coming up next is the work Blueprint.

...until I post again
J. x

* source: You Can Heal Your Body by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 3 of 4

About migraines, Metaphysics reminded me that the root cause of this condition is the thoughts I have with feeling that are in accord with the "Dislike of being driven. Resisting the flow of life. Sexual fears." It also says, see headaches which states, "Invalidating the self. Self-criticism. Fear."*

As mentioned in the previous posts, I believe that all conditions are produced in correspondence with the thoughts I have with feeling that are consolidated, validated and reinforced by the words I speak and the actions I take. Every thought, feeling, word and action takes me toward or away from my ideal.

In my contemplation of the content of these posts, it occurred to me just recently that I learnt about migraines from a neighbour. She used to get them to the extreme that would render her incapacitated for up to three days at a time. The only time she left her darkened room or bed in these moments was to violently throw up/vomit.

On reflection, and from a place of uncritical observation about the past thinking that produced this condition in me, I can see that I learnt early the dislike of being driven, pushed or coerced into doing anything that didn't sit well with me. I didn't know there was a "flow to life" so it's no wonder I resisted - I didn't like what I was experiencing, so I certainly didn't want to flow with it.

I began early to endeavour to control life given it often seemed out of control to me. Particularly as a small child, my parents, in an attempt to protect my brother and I, would argue throughout the night turning my little stomach into knots of dread and fear.

The parents I mention here are of a version dating back approximately 38 years. We have all morphed into a very different version of who we were at the time these conditions and experiences took place. That being said, it was from my parents that I first observed this dislike of being driven.

My father, displayed what I might refer to as a severe case of emotional instability. I recall him on occasions threatening to end his life and I am, to this day, unaware of the beliefs that drove this style of personality and behaviour. I am however aware of the ones that eventually caused this same condition to prevail in me. Mum was the other character in this play, taking on the role of victim/rescuer of this challenging emotional expression.

I tolerated few people, especially teachers (whom I generally liked and who liked me), telling me what to do and how to do it. I absolutely disliked being driven in the direction of someone else's agenda and learnt well how to invalidate my self and be highly critical of myself which I masked by becoming critical of others. I judged and found most folks as being highly incompetent.

These days, through the study, coaching and conversation, I am aware that what I speak and observe in others is what, at some level (consciously or unconsciously), I like or dislike about my self.

In life there cannot be an abuser without a victim, a carer without a patient, or a rescuer without an endangered one. We are all playing roles in this existence we call humanity. Additional knowledge I found useful when it came to playing a different role, a more "ideal' role, is that in any moment, even right now, I am free to choose again.

As well as the victim/rescuer, to me mum was the rock, the stabiliser, and the main influencer in developing an intense personality of independence and justice in me. These traits have served me both well and not so well and which I spent much time refining. While there were things about my parents I didn't admire, today, there are also ones I do and this list grows longer. Through the understanding and practice of grace and forgiveness (A Course in Miracles being one of the influential sources in this process), I have completely embraced that everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this place. Once upon a time this place didn't feel ideal, for many reasons, and now - because life has become so delectable, my feelings of gratitude grow ever deeper.

The first step to overcoming migraines was again Awareness. I felt is was possible and made the choice to end this cycle - I recall reaching the point of "This is enough! No more!" Initially, Metaphysics provided the new thought program which I read and affirmed often, "I relax into the flow of life and let life provide all that I need easily and comfortably. Life is for me." And, "I love and approve of myself. I see myself and what I do with eyes of love. I am safe."*

In conjunction with Metaphysics I was introduced to and adopted the practise of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) - an ancient asian technique of tapping on the body's meridians, or pressure points, to relieve undesirable conditions of all sorts, including limiting beliefs and deicisions. It was highly effective for me, enabling me to return my compromised vision that indicated the onset of a migraine from 20 minutes to under 5, and reduce the throbbing headache from anywhere up to 16 hours, and copius amounts of medication, to under 10 minutes.

Being the work in progress that I am, again it takes great vigilance to monitor my thoughts and emotions to avoid the undesirable health condition that manifests or shows up in the form of a headache or migraine. However, the evidence that my health Blueprint for this condition has been permanently altered and continually improving is again unquestionable.

I'll wrap up the health Blueprint series in the next part. I will set the knee problem aside, momentarily at least, and share some thoughts on the subject of depression before moving on to the next topic of the work Blueprint.

I welcome any queries about any of the health conditions listed in Part 1 of this health series or any other that may be of interest to you.

Here are some questions to contemplate if you feel inclined to do so:

1. Are you still holing on to events that occurred in the past? How much longer are you willing to live there giving that the laws that govern life say that what we think about with feeling produces the conditions of our future that are coming to greet us?
    
2. What act/role are you playing and is it serving you well? Does this role assist or keep others and yourself in an undesirable place or is it empowering and encouraging change and growth?
    
3. Are you being observant of the thoughts and emotions that are producing your health conditions - the good ones and the not so good one?

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: Your Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 2 of 4

By considering the messages I received about health as a child, especially the first vital, impressionable 10 years, I invoke the first of the Universal Truths - "Keys to a Better Life" being Awareness. I cannot change anything I do not first acknowledge as being either something I desire more or less of.

I was programmed with a health Blueprint that was predominantly focused on the limited and undesirable half of the health spectrum. Not too far along the negative side in most instances, but certainly not on the half that continually expresses the seven characteristics of the Spirit of Life, as taught by Judge Thomas Troward, being love, light, power, peace, beauty and joy. This occurred not because my parents, carers and educators wanted to harm, hurt, or damage me but because they did the best they could with the information they acquired.

This being so, in my adult years from my early 20s through to my mid 30s in particular, I unconsciously reproduced conditions that were extremely undesirable. These included cold sores that appeared from early primary school years and became a regular occurrence including getting a couple a month, ongoing, towards the end of this cycle of belief, just a few years ago. The migraines I experienced began at age 19 and lasted up to 16 hours. I recalled only recently that I had a neighbour I liked a lot that used to get them in a highly debilitating way. Inflammation/Fluid around my knees rendered me unable to walk around many Friday evenings, and my biggest health challenge, depression, began as mild and undiagnosed episodes since childhood becoming manic in my early thirties.  The day I was diagnosed with manic depression I was provided with a doctor's certificate for three months of sick leave and enough drugs for the same period...in under eight minutes. Within three days of commencing this leave and medication, I felt so disorientated in my life and in my body that I didn't want to be there anymore.

It was at this cross road, that a beloved friend handed me a book that she hadn't read at the time but came recommended by one of her trusted friend, and it turned my every thought about Life on its head. Do you know the type?

It was the impetus to reaching the conclusion or rather the commencement of a thought process that went, "If I am willing to check-out of life, why don't I just change all the things I don't like about it."  Within six months I had changed pretty much everything external to me - my relationship of 19 years came to a relatively amicable conclusion, I changed my job, the state I lived in, and my friends - not all for my immediate betterment but all of which contributed to my recognition some five years later, and with the ongoing assitance of my most incredible mirror, change agent/coach and life partner Anthony Harvey, that the one and only thing that constantly requires direct, focussed attention for change is me. By me, I don't mean more of the things around me, like my partner, my body, my friends, my home, or my clothes, I mean my beliefs.

When I changed my beliefs about my health I changed my world.

According to the thefreedictionary.com Metaphysics is branch of philosophy that deals with first principles, especially of being and knowing. It examines the nature of reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, substance and attribute, fact and value. In summary, I describe Metaphysics as a branch of philosophy that recognises that for each and every physical condition there is a mental thought process as its cause. To me Metaphysics is the understanding of the body's Cause and Effect.

Through the application of Metaphysics I gained a new understanding about all of the undesirable conditions listed in the previous post Part 1.  In particular, regarding cold sores, migraines, knee problems, and depression the understandings I gained, the actions I took, and the outcomes I produced were as follows:

Of cold sores, Metaphysics says that the old thought process (root cause) of this condition is, "Festering angry words and fear of expressing them." And, the extension of this condition, Herpes Simplex (Herpes Labialis), is "Burning to bitch. Bitter words left unspoken."* 

Every member of my family got cold sores and in my recollection we had them regularly and frequently. As the ancients say, "Like Attracts Like" and it was certainly true again of this condition. In the "communication" arena, I learnt what I saw, heard and felt which consisted predominantly of arguments, condemnation, criticism and impatience. As I became more and more aware of the particular thoughts, feelings, words and actions that brought with them the condition called cold sores, I began to impress upon my sub-conscious mind, with my conscious mind, a different belief. I wrote down and repeated often, "I only create peaceful experiences because I love myself. All is well." And, " I think and speak only words of love. I am at peace with life."*

So simple, don't you think…? Simple it is, but it's not always easy. Seven years on and I must remain ever vigilant with my thoughts, feelings, words and actions to maintain a cold sore free complexion. It is not that I no longer feel my emotions, including upset, sorrow, annoyance and anger but I am ever working my mental and emotional muscles to ensure they are fit and focussed and my aim is to feel my feelings from an uncritical place of observation to the best of my current ability. I feel the feeling and ask the question in parallel, "what is this condition telling me about myself?"

and this is how parts are born… stay tuned for part 3 of 3 or perhaps 4... :D

until I post again
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay. 

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 1 of 4
(revised Tue, 16 Oct) 

It was via Abraham-Hicks that I first read that every subject has two subjects. Take this first subject of health for example, there is the subject of poor health and there is the subject of exceptional health.  In my further study and truth, it is not so much that every subject has two subjects but rather that every subject has two extreme contrasts that exist on either end of the same spectrum of possibility.  And, on this spectrum of possibility exists a myriad of contrast available for our choosing e.g. poor health, not enough heath, failing health; and on the other end, improving health, good health, great health, and so on.  

In my understanding, both ends of the spectrum exist simultaneously and are a single subject.  What determines our experience and conditions is what we place our attention on.

At one end of the health spectrum we have the limited, contracted, and undesirable aspect of the subject and at the other end we have health in all its fullness - expressed as a state of consciousness that is ideal.

If we were asked to role play or act out either end of the spectrum, generally speaking and with sufficient rehearsing, we would have no trouble thinking about, feeling the feelings of, speaking in terms that were conducive with, and acting in ways that expressed a person with either failing, or ever increasing health.  

Always, it's the same subject with both possibilities existing simultaneously depending on the role being rehearsed over and over in thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

Here is how I believe my Health Blueprint works: According to sociologist Morris Massey, our beliefs and values (which I'm referring to as our Blueprints) are effectively programmed into us in the same manner we are initially conditioned about our gender, taught language, adopt our spiritual beliefs, learn to crawl, or walk, gain an understanding of the roles we play in relationship, the value of money, or any other value or behaviour. Depending on the repetitive messages we receive verbally, visually, audibly, and kinaesthetically etc. determines our Blueprint about that subject.  

My recollections of the messages I received in relation to health included:

• new born babies through to teenage years require immunisations to prevent them from contracting and dispensing illnesses
• children go through primary school years passing on and receiving all sorts of highly contagious conditions including knits/hair lice as well as mumps, measles, and chicken pox
• ear aches and tonsillitis predominantly effect children
• if I move my cold extremities (fingers, toes, ears and nose) to heat too quickly I will develop chill blains
• headaches are caused by stress
• migraines are caused by poor eyesight, overuse of a computer, and stress
• poor eyesight is caused from too much computer use and reading fine print
• neck, shoulder, and back pain are all caused by stress and poor posture, predominantly from sitting at a computer too long, alternatively we can sleep wrong, or get injured through physical activity
• cold sores are initiated by receiving a knock to the chin or lip, and recur when being run down, and spending too much time in the sun
• thrush/candida is caused by wearing synthetic underwear like nylon and elastin
• acne is a puberty related condition, skin conditions are weather or stress related, and a rash means that we have an internal illness or used the wrong soap/detergent
• almost all of the above are all highly contagious
• depression is caused by a chemical imbalance
• fluid around my joints occurred from hours of dance practice and teaching
• diseases like cancer are illnesses we get by drawing a short straw, or abusing substances such as tobacco and alcohol
• as adults we are required to continue getting immunisations to travel, to prevent catching colds and flues; and to have babies when we can't seem to do so naturally; and
• that our eyesight, hearing, joints, organs, minds and memory deteriorate with age - not to mention all the other aches, pain, ailments and illnesses that come with ageing. 

The above are all conditions I recall dealing with directly or observing most in others.

If, as the sages of the ages tell us, thoughts with feelings create our reality, and I believe with everything in me - a belief founded on years of study and practical implementation into the Cause of Life - that this is the one and only cause of our life experiences, it's no wonder I was somewhat of a hypocondriac.  Although I don't think I was a sickly child on the outside I do remember contracting a share of whatever was going around.  More than this I remember entertaining thoughts of terminal illnesses and death a lot and being perplexed that we supposedly had an almighty, loving God with unlimited powers, yet there was so much earthly suffering.

This is what my Health Blueprint was and where it came from. In the following parts of the Blueprint on health, I'll share what I did to reprogram it and what results I achieved.

What are or were some of your messages about health?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

An Introduction to Blueprints

Throughout the various modalities and avenues of personal development Anthony and I have travelled, there is always a chapter about what keeps our ideals, goals, milestones, or whatever terms we give them, from manifesting or reaching us.  These blocks, obstacles, limiting decisions and beliefs, self sabotaging patterns of behaviour, or whatever terms these hindrances are given, play a key role in keeping us from living an ideal life.

Generally speaking, I believe that the achievement or non achievement of our ideals has a great deal to do with our Blueprints. I define my Blueprints as those set of plans and drawings, the model or prototype, upon which my conscious and subconscious minds have been programmed.  This programming is based on years, especially the vital first 10*, when our values, beliefs and understandings about major concepts governing our state of health, work attitudes, relationships, spirituality, and money are introduced and consolidated. The consolidation process occurs via the repetitive thoughts, feelings, words, and actions that occur in relation to each of these topics producing like conditions to affirm them as true, even when they are not.

A subject of great interest to Anthony and I is identifying ways to transcend or modify the Blueprints that no longer serve us.  More than this, we wanted to be able to do so in a manner that was easy and elegant and with results that enabled the change to be rapid and lasting. The process we developed, and which has produced the most effective coaching and self-coaching techniques we've discovered to date :o) is the four Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3.

This series of posts is a behind the scenes look at how and why the Awareness + 1, 2, 3 technique works. They are intended to drill down momentarily, taking a side step from the easy and elegant, rapid, lasting change process to show these working based on personal experiences and case studies we've undertaken.

My intention in writing and publishing these is that others may also obtain keys to unlocking doors that seemingly separate them from moving forward and prospering. It is to recognise those patterns or cycles that we can unconsciously produce that seem to land us over and over again in undesirable places and unwanted conditions.

The reason why I wish to present this information, free of charge, is because I feel divinely inspired to do so. While we are works in progress, we know that the information we have attained and the manner in which we have processed and codified it is highly valuable. Further, I accept the phrase that we teach what we want to learn most, and that the gift is in the giving and the receiving.

While the space in which to share is concise, considering I endeavour to keep my posts up to an A4 page of text, you are invited to utilise the comments sections on Facebook or TypePad to ask any questions on the topic at hand that are relevant to you, a member of your family, or on behalf of a friend.   If you wish to participate and remain anonymous, please email or message me via Facebook and I will maintain your anonymity. I will however publish all queries and respond to those queries publicly.

The first Blueprint to be introduced is one that defined, and continues to define, our state of health.

Let us begin…

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

* Refer post: What's important to you?

Filler

I've titled this post Filler because in a sense that is what it is.  In another sense however it affods me the space to share with you that there are times I am writing/typing a post for hours and because my desire to share so many concepts, experiences and results about manifesting an ideal life are abundant, sometimes topics merge into each other and the post I am working on becomes neither about one or the other :D.  As a result, I either temporarily or permanently set it aside to start on another topic that has burst to the forefront.

At times, like this, a topic can consume my thoughts and feelings to such a degree I can't recall the precise message I was hoping to share through the current post.

The other thing that occurs through writing, which I highly recommend, be it for publication or not, is that insights and epiphanies occur as I read and reread my work causing me to see a concept in an entirely new light.

The topic that is consuming me on this occasion is about Blueprints and in particular how our personal Blueprints about health, work, relationship, spirituality, and money, carried out consciously or unconsciously, determine our conditions and Cultures as individuals, in family, at our work place, and as nations…

Thanks for visiting and stay tuned…

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J x

On the other side of comfortable...

I don't follow the news, I haven't for about seven years. I find there is always someone ready to share the unpleasant news of the world without immersing myself in additional sources of external negativity.  I believe developing strength of mind and emotions, eliminating all forms of fear, and designing and experiencing my "ideal" life is good for me and the good for others.

On the weekend however it was brought to my attention that apparently things are pretty “terrible” here in Australia in terms of job cuts of late. I was told folks are really hurting and there was a speculation of how much worse things are likely to get over the next 12 to 18 months. I also heard that members of our community collecting the dole (government benefits) are required to start passing drug tests to collect their money - a move that was predicted to result in an increase in violence, theft, and other heinous activities.

On the other side of this same story I saw opportunity; opportunity for growth and progression. All conditions hold this duality - greater lack, limitation and contraction as well as improvement, betterment and expansion.

Even in the poorest of conditions people can become comfortable.  If lack is all that someone knows through their conditioning they may not know any different. Those that do recognise that there is another way to live and experience life may have also been taught that those better off are greedy, not nice people, or any number of attached limiting beliefs.

When I was doing it tough financially, emotionally, and/or spiritually, I was unaware of the alternative options available to me.   I lived in the comfort zone of doing without and discrediting those that had more - despite ever increasing feelings of frustration.

From my experience and observations we each have a comfort zone; a zone that, based on our conditioning, learnt behaviours and beliefs determines our behaviours and reactions to events and conditions.  Unless and until this zone is pushed upon in a way that may result in even greater lack and contraction, it is highly unlikely we will look for and consider, let alone adopt, a whatever it takes attitude to change our circumstances. Naturally these limits are different for everyone and this is why we have a planet of extremes and great contrast.

On hind side, I can see why it took me the time it did to apply deeply the wisdoms Anthony and I discovered through our study and coaching - namely because I was still in my financial, health and relationship comfort zones. It wasn't until these boundaries were all pushed to new limits, consisting of a magnitude of lack and limitation that caused me to metaphorically and occasionally literally scream "enough is enough", "no more of this...", "I'm done", that I would reach the cross road that in one direction read, "this way to check-out of life" and in the other, "this way to Live the Life you Love." I'm a girl with gusto! :)

Whenever I'm not achieving desired outcomes today, and experiencing contraction, I immerse myself yet deeper into the laws that govern us by monitoring even closer my Thoughts, Feelings, Words and Actions.

I find it beneficial to consider occasionally that if I had been born into another family, here, or anywhere in the world, I too could have experienced even greater lack, limitation and contraction then I did.  When I think of any person whose conditions I abhor I know that I too have the capacity to think, feel, speak and act as they do.

We are all expressing a concept of our self and it wasn't until I changed who I believed myself to be that my world began to confirm the change.

From Neville Goddard I heard that "I may conceive myself to be a rich man, a poor man, a beggar man or a thief, but the center of my being remains the same regardless of the concept I hold of myself.  At the center of manifestation there is only one I AM manifesting in legions of forms or concepts of itself and “I am that I am”."  I felt this to be true.

By my desire to experience a more abundant and prosperous life and to be a greater expression of that Life, initially at least, my conditions appeared to worsen. Things have a tendency to look and feel like they are falling apart before they come together.

I now know that this happens because I knowingly or unknowingly call into my space all that is unlike what I decide. In doing so I give myself an opportunity to be that which I decided and desired.

In the absence of that which is not,
that which is, is not.
~ Neale Donald Walsch

When committed to living an ideal life, contraction is always followed by expansion: and the degree of contraction is determined by our knowledge and application of the laws that govern us.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. ~ Proverbs 23:7

So, what lives on the other side of comfortable…? Opportunity! Stupendous opportunity!

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Change for Goodness Sake (Part 2 of 2)

While the concepts I shared in the previous post (Part 1) are simple and purposely repetitive, i.e. that thoughts, feelings, words and actions (TFW&A) produce our desirable and undesirable experiences, we are prone to dismiss the simple things in life to our detriment.  However, while indeed they are simple, they are not always easy...

Our pre-programed beliefs and values, which are continually reinforced by our conditions, have a tendency to govern our experiences.  This is why my body developed an undesirable condition in the form of muscle pain and tightness between my shoulder blades last Wednesday afternoon (29/8/2012).  Knowing what I now know, I was able to begin the releasing process immediately by recognising the old program that caused it. These were to do with not feeling supported and "getting stuck in [thinking about] all that stuff back there".  I was focussing on what I haven't done or achieved rather than focussing on what it feels like to be living my ideal life now.  Through the love and skill of my world class change agent/coach Anthony, I was reminded that "Life always supports me and I am free to move forward with love in my heart".  In shifting my attention and again monitoring my TFW&A, by Friday morning (31 Aug) I was free of that condition.

It seems remarkable to me that once upon a time I would have dealt with this undesirable condition for weeks, if not months.  I may have had another bout of depression, swallowed umpteenth anti-inflammatories, additional pain relief for the headaches and migraines, been so annoyed I would have undoubtedly come up with a cold sore and attended numerous Osteopath treatments as well.  SUCH DRAMA!!

One of the reasons I have come to understand why change is not considered or experienced as easy or elegant initially is because our conscious mind tells us continually that what we desire is not yet so - which, by the way, is part of its function.  It also tells us when things are so.  The fact that our ideal conditions are not current is not the cause of the conscious mind so much as part of the guidance system for where we are up to.  It operates from our five physical senses, but that's not all there is.

The sub-conscious mind, the realm of feeling, when not engaged independently and with intention, supports the conscious mind attracting like conditions that we then experience consciously.  So, when I run the story that a thing is not so, over and over, by giving any aspect of it my attention via my TFW&A, I make it more so.  Simply put, what I focus on expands.

By engaging the sub-conscious mind independently and with intention it does not need the ideal conditions to be present to believe them possible or true now.  The way I engage the sub-conscious mind is by feeling the feelings of my wishes fulfilled!  I focus my TFW&A on the desired condition being true for me now.

This sets the cogs in motion for the manifestation of my desire into form and, by the natural Law of Growth, I became the person I need to be in order to do and to have my ideal outcomes.

By releasing my addiction to how something must play out, even in the minutest way, I concur that I don't know the intricacies of Creation and that I am part of something Greater than myself.  We are told in scripture that "all things we ask in prayer, believing, we will receive”, and that "His ways are past finding out".  I believe these statements to be so because I also believe that creation is complete - meaning there are no circumstances, desires, objects, or conditions that I can think of that do not have the ways and the means to manifest.  There are many things I enjoy in life that I cannot fathom the workings or production of and enjoy them anyway like electricity, gravity, and oxygen to name a few…

So, I can come to see and rest assured that anything I give my attention to, feel deeply about, AND believe to be true, in the now, is guaranteed to evolve into matter in this time-space existence.  This is the training (the perfect practice), the reprogramming (the necessity to obtain new information and fake it till I make it), and the Faith (the honest belief) required to experience good, joyful change/evolution.

It doesn't happen this way because I say so.  It happens this way because it has been written about for millennia.  It happens this way because science confirms the physical aspects of this process (such as thoughts are energy), as do all the sacred scriptures of the world, and because some seven billion human inhabitants of which I proudly call myself one are living proof of it every moment of their/our existence. 

We are all at Cause for the conditions before us, individually and collectively, and we are and can continue to Change for Goodness Sake ;)

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Change for Goodness Sake (1 of 2)

I've been referring to change a lot lately and it's no coincidence - not that I believe in coincidences but that's another post.

As a race or species we are told by numerous sources that we are undergoing monumental change on every level of our existence.  Change that is beyond the detection of physical science because these changes are not only of a physical nature...they are predominantly of the Universal kind.  How do I know for sure whether or not this change is happening?  Because I am experiencing great change, in some shape or form, first hand, everyday.

Further, change is one of the main ingredients for producing our highest expression as human beings (human excellence) and human excellence is a subject of great interest to us here at Universal Truths.  We have come to believe, with everything in us, that change means evolution and evolution means Life. And Life lived in excellence, as the Sages of the Ages have taught us, is a Life truly worth living!

Whenever I entertain any doubt about whether change is good or bad, I remind myself that it is absolutely great because whatever is happening, regardless of its appearance, is happening for my highest good.  I can say this with conviction because I have begun reaping the rewards of years of training to refocus my attention toward my good and now recognise more and more that in reality there is nothing but this Goodness – it just so happens to include a vast array of contrast from which I can differentiate and select.

Like billions of others getting around on this extraordinary planet we call Earth, I wasn't always so sure or so clear about this concept.  Then, AND in the occasional now moments of living life, my doubt becomes apparent when I again function from the place of limited information and beliefs.  In doing so I reap the consequences of that limited thinking by producing undesirable conditions.

Through study, implementation and experience I have come to know that my conditions are not only a direct response to my thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, but they are 100% accurate, although not 100% exact - here's what I mean...

A reason why I haven't to-date instantly received millions of dollars in lottery prizes, engaged specific companies to share our services with, hooked up with people that look like this and act like that, cured ailments and illnesses this way by this time, or occupied a CBD abode in that building with this address, is because these are all a matter of how.   What I have learnt to do instead is open channels and receive big, happy, financial surprises, engage with large iconic Australian and global companies, meet and know many lovely and interesting folks, and focus on health and other desirable conditions.  And, how Life played out the details of these experiences through me, was not in ways I could have expected nor requested.

I’ve since learnt that how is the desire/Will of Life Itself and thank goodness this is so because it certainly makes things easier, more elegant, and far quicker than anything I could have produced myself.  Life has the means and the ways for how to manifest what we desire that is beyond finding out.

My role, as I now understand it, in the change/evolution process is to contemplate what and not deviate until what next activities (what we also refer to as Divinely Inspired Actions) appear in my consciousness.

To continue the process that starts with a thought, idea, inkling, or desire, I contemplate and hold my thoughts and feelings on what it actually feels like to be, do and have the details of that condition now.  I am continually becoming more and more disciplined in what thoughts I entertain and what I’m feeling because I now know this is part of the creative process; for the production of desirable and undesirable conditions.

An example of what thinking in order to change my condition of not enough money was to contemplate instead what it actually felt like now that I have (note: not "going to have" meaning its coming, but "now have") more than enough of the substance called money or currency to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and with who I want?  And, yes indeed, wealth includes much more than money!  No matter what stage of wealth we are demonstrating or expressing today, there is always more available...and for very good reason.

Regarding an ideal job, an example of this what thinking to manifest a change in my conditions is to feel deeply who I am being, what I am doing, and what I have, now that I am providing a service that contributes to my joy, and that is good for many.  When I thought about, and took action towards, providing a particular service because of what I could earn, and the money dilemmas this could solve, I earned little and often found the related activities arduous.  Now that I'm focused on providing a service because of the value I am and can yet provide, my income streams have opened up and money has arrived from a variety of unexpected channels.  A key here was to recognise the true Source of my supply – yet another topic for another time.

Regarding what thinking and an ideal relationship, I changed this by replacing my thoughts of being single and the looming doom of failure, distrust, and disappointment in any shape or form with my fairytale outcomes.  Today, I continue to change/evolve it by changing my own thoughts and feelings and by becoming the person I wish to be with, thereby attracting my perfect mirror as my reflection.  In my opinion, intimate relationships are most telling of where we are up to in our personality and its expression  - physically, mentally and spiritually, when viewed and conducted in an enlightened manner.  Anthony reveals to me areas to be healed and refined and the more I did and continue to do this, the more beautiful my mirror image becomes, literally and metaphorically.

My role, as I've come to understand and live it in the game of life, is to differentiate and select from the array of available life experiences.  In other words it is to decide what I desire to be, do, and have by contemplating what those conditions and experiences would feel like if they were true for me right now.  By holding these visions and imaginary experiences as true, I am breathing Life into them and playing my perfect part.  The fake it till you make it phrase and perfect practice are vital concepts when playing the change game.  Even scripture tells us to "call things that are not as though they were." 

Let's keep changing for Goodness sake...

until I post again...
Love the Life you Live
J x

Times they are a changing...

I have learnt to embrace change. I don't always love it but I certainly have made change my friend.

In my "past life", prior to the last seven years :o), I loathed change.  In my unconscious attempt to control everyone and everything, not in a conscious neurotic sort of way but from an unconscious place of deep fears, change represented uncertainty.  I found it scary, unpredictable and not always in my best interest.

These days I know that change is certain and
I view it as an ever ready portal
through which all my undesirable conditions can be transformed.

During my recent years of great personal transformation, it was a surprise to me just how many aspects of my life and myself I didn't like. The more I chose to shine the light on areas of myself and my life, the more I found I was less than content with.

Learning what we've learnt along the way, I got to change much about myself.  As I did I found that when I achieved the next version of "me" in an area I considered to be ideal, I would realise yet more was available, if I so desired.  I came to understand that not only can I continually and endlessly imagine other, grander versions of ideal, for ever aspect of my life, but that it is in harmony with Life Itself to do so.

It has become known to me at a cellular level that my number one purpose for existing at all is to partake in the Great Plan of Life/Evolution which by definition is "a gradual process in which something changes into a different and usually more complex or better form." *

Last weekend marked the "next step" of significant change for Anthony and I yet again. While most weekends do, the difference this time is that I wish to share the planning, the process, and the progress via this space.

The areas upon which the Light is currently being shone includes: our body composition (or personal physical expression), our expression via our home, and the manner and roles through which we express ourself in areas of service.

As I have blogged and posted in the past, planning precedes performance.  So, last weekend was when I put keyboard to screen and produced my latest "What" document. From a place of uncritical observation, I listed "What" conditions I am currently producing/receiving (Keys: Awareness + 1).  I then asked and noted, "What do I now desire?" (Key No. 2), and this elegantly led me too, "What" my new focus needs to be on (Key No. 3).

I also took some current stats in terms of my height, weight and measurements. To accompany these I took some now photos which I'm also doing with the cabin (our home). I intend to upload these on weekends or when the tools of the trade permit me to do so more regularly with ease. Whilst the body shots will be conservative for professional purposes they will reveal enough to document my progress.

And what does this have to do with manifesting an inner city abode or becoming a company culture change agent, you might ask? Everything of course! Absolutely everything as we'll come to see...

until I post again...
Love the Life you Live
J x

* source: meaning of evolution

Entering into the Spirit of It

Now back to the matter of a complimentary abode in the city...

It was in Judge Thomas Troward's Dore Lectures that I first read about Entering into the Spirit of a thing.  Below are a variety of extracts from the Lecture of the same name.  Before reading them I would like to give you a tip that may assist you experience the true value of this material written in the first decade of the 1900s.  As this blog suggests, when you read these lines do so when you have a moment of quiet to read the words with care, and feel the feeling that is at the back of each word.  Imagine what the author felt as he wrote and spoke these words; and - from a place of uncritical observation - I invite you to notice what feelings they elicit within you:

"The Spirit is that which gives life and movement to anything, in fact it is that which causes it to exist at all.”

“The creative process in the first instance is purely a matter of feeling.”

“Since the Spirit is Life-in-itself, its feeling can only be for the fuller expression of Life.”

“It is this original feeling that we need to enter into, because it is the fons et origo [source and origin] of the whole chain of causation which subsequently follows.”

“...since the desire to bestow the greater fullness of joyous life can only be described as Love, we can sum up the whole of the feeling which is the original moving impulse in the Spirit as Love and Beauty -

...the Spirit finding expression through forms of beauty in centres of life, in harmonious reciprocal relation to itself."

"If we could only so enter into the Spirit as to make it personally IN OURSELVES what it evidently is in ITSELF, the magnum opus [the great work] would be accomplished.”

“This is a generalised statement of the broad principle by which Spirit expands from the innermost to the outermost, in accordance with a Law of tendency [natural Law of Growth] inherent in itself."

So far, so great right!? While there is a WHOLE lot more to what Troward has to say on this subject, the more I read the more I see patterns of wisdom and instructions guiding me toward the manner in which we turn thought forms and our imaginings into matter and that is - through the recognition that Spirit is creating the conditions through me as an Individual Placeholder in the Great Plan of Life [a form of beauty and centre of life]. 

We are each fully equipped and integral vehicles through which Spirit/Life evolves!  However, for us to become demonstrations of this Truth and utilise the Loving Might and Ability of Life's potential, which can only operate in this physical/third dimension through us, we must first recognise and believe this to be a Truth. 

Now, if this “living an ideal life” business was easy, every man and his dog would be doing it!  However the only reason it isn’t easy is because of our prior conditioning – that is beliefs and decisions about Life and how It operates that are incomplete and limiting.  How’s it going for you so far?  Are your current beliefs about yourself and Life serving you, and all your affairs, well?

The reason Anthony and I looked for what else people were writing, saying, and doing to live a more ‘ideal’ life was because the information we had wasn’t cutting it – in any area of our life (home, work, relationships).  And it certainly wasn’t bestowing upon us the greater fullness of joyous living that can only be described as Love and Beauty. 

I am delighted to share however that these days Life is expressing itself more lovingly and beautifully through us…and it is certainly becoming easier and easier to Be this way.

“This means realising our life as drawn direct from the Originating Spirit; and if we now understand that the Thought or Imagination of the Spirit is the great reality of Being, and that all material facts are only correspondences, then it logically follows that what we have to do is to maintain our individual place in the Thought of the Parent Mind."

On the Universal Truths Facebook Page this week I shared another of a number of quotes that come up as reminders/affirmations on my phone daily – some of which have been coming up for in excess of 110 days.  This one reads, "I give thanks for already having received on the invisible, and make active preparation for receiving on the visible."

Over this weekend, and in my upcoming posts, I'll be developing ways to share exactly what I'm thinking and doing to actively prepare to receive our additional dwelling in Brisbane – well, to the extent that I can in 700-1000 words at a time.  Perhaps I’ll add some video blogging along the way..?  I'll also be writing a whole lot more in the coming weeks as I acquire a tool of the trade to support this overwhelming desire to write, write, write and share, share, share.

until my next post
Live the Life you Love
J.  x

source: The Dore Lectures

One thing is for Certain

 
The company with whom I'm currently engaged is in the throes of massive transformation. No surprises there given my belief that everything and everyone, in my unique perspecitve of the world, is in some form or another a reflection of my Self. : )

The greatest corporate transformation I've experienced to-date was when the Melbourne aviation office I was engaged with from 1998 to 2004 outsourced its products and services resulting in the office's closer and redundancy of all team members.

During the closure period, around August to December, my business success and human potential studies were in their infancy.  They had progressed enough however to gain an intellectual understanding that, in Truth, "Life is happening through me, not to me".

That small family of 10, part of a global company employing in excess of 25,000, united by consciously or unconsciously agreeing on a couple of key concepts including;

• One Thing for Certain is...Change; and
  
  
• Thoughts and Attitudes play a big part in our current change experiences and in our next professional engagement, our home life, our health, and goodness knows what else, now and in the future...

The outcome: every member of that family stayed until the final day and immediately transitioned to roles we considered to be an advancement for one reason or another.

Another major factor I believe contributed to that outcome was the leadership capabilities and competencies of our Managing Director. More about these another time - they're important!

On my newest stage, I find myself surrounded by more lovely people.  In my immediate vicinity there are 26 of them. My experience is that they are warm, friendly, professional, fun loving, family oriented, and highly intelligent people in their fields.

Late last week, following an office group function, five guys (amongst them leaders from our team) were chatting. Not too long after joining them to say hello, I asked the group a question... It went something like;

So, who here thinks they'll still have a job in 6 to 12 months? :|

My conscious mind, the one that operates in conjunction with my five physical senses, wants to dedicate the next couple of paragraphs to justifying why I asked the question in this manner, just as it briefly attempted to do at the time. Yet, when I invite my sub-conscious mind to contribute a perspective it offers something quite different...

My sub-conscious mind, the part that operates in conjunction with my feelings enables me to have an emotional attachment with the people I'm around, in fact people in general these days, that springs from a base of Love.  From that place my question resembles something more like;

"This is a big time for you guys, most of you are husbands and fathers, with homes and bills to pay, children to educate, lives to plan, relationships to be enjoyed. What are you making of this time and job security?" : )

Some of these guys have been with the company for a decade or more.  Fortunately, they are sharp and fast and got my intent real quick so we went on to have a candid conversation for the last few minutes of the gathering.

It was great to discover that these guys are not just colleagues, they're mates.  I loved they're honest sharing.  One colleague expressed it was Certainty he desired.  A knowing which way things are going to go - one way or the other.  They were frank in their understanding that new blood often brings known blood with them to the table - people they have worked with in the past.  So they most want to know where they stand.

When I asked if it really was Certainty they sought, another colleague suggested that it's Transparency in terms of simply being kept informed.

I agreed, I believe Transparency is paramount when people do not yet have the understanding and experience that we are creating our own reality and that in truth job security is not up to anyone or anything outside our self.  In this interim, Transparency forms part of the foundation of basic respect and is a two way street.

By the end, our conversation left me contemplating two Certainties...the first is as this post implies, Change is Certain. The second certainty is that we are always in transition and there is an easy and elegant manner for this transition to occur.

I believe company culture and company success, like individual personalities and our ability to prosper, are external expressions of our internal beliefs and values.

The significant Change that will determine this company
and individual's outcomes are the changes that are going on within.

Now, regarding Getting into the Spirit of my city abode...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

The Waiting Game

A blog about Manifestation

The greatest fascination I have currently, regarding the Law of Attraction, New Thought, or Mental Science, is the speed at which it takes to manifest our desired objects, relationships and conditions.

Is there a way to determine or influence how long it takes for our "stuff" to show up?

I honestly believe there is, and one of the ways I am applying and improving this process is by gaining a greater understanding of the Natural Law of Growth as well as getting into the Spirit of a Thing.

Allow me to explain my interpretation of the Natural Law of Growth concept with these examples...

Simply put, if my desire is to draw to myself an ideal role, optimum health, a gazillion dollars, or a fabulous relationship, I must first become this person in my imagination.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. ~ Proverbs 23:7

In doing so I will Grow into these roles naturally by attracting or drawing to me the right and perfect resources (people, places, information, funds etc.) and conditions (objects, opportunities, roles, learings, timing etc.) required to Be this person, Do these activities, and Have these experiences.

While today marks day four of my "ideal role" (a stepping stone to my grander aspirations of service), I rehearsed the role on and off (a significant inhibitor to speedy manifestation) for about six months in my imagination prior to it showing up in our three dimensional existence. I have been practicing on stage for three more months and only now beginning to gain some real clarity about how this is contributing to what my version of highest personality and "ideal" is.

During this time I have been observing a variety of feelings, especially in the past few weeks, and the ones I am specifically interested in right now are in regard to the three hours of travel required to get to and from my place of service.

When I consider "what's ideal" for the next phase of this journey, it is evident after 12 weeks that three hours travel, even though I utilise these moments productively, is not "ideal" for five days straigt, week in week out.

This part of the process we call Awareness. I am Aware that I would rather a different travel schedule.

My desired outcome in this role is to provide exceptional service. In doing so, I believe it will generate feelings of appreciation for my knowledge, skills and talents and also reflect desirable conditions of being highly valued - a reflection of the amount and style of value I am and will continue offering and delivering.

In Being and Doing what I next desire...what would be really ideal...is to Have access to an inner city abode, as well as the haven and expanse that the mountain cabin provides. This way, I can achieve greater flexibility in relation to office hours enabling me to perform my duties and provide the Executive I support with even greater service and value.

My first tendency when I thought of this was still to consider "how" this was going to happen. Although I know "how" is not my responsibility, I am now recognising that there are degrees of "how". Recognising and surrendering all attempts to control or dictate "how" a desired condition objectifies itself is what I'm addressing right now.

My role in this glorious, delectable Play called "Life" is to contemplate my undesirable condition from an uncritical place of observation.

Instead of thinking and saying things like, "we may not be able to afford it" and "it's not like someone is going to just give us a place", instead I clearly define "what". What's ideal? What do I now desire?

Here's what I am doing at present to surrender and release "how", in all its disguises.

An initial thought that came to me about a city abode was, "I desire a fully furnished apartment, on a top floor, free of charge."

By the natural Law of Growth this has evolved into, "My Loving Father/Mother willing provides me with the perfect abode, in the perfect place, in the perfect way, under grace, knowing that my deepest desires include:

• To be in walking distance to the office
• To have access to a large private balcony or private rooftop space
• That the premises is new and fresh or aged and funky (warehouse style)
• Lots of natural lighting
• Reliable hot water, heating and cooling
• Reliable Internet access
• Easy access; and
• A car space

That or Better!

And, in a way I do not know, you do not know, no man knows,
it will harden into fact!

In my next post I'll share what I do to get into the Spirit of this thing called "My ideal city abode!"

until I post again...
Live a Life you Love
J. x

Imagining for Another

I was going to share about the Natural Law of Growth today and used my morning hour train ride to tell you how I've been applying this to manifest an "ideal" next step regarding my new corporate role. How quick an hour passes by these days. 

In the meantime however, a subject of far greater urgency came to the forefront and so the hour trip home, and some, have been dedicated to this matter of monumental importance.   

You see Gabriella Salmon desires a man! And she's written to the Universe to bring her love forth. That's right, my Clayton's Lil Sis (aka GabStar, and a host of other terms of endearment) assured me today, and no doubt others, in her Post "A Single Story" that she is soooo ready to receive a partner that to save her from bursting at the seams, I'm sharing instead about the importance of being able to "Imagine for One Another".

Neville Goddard, in and amongst a plethora of other outstanding new thought thinkers, who assures us that "Imagination is the only reality".  He goes so far as to say that it is the one and only Cause of Life and all it's presenting conditions.  He also tells us to give all our attention to the assumption that a thing is so, because all responsibility to make it so is completely removed from our shoulders. 

 

"You do not have to make a thing so, it IS so. You appropriate what is already fact, and walk in the assumption that it is, and in a way that you do not know, I do not know, no man knows, it becomes objectified in your world."

My partner and most beautiful friend, Anthony, Co-founder of Universal Truths, is a man who has elicited the best-worst and the best-of-my-best from me. He has also "Imagined for me" on many, many occasions.  Whenever I speak of desiring a better condition from something or someone, and knowing the importance of being able to move away from desiring and toward gratitude, he holds me in "ideal", he Imagines well for me and holds the feeling of the wish fulfilled for me; as I do for him.

On our own this is not always a simple task.  After all, we are emotionally invested in outcomes and are not always able to detach from the temporary conditions that show the absence of what we desire.  Having studied these concepts deeply, and tried and tested them with convincing results, I am going to join with the young Gabriella by Imagining "ideal" for her - and I invite you to do the same. 

We don't have to know someone personally to do this. It's as simple as thinking about, or imagining what it would be like when any person's deepest desire transpires. It's as simple as choosing a final scene of sorts that would indicate to you that a young, passionate woman has found a new love. 

In doing so there is also something in this for each of us...it's a great opportunity to turn our thoughts away from our own all consuming world for a moment and practice experiencing the joy, expectation and gratitude of "wishes fulfilled" through someone else.

We are told that as we sow, so shall we reap.  The Subconscious Mind doesn't recognise whether what we give our attention to is for us or for another; it simply attracts a vibrational match. So while we are assisting someone else get what they want we are also priming ourselves, vibrationally, to get what we want. 

For me this now means that every time I hear, see, think or speak of Gabbie, I will say "and her beautiful partner". I'm beginning now to imagine her smiling and laughing a lot. I'm visualising us speaking on the phone about him and being visited on the mountain by them. We'll read posts of their adventures together as they grow and become.

I believe there is no faster way to grow and become a greater version of ourselves then in relationship. And so, my desire for Gabbie is her desire for herself. I know and trust it's for her highest good, come what may.

I see you Gabbie, just as I see others and hold them in "ideal". I'm imagining well for you - oh she who is now metamorphosing from her steel shelled cacoon, to the essence of power and presence that can only be found through the display of femininity, gentleness and beauty. 

Rest well fair maiden for your knight in shining armor awaits to arouse you. [pun intended] :)

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

A Leap of Faith

In this play called Life, of which we are all actors, I am reminded by all the Greats to "begin with the end in mind." I am also reminded that this play is not just about the final scene, or destination, but about the journey.

It's no wonder, when I didn't know where I was going, that I continually felt as though I was going round in circles, lost, without direction and purpose.

Yesterday however, after more than eight years, I am once again an "employee" having been offered a full time, permanent role. Such an interesting concept and process that I'll share in more depth in upcoming posts.

To some, this new role play will seem like I have taken a backward step; to others perhaps it will seem like a lucky break; and to yet others it will seem like a range of bad and good, including neutral outcomes given the vast spectrum of perceptions from which we all view the world.

At one stage of my journey, in recent years, "faith" was described as having "honest belief". When I read this definition I found it both fascinating and liberating. Through my contemplation of it I began to experience that when I "honestly believed" in or about something I desired for my life, with it came the "faith" that the arrival of a particular experience or object is absolutely inevitable.

To me this next season is a "Leap of Faith" because while I don't feel that the details of this role are one hundred percent "ideal", I "honestly believe" I am in the right place, with the right people, doing the right thing. This is without doubt my perfect next step on my journey toward an interim, and therefore, my greater destination.

Not all that long ago, when this sense of "knowing" wasn't present neither was my faith in the possibility that I would achieve or experience favourable conditions of any real significance.

I knew little about setting goals and nothing of the satisfaction experienced in achieving them. Instead I lived life trying to avoid more disappointment.

Now I know that without goals, without clear DERs (Desired End Results) for every area of my life, it is impossible to experience the peace, joy, contentment, and often exhilaration that I now experience in honestly believing in the inevitable appearance of my desires in this three dimensional existence of ours.

It was Troward or Holliwell or perhaps Neville that wrote, "for a thing to be true, there are facts to be had." To my delight, there are many facts that can be found in the all encompassing Law of Spirit; making it as reliable as the sciences, music and mathematics.

So from having little to no DERs for my life, I have since selected and differentiated from the buffet that is available to me. I observed and continue to observe what I was, did, and had, with who and what I now desire to be, do and have.

To get the cogs of faith or honest belief in motion, that something or someone is going to manifest in the right and perfect time, I now start with the end in mind. I take time to give Life to my successes (DERs), the successes of my beautiful "everything" Anthony, those nearest and dearest, the planet, and this new relationship/partnership often; and I will continue to hold these "ideals" until their inevitable arrival, and some...

During this journey I began to honestly believe that there was a power greater than me governing my existence, I began to honestly believe that there was more I wanted and needed to know about myself and my potential, I began to honestly believe that I wasn't too late, too old, too fat, too unattractive, too unlovable, too poor, too unwell, too busy or too anything to honestly believe that I could, from the seemingly destitute places I have stood, to contemplate a new and exhilarating destination.

If it seems like I have taken another Leap of Faith, Truth is I have and I am right on track.

Faith is teaching me more and more everyday that through the correct planning, assessment of how I am tracking, the collection of more information when I find myself in unfamiliar territory, and then heading in the direction that looks and feels right to me, I can and will "without doubt" and "with absolute faith" assist others get what they desire while I get what I desire.

Today I wish you faith, a kind of honest belief that whatever your current undesirable conditions present, that they are temporary. As you honestly believe something else is possible, these too shall pass and be replaced with more desirable conditions in a heart beat, or a life time, depending on the concepts and results I'll continue to share and the reality of natural laws akin to the topic up next, the natural "Law of Growth".

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Turning the mundane into the magical

Administration is my professional game. It's where I started my professional career in 1987 and something that has remained my career focus for in excess of 25 years.

Having spent five years full time and a portion of everyday since, another two years so far, dedicated to the study and implementation of human potential and business success, administration was the last role I thought I would return to during or following the attainment of such powerful, life altering information and experiences. Yet...at this very moment...I am in discussion regarding a permanent role as an executive assistant to a senior group executive within the banking and finance sector.

Why is it happening this way? Well, I believe it's due to two fundamental concepts; one being that 'how' is not my responsibility, and the other is due to the natural Law of Growth - which I've touched on in earlier posts and will surely touch on again in future ones.

Over the years I have gained an understanding of what I believe is "my higher purpose for being here", and this has without doubt been key to experiencing more and more moments of peace, contentment and joy in my journey to 'evolve' my body, mind and soul. Prior to this recognition, sustainability of these desirable states of consciousness were few and far between, regardless of what I was doing.

Now, to the best of my ability, I spend as many moments of my day in recognition that more important than what I'm doing is the way I'm doing it, aka who I Am being. By this I mean awareness on the thoughts I'm having, what I'm feeling, the relationships I'm developing, and the way I move around etc. This along with the firm belief that these things are taking me closer and closer, moment by moment, thought by thought, word by word, and step by step towards yet a higher concept of myself, is absolutely what turns the ordinary into the extraordinary and the mundane into the magical for me on a daily and weekly basis.

With the understanding that my greatest desires are attained not through what I am doing, but rather through who I am being, I practice being a Company Culture Change Agent everyday now - and have been for the past nine weeks. A daily and weekly focus on an interim professional goal towards my bigger, breathtaking, most inspirational goal for which I continue to be on this planet and in this realm to experience.

For the most part I'm absolutely loving what I'm doing because of who it gives me the opportunity to be and where I believe it is taking me. In regards to those not so enjoyable moments...well, I use them as part of my contextual field from which to reflect and revise using our Universal Truths - Awareness + 1, 2, 3 process. By doing so, I believe I am continually transmuting my undesirable conditions and experiences into my future extraordinary and magical moments of now.

until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Start now! Start with what you've got!

For a couple of years I have had the urge to write a 'live' book. By 'live' I mean a book that is about now, a book that grows and transforms as I do.

Each time I commence such writings, and commence I have on at least three other occasions, I reach a point and hit pause. I've done this for many reasons along the way, some reasons are practical while others are emotional. Some are made through conscious awareness while others, because I am unable to define them by words, are made through my unconscious or sub-conscious awareness, the realm of feeling, the realm which for me sometimes takes patience to comprehend and interpret consciously.

I have a Clayton's* little sister who is well into her journey of self-discovery. She is into her fifth day of a 100 day commitment to write. The catalyst, on this occasion, the 'transitioning' of an unfamiliar biological parent from this dimension to another. A process known by many as 'death'.

Her story has moved me in many ways...not just by the obvious impact this most recent event is having in her life, but by her comments in her most recent blog, "She who has faith the size of a mustard seed.", who, like me, is "yearning to read deeply personal accounts of monumental change as it is happening."

My truth says that we are all always in a state of flux/transformation/evolution, and I have felt that having this information "live" and in the "now" would be tremendously useful. I am surrounded by wonderful individuals undergoing a host of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual transformation currently and am always looking for a manner to communicate with them and be of further assistance.

On occasions, I too have been yearning such insight into the 'how' and 'what' someone having a spiritual awakening actually experiences on a day-to-day, week-to-week type basis. How do they apply what they know when the going gets 'tough'? Is it truly possible to grow easily and elegantly and enjoy rapid lasting change? And while there are no doubt many individuals already sharing their journey in their own way, my desire is to be part of the co-creation of a community of individuals who have a close or cosmic connection with others in that community who can all grow together.

While this journey is different for every single traveller, what is the same I believe is the foundation of Truth that emerges. What differs most significantly I believe, and the part that is most exquisite and unique, is our interpretation and application of this Truth.

In my recognition of my Lil Sister, Gabriella Salmon's, invitation to join her in capturing our journeys, I kept hearing the words which have become familiar to me over the years and they are to "Start now! Start with what you've got!" From a practical sense this means no longer waiting for an iPad to arrive to blog, but using my phone instead. It means that in this season of my life I do not have extended periods of time to revise, edit, rework and thoroughly check my spelling and grammar, so at times it will be raw and unpolished. From an emotional sense it means exposing those moments when I am not living in a state of bliss, however it's also being OK with a personality I have put much time and effort into planning and designing as I have come to deeply understand and appreciate the influence my thoughts, words, feelings and actions have on my outcomes. I do have a positive spin on most experiences that I am manifesting in my life, and I am tweaking it along the way as I continually observe myself getting what I desire and I getting things I don't.

So, here I go! Like her, like everyone, I am doing the best I can with the information I have. Like her I yearn to be a demonstration of how the seemingly average, which none of us are and yet our conditioning and daily experiences have a tendency to reiterate, can Live a Life I Love. Like her, I'm starting now and starting with what I've got...body, mind and soul.

until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

* Claytons is the brand name of a non-alcoholic, non-carbonated beverage coloured and packaged to resemble bottled whisky. It was the subject of a major marketing campaign in Australia and New Zealand in the 1970s and 1980s, promoting it as "the drink you have when you're not having a drink".  Therefore, Gabriella is the little sister I have when I don't really have a little sister, not the biological kind anyway (source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claytons)

Planning Precedes Performance

"Keys to a Better Life" 

I often hear individuals say they are desirous of living an "authentic life".

I too was desirous of this and it was my coach, beautiful friend and partner, Anthony, who reminded me that we can’t live anything but an "authentic life". After all, there is no other version of you and me on the planet. We are unique, one of a kind, therefore how could it be that the life we are living, here and now, be anything but authentic?

If this is so, how could it be that we were living authentically and often felt so miserable? What was it about the lives we were leading that felt so incongruent?

As we journeyed we discovered, amongst many things, that many facets of our personality were adopted...

To see how this could be so, let’s take a look at the definition of personality*:

1. The quality or condition of being a person.
2. The totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behaviour, that are peculiar to a specific person.
3. The pattern of collective character, behavioural, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person.

Where did these qualities, conditions, traits, characteristics, behaviours, temperaments, and emotions originate from? Initially at least they were learnt, taught to us, and adopted as we observed and profiled others, thought on things repetitvely, and formed our values and beliefs - consciously or unconsciously.

In the same way all skills, abilities, and expressions are mastered, like crawling, walking, language and so on, we take on these facets of our personality through slow normalcy and repetition.  And, depending on the extent of awareness and practice we dedicate to the task, we become anywhere between poor and extraordinary at expressing them…whether we like them or not.

When enough was enough, we discovered there was no time like the present to plan an ‘ideal’ version of our Self; so plan we did…

• We planned our new personalities
• We planned our ideal future
• We planned our greatest desires for the next year, month, week and day
• And these days we plan about pretty much everything...!

After we plan, we implement…we contemplate and meditate about the next inspired action(s) to take and we go for it! Some days we are better at this than others...but whatever the season, there are two things for sure, one is we never give up and the other is we are always getting better!

Today, we continue to define and refine these plans because there is no doubt in our minds and experience that "Planning Precedes Performance".

When we desire to excel in or at something, we require a plan of excellence to ensure that success because after all, "Like Attracts Like".

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Related post: What's important to you?

* Source: thefreedictionary.com/personality

When I Thought I Had Lost My Mind

"Keys to a Better Life" 

Have you ever had a feeling that you’ve kind of lost sight of yourself? That you’re not sure if your Arthur or Martha? Coming or going? Here or there? Those “What the heck is going on?” moments and “Who the hell Am I?”  I sure have!

These moments were usually preceded or accompanied by a level of intense intolerance and irritation for everything and everyone around me, especially my partner. There was this overarching bewilderment of, “Why is everyone so darn incompetent in life?” yet everything that was not right always seemed to end up being my fault.    

After years of roller coasting in and out of these ‘moments’ I came to the point of feeling “I really don’t want to get out of bed today!” and “oh, what’s the use?”

For the most part, I did keep getting out of bed, until I didn’t.  I assured myself I’d “get over it”, or “it must be that time of the month”, or “what the hell have I got to complain about” and so on. I felt guilty, weak (despite my strong exterior), empty, sad, and lonely. I mostly felt very, very lonely (even though I was usually around others every day and night).

On top of this, life always seemed busy and when I thought life couldn’t possibly get busier, it did.  I felt like a rag doll being pulled from pillar to post yet never seeming to please anyone; no matter how hard I tried. I felt like I was the only one who really put in at work, at home, in maintaining friendships and family relations and yet it seemed it was never enough.

The results?

I became exhausted, fed up, disheartened, frustrated, withdrawn, and unhappy. I suffered with migraines, cold sores, back aches, neck pain, shoulder pain and a host of other undesirable conditions. I felt unappreciated, hopeless, despondent, unloved, and unattractive, and being intimate became the last thing on my mind.

I rode this roller coaster sufficient times to go from seeking a temporary ‘respite’ – a day off as sick leave here and there (which I referred to as “mental health days”), or stringing two or three days together (if I could muster the energy and courage to fetch a doctor's certificate), and sometimes I would go away for weekends. Then, I thought I reached the point of no return and began contemplating a ‘permanent out’!  It wasn't until I reached this point that I changed course and began defining and designing a new ME!

I figured that if I was going to consider ‘checking-out’ of life,
temporarily or permanently,
why wouldn’t I just change everything I didn’t like about it instead?

So I did!

I changed many things! In one way or another, I changed my job, my clothes, my home, my home state, my friends, and even my partner. And while today I have turned these not always pleasant changes into positives, I am writing this post to the friends and loved ones in my life, and to whomever it may concern, who now find themself in their own version of a “what the heck” moment.

As I have written before, we can change the name and the face, the car, the home, the job, and the ‘everything’, within our current environment yet there will remain the one constant in it all…OURSELF!

Friends, the problem is never the problem and when the mirror reflects back at us a version of our self that we are less than delighted with we don’t smash the mirror.

Over the past decade or so I have made it a specialty to recognise patterns in my life. It is what enabled me to overcome manic depression and a bunch of ‘other’ undesirable conditions.  Through activities such as journaling, researching, experimenting, observing, contemplating, and being coached, I began noticing patterns; patterns of thought, patterns of behaviour, and patterns of emotion; all of which ultimately led to patterns of conditions.

My aim, as I began gaining a better understanding of life via new information, activities and experiences, was to derail this roller coaster ride and transition instead from where I was to where I wanted to be in an easy and elegantly manner and with rapid lasting change.

All of these Universal Truth blog posts are dedicated to sharing about the areas Anthony and I addressed, and continue to address, to transition towards living our ‘ideal’ life.

In my next post, I specifically address a significant aspect of this transition and that is that “Planning Precedes Performance”…

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Too Cool For You

"Keys to a Better Life" 

How do I get rid of an old thought?

 
During the week, a friend of Universal Truths said and asked the following:

"I’ve been thinking about something and have a question. I realised that ever since growing up, I carry with me a standard that was past on to me which hasn’t served me any good then and now. It's a process that I recognise is getting in the way of my ability to be appreciative of others.

Growing up, I would take one look at a person and 'measure' their coolness. 

“I got teased when I was younger,
so I go out of my way to make sure I ‘fit in’.”

I have these categories where I put people in certain types of groups: 'people that are way too cool for me'; 'people that are cool enough'; 'people that aren’t so cool but I would still hang out with'; 'people that aren’t cool at all'.

I don’t just do that to others, I do it to myself as well. I put myself in one category as if that’s where I belong.

Today, I know it's getting in the way of feeling free to be me with others I encounter.

“How do I get rid of an old thought?”

Whilst there are a number of discussion points around this undesirable condition, this post has been primarily written to address the question: How do I get rid of an old thought?

The first Universal Truths Key to a Better Life is Awareness. Only by acknowledging or becoming aware that something or someone may no longer be serving our expansion towards living our highest expression, can we do something about it.

Further, the problem is never the problem! The problem here is not that this person had limiting beliefs passed on to them, or that they are unable to fully appreciate others, or that they got teased growing up, or that they categorise themself and others. These are all conditions and whilst many conditions from our past need acknowledgement and forgiveness, they are not today's problem. In fact, I would go so far as to say, there is no problem. Rather, what we have here is another opportunity to ‘feel free to be me’.

A distinction between what we do and what other personal development and psychological approaches do is that the latter often addresses the conditions and asks ‘why’ a lot. Why don’t you appreciate others? Why do you think you got teased? Why don’t you feel cool? And so on… Upon delving into these questions there is often an element of criticism that emerges for one self and others. Also, in our experience ‘why’, in this context, is useless because it is endless…

Instead, at Universal Truths, we turn Key 2 and suggest that once our awareness toward desirable or undesirable conditions has been identified, we become The Great Observer. That is, from a place of uncritical observation we consider ‘what’ impact has this style of thinking had? ‘What’ style of thinking is this? e.g. is it physical or spiritual, contracting or expanding, regressive or progressive?  ‘What’ feelings does this thinking generate? And, ‘what’ conditions did it produce?

Making uncritical observations broadens our awareness enabling us to become better equipped to contain situations, welcome them by understanding there are new gifts about to revealed, address them from the present moment, and progress in an easier, more elegant, and rapid manner.

Key 3 is to Refine our Imagination and is a real key in the ‘how to’ process. The masters tell us that ‘how’ is not our role to play. Rather, our role in the co-creation of our ideal life is to define and refine the ‘what’. 

We change old thoughts, word, actions and conditions by asking questions like, “What do I now desire?  e.g. my desire is to feel free to be me and to appreciate others. What feelings would the accomplishment of these new desires produce? e.g. feelings of freedom and liberty, respect and appreciation, oneness, worthiness etc. Who will this allow me to be? e.g. loving, friendly, fun to be with, relaxed, uniquely expressive. What new conditions will this new way of thinking produce? e.g. I’ll get to meet new and interesting people, enjoy beautiful interaction, and appreciate a variety of personal expressions. I get to express myself freely.

The more consideration and aliveness we give to Key 3 the faster we move from where we are to where and what we next desire to be, to do, and to have. You may wish to review the Phases of Change post for more detail about this process (a link has been provided at the end).

Once we have refined our imagination and given definition and life to the next greatest version of who we wish to be, the fourth and final key in the process is to be Grateful for the inevitable and joyous experiences that are already present, but which we haven’t been able to notice, as well as the new ones now rushing towards us through the natural Law of Growth and Cause of Life.

The moment we imagine what we now desire, the greater part of us, our eternal essence or the Spirit of Life becomes it immediately and through our focussed attention on what we want and how that feels now, we attract from Spirit its correlating matter or form. That is, we attract the like conditions.

So, in summary, my answer to the question, 'how do I get rid of an old thought?' is; by replacing it with a better one. And a process to do so is through the application of the four Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life”.

1. Become aware of it (the undesirable thought and/or correlating condition(s)).
2. Contemplate it from a place of uncritical observation.
3. Refine your imagination by defining what you now desire.
4. Be grateful for its completion by detaching from anything unlike your new desire, focussing on like thoughts, and feeling the feelings of your wishes fulfilled.

Try it for yourself and let us know how you go…

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Helpful Posts: What Vs Why; Phases of Change – A 6 Step Process

Assumptions Harden Info Fact

"Keys to a Better Life"


A Psychological Interpretation of "the Passover"
An Extract from Neville Goddard - Lesson 2
ASSUMPTIONS HARDEN INTO FACT

Neville says: "This Bible of ours has nothing to do with history. Some of you may yet be inclined tonight to believe that, although we can give it a psychological interpretation, it still could be left in its present form and be interpreted literally. You cannot do it. The Bible has no reference at all to people or to events as you have been taught to believe. The sooner you begin to rub out that picture the better.

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Our first story for tonight is found in the Gospel of John. This is a very familiar story, the story of the trial of Jesus. In this Gospel of John it is recorded that Jesus was brought before Pontius Pilate, and the crowd clamored for his life, they wanted Jesus. Pilate turned to them and said:

"But ye have a custom, that I should release unto you one at the Passover;
will ye therefore that I release unto you the King of the Jews? Then cried they
all again, saying, Not this man, but Barabbas. Now Barabbas was a robber."
John 18:39, 40

You are told that Pilate had no choice in the matter, he was only a judge interpreting law, and this was the law. The people had to be given that which they requested. Pilate could not release Jesus against the wishes of the crowd, and so he released Barabbas and gave unto them Jesus to be crucified.

Now bear in mind that your consciousness is God. There is no other God. And you are told that God has a son whose name is Jesus. If you will take the trouble to look up the word Barabbas in your concordance, you will see that it is a contraction of two Hebraic words: BAR, which means a daughter or son - or child, and ABBA, which means father. Barabbas is the son of the great father. And Jesus in the story is called the Saviour, the Son of the Father.

We have two sons in this story. And we have two sons in the story of Esau and Jacob. Bear in mind that Isaac was blind, and justice to be true must be blind folded. Although in this case Pilate is not physically blind, the part given to Pilate implies that he is blind because he is a judge. On all the great law buildings of the world we see the lady or the man who represents justice as being blindfolded.

"Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. " John 7:24.

Here we find Pilate is playing the same part as Isaac. There are two sons. All the characters as they appear in this story can apply to your own life. You have a son that is robbing you this very moment of that which you could be.

If you came to this meeting tonight conscious of wanting something, desiring something, you walked in the company of Barabbas. For to desire is to confess that you do not now possess what you desire, and because all things are yours, you rob yourself by living in the state of desire. My saviour is my desire. As I want something I am looking into the eyes of my saviour. But if I continue wanting it, I deny my Jesus, my saviour, for as I want I confess I am not and "except ye believe that I AM He ye die in your sins." I cannot have and still continue to desire what I have. I may enjoy it, but I cannot continue wanting it.

Here is the story. This is the feast of the Passover. Something is going to change right now, something is going to passover. Man is incapable of passing over from one state of consciousness into another unless he releases from consciousness that which he now entertains, for it anchors him where he is.

You and I may go to physical feasts year after year as the sun enters the great sign of Aries, but it means nothing to the true mystical Passover. To keep the feast of the Passover, the psychological feast, I pass from one state of consciousness into another. I do it by releasing Barabbas, the thief and robber that robs me of that state which I could embody within my world.

The state I seek to embody is personified in the story as Jesus the Saviour. If I become what I want to be then I am saved from what I was. If I do not become it, I continue to keep locked within me a thief who robs me of being that which I could be.

These stories have no reference to any persons who lived nor to any event that ever occurred upon earth. These characters are everlasting characters in the mind of every man in the world. You and I perpetually keep alive either Barabbas or Jesus. You know at every moment of time who you are entertaining.

Do not condemn a crowd for clamoring that they should release Barabbas and crucify Jesus. It is not a crowd of people called Jews. They had nothing to do with it.

If we are wise, we too should clamor for the release of that state of mind that limits us from being what we want to be, that restricts us, that does not permit us to become the ideal that we seek and strive to attain in this world.

I am not saying that you are not tonight embodying Jesus. I only remind you, that if at this very moment you have an unfulfilled ambition, then you are entertaining that which denies the fulfillment of the ambition, and that which denies it is Barabbas.

To explain the mystical, psychological transformation known as the Passover, or the crossing over, you must now become identified with the ideal that you would serve, and you must remain faithful to the ideal. If you remain faithful to it, you not only crucify it by your faithfulness, but you resurrect it unaided by a man.

As the story goes, no man could rise early enough to roll away the stone. Unaided by a man the stone was removed, and what seemingly was dead and buried was resurrected unassisted by a man.

You walk in the consciousness of being that which you want to be, no one sees it as yet, but you do not need a man to roll away the problems and the obstacles of life in order to express that which you are conscious of being. That state has its own unique way of becoming embodied in this world, of becoming flesh that the whole world may touch it.

Now you can see the relationship between the story of Jesus and the story of Isaac and his two sons, where one transplanted the other, where one was called the Supplanter of the other. Why do you think those who compiled the sixty odd books of our Bible made Jacob the forefather of Jesus?

They took Jacob, who was called the Supplanter, and made him father of twelve, then they took Judah or praise, the fifth son and made him the forefather of Joseph, who is supposed to have fathered in some strange way this one called Jesus. Jesus must supplant Barabbas as Jacob must supplant and take the place of Esau.

Tonight you can sit right here and conduct the trial of your two sons, one of whom you want released. You can become the crowd who clamors for the release of the thief, and the judge who willingly releases Barabbas, and sentences Jesus to fill his place. He was crucified on Golgotha, the place of the skull, the seat of the imagination.

To experience the Passover or passage from the old to the new concept of self, you must release Barabbas, your present concept of self, which robs you of being that which you could be, and you must assume the new concept which you desire to express.

The best way to do this is to concentrate your attention upon the idea of identifying yourself with your ideal. Assume you are already that which you seek and your assumption, though false, if sustained, will harden into fact.

You will know when you have succeeded in releasing Barabbas, your old concept of self, and when you have successfully crucified Jesus, or fixed the new concept of self, by simply looking MENTALLY at the people you know. If you see them as you formerly saw them, you have not changed your concept of self, for all changes of concepts of self result in a changed relationship to your world.

We always seem to others an embodiment of the ideal we inspire. Therefore, in meditation, we must imagine that others see us as they would see us were we what we desire to be.

You can release Barabbas and crucify and resurrect Jesus if you will first define your ideal. Then relax in a comfortable arm chair, induce a state of consciousness akin to sleep and experience in imagination what you would experience in reality were you already that which you desire to be.

By this simple method of experiencing in imagination what you would experience in the flesh were you the embodiment of the ideal you serve, you release Barabbas who robbed you of your greatness, and you crucify and resurrect your saviour, or the ideal you desired to express."

unitl next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Who Am I Being?

"Keys to a Better Life" 

"All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you." ~ don Miguel Ruiz

Following a number of conversations and observations recently, I’ve been reminded of how much we are generally conditioned to spend our time discerning who someone else is being. By our comments, often unconsciously, we remark about whether or not we perceive others as being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on…

Over the past decade or so, I have been introduced and reintroduced to the concept, from a plethora of sources, that everyone and everything is my mirror. That is, all things and conditions are a direct reflection of what I think about and radiate about who I am. Having spent many hours contemplating this concept, and integrating it into my life, it became evident to me through these conversations, just how little (if any) time I now spend concerned with or about what or who someone else is being.

Instead, what has transpired is that I have become acutely aware of other people’s self expression but only for the purpose of providing me with a contextual field i.e. when I hear about, read a Facebook post or Blog from, listen to, or have a direct interaction with another, I use what my physical senses are transmitting to revalue and refine who I am being.

As an example, several people have been sharing their challenges and experiences with me in relation to their mothers, some of who are also their children’s grandparent. Our initial response to these conditions, based on our prior conditioning, often puts us in the position of being critical of what the other has said or done - usually a clear indication that a values conflict has occurred – leaving us open to slights, insults or getting sucked into their drama.

When we consider large concepts like, “everyone and everything is a reflection of who I am being”, and begin implementing and testing these concepts throughout our own life, we gain an insight into even larger concepts such as “I am the centre of my universe”. Doing so gives us an opportunity to recognise that everything that has every occurred, is occurring, and will occur is for the sole/soul purpose of causing our expansion and evolution toward a higher expression of the Self, through us.

Rather than reacting to old conditioning and continually drawing to us old and undesirable conditions, we can begin to dissolve them, not by critiquing or judging whether or not someone else is being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on; but rather using their reflection to further become aware of, Who am I being as a … and, when we recognise there may be moments when we too are being impatient, unloving, uncaring, rude, hurtful, ignorant etc. we then get to ask, from a place of uncritical observation, Who do I now wish to be.

In this way, instead of spending our time contemplating who someone ‘should be’, we begin investing our time designing and refining our next best expression of our Self.

Related posts:

Have you been sucked into the Vortex lately?
Judgement Vs Observation
We don’t smash the mirror
God send nothing but angels

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Have you been sucked into a Vortex lately?

"Keys to a Better Life"

Over the past couple of weeks two Facebook (FB) occurrences captured my attention more than others. One was to do with local politics and the other KONY2012.

When the KONY2012 film swarmed FB, I took the time to watch it. I was deeply moved by its contents in a number of internal and external ways. It moved me into action by reviewing related posts on FB by the likes of Oprah Winfrey, Anthony Robbins, Louise L. Hay, Wayne Dyer and others. I visited the Invisible Children and related websites. I reviewed a number of related FB pages, including videos and YouTubes posted and, by my internal response to what I viewed, I was lead to ‘Like’ Pages and repost the KONY2012 film as well as the Invisible Children’s LRA Defection Flier video.

My contact with this FB occurrence made me feel uplifted, not by the atrocities the film reveals of course but by the commitment, passion, devotion, focus, determination, courage, unity, compassion, and generally progressive manner these individuals are demonstrating themselves.

The other event that occurred last week was that I came across a FB discussion between a local council candidate and local media representative.  Their dialogue also moved me however it didn’t generate any of the feelings the KONY2012 film did.  From this representation I wanted to distance myself, was deflated, disheartened, and saw no signs of how this style of self representation and discourse did any good for the individuals, or the community.

Since then, I have seen posts and a video contradicting the Invisible Children cause and all of the ones I have seen are again what I consider to be a contracted version of our highest representation.  The stance taken is to attack, belittle, put down, make demands of, and generally discredit another while in one manner or another promote self.  Not to mention the angry, attacking, often profane, ignorant comments individuals post with the intent to also judge and discredit.  Given we are all doing the best we can with the information we have, perhaps this is their way of feeling better about themselves and to continue using those outside of them as a distraction from looking within.

Regardless of the situation, we each have our own process for discerning whether a thing is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ as well as the ability to exercise our intuition on such matters; both of which are more easily accomplished when our personal values and personality are being progressively refined. The negative folk amongst us always find negative evidence to support ones views while the positive amongst us the positive views - for the axioms “birds of a feather flock together” and “like attracts like” are truisms for a reason.

Regardless of what we bring to our attention, what matters most is how we choose to respond to it. This is the difference between being an observer for the purpose of defining and refining our self, or getting sucked into the vortex and making a judgement about what others are doing and who they are being.  Instead of getting sucked into the vortex of disharmony and chaos, another option is to ask our self, “What can I learn from this situation?” and “What does this situation teach/tell me about myself.”

By doing so we go from Awareness to Uncritical Observation and from a place of uncritical observation, we can choose and Desire what we perceive to be a better definition of personal expression. Once defined, by Focussing our attention on what we now want, and expressing Gratitude for its inevitable fulfilment, in time that desire refines our personality and comes into expression.

Do not imagine anything but good,
because under the law of thought combined with substance
it will sooner or later come into expression,
unless you head it off, eliminate it by denial.
~ Charles Fillmore

All events, situations and conditions are merely temporary occurrences in our grand contextual field for the purpose of providing us with an opportunity to further define and refine our highest personality.

Awareness is the Key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3.

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Whose Got Personality…?

 

"Keys to a Better Life"

When I find myself challenged by, or taking a disliking to, someone's personality style, I choose to recognise who they really are and what it is they are in my life to teach me about myself.

I have come to understand that there is not a single person in my life that isn’t here for a reason. I also recognise that what I resist persists and the reason it does is because our conditions are "Sign Posts" that reveal temporary states of consciousness we have assumed about our self.

When I resist someone, I know it is due to my thoughts, values and beliefs (states of consciousness) about me, and them, and that instead of making an observation, I have made a judgement ("Judgements VS Observations"). 

When I come from a place of Love, I immediately begin to gather learnings through insight, rather than through pain.

So, when my interactions with another produce feelings of annoyance, frustration, disapproval, anger or what not, I change these undesirable conditions by addressing the Cause.

The First Cause of all my conditions, the undesirable and the desirable ones alike, are the thoughts I have with feeling. I then become Aware of exactly what it is I seemingly dislike and I name it, for example:

• He’s lazy
• He’s nasty
• She’s controlling
• She doesn’t say ‘hello’
• They don’t talk to me
• They’re too quiet
• They don’t recognise the value I bring
• And so on… 

With my Awareness (Key No. 1) list produced, in writing, from a place of Uncritical Observation (Key No. 2) I consider the stories I’ve been telling myself about these perceived dislikeable personality traits.  By doing so I am able to identify the thoughts and feelings that produced these temporary conditions.

Generally, we are taught to only change our conditions, yet conditions are second cause and no matter what we do to change or retain them, we are challenged to do so on a permanent basis.  Even when the problem at hand appears to be gone, in what will feel like no time at all we are likely to reproduce a new set of conditions, including new faces and names, that generate the same old undesirable feelings.  Have you every changed your job, your car, your home, or your partner in the hope of a new start, a better feeling, more enjoyable conditions - only to reproduce undesirable ones again.

The problem is we try to change the other when there is no other, there’s only one of us getting around in seemingly separate vehicles we call physical bodies however this is an illusion based on limited teaching. There is much evidence, including that of a scientific nature that tells us we are all intricately connected through and by one cosmic ether or energy.

So to make any changes to anyone, or anything, outside of us we are to change the Cause - The First Cause; our Thoughts about them.

When I need to change my thoughts about someone, in order to change my outer conditions, I go inside.  I recognise the place Love reside in me and contemplate what do I now desire (Key No. 3) and wish to experience with this person. I begin thinking about what it would be like to have a lovely relationship with this other; without comparing it to or needing it to be like any other relationship I know. I think about how this great relationship makes me feel. The more I consider what it sounds, looks, and feels like to have a desirable relationship it will also be revealed to me who I am to Be and what I am to Do and Say differently that would assist produce different outcomes - ones I now thoroughly enjoy.

This person carries keys and gifts to my healing and wholeness...and I know they come bearing gifts, because if they didn’t they wouldn’t be playing a prominent role in my life.

"God’s sends nothing but Angels" – NDW

To complete the Awareness is the key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3 process, every time I think of this person, I live in the feeling of my wish fulfilled that we now enjoy a terrific relationship. I give thanks (Key No. 4) to that higher part of me and Creator of all things that makes what I think about with feeling a reality, and produces like conditions in my life…for mine and everyone’s greater enjoyment.

until my next post…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Decisions Decisions Decisions

 

"Keys to a Better Life"


“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, 
than to be able to decide.” ~ Napoleon Bonaparte

Recently, someone (I’ll call her Carol) asked me for a method to assist her and her husband (I’ll call him Mark), make decisions in a more easy and elegant manner.

Carol told me that she and Mark made good decisions, ultimately, but the process to get there was often slow and arduous.  Frequently, it also involved one of the parties giving in even though the outcome still usually ends up being good for both. More and more they are finding that decisions that carry greater weight or importance are taking longer to process.

There are many aspects from which to consider this seeming quandary. My endeavour today is to revisit some basics and provide some options, in point form, for this couple’s, and our own, consideration and discussion.

Being able to make decisions easily and elegantly
in relationship means having a values match and
a defined communication process.

Therefore, the manner in which we communicate, primarily with ourselves and then with another, needs to be considered. Everything we say and do is an outflow of our beliefs and our beliefs are a reflection of our values; for information about how our beliefs and values are formed visit What's Important to You.

So, some questions to ask, and activities to consider, to improve decision making (communication) between couples include:


Identify current beliefs around ‘couple communication’?

That is, what have I perceived; had demonstrated to me; and learnt from other couples (predominantly my parents) about communication and decision making?

What can occur in many instances is that we act out our own individual expression of what we’ve observed and learnt from our carers, whether we liked what we saw or not, consciously or unconsciously.

What’s important to me regarding communicating with my most Beautiful Friend?

As a base, I must first decide that I truly enjoy and wish to be in this ‘intimate relationship’ with another. That means always having another to consider for if I wanted to live life one way, my way, I may need to reconsider if I am in the right place, at the right time, with the right person. 

Assuming I am desirous of being in relationship with this other, meaning that I select and accept that I am in a co-dependent union and that at its base that means I am with someone I wish to enjoy a wondrous journey with, whatever that means to each of us, the next thing to do is become Aware of what currently is ‘undesirable’ and that I would now like to change.

A way to do this is to make a list of things you ‘don’t like’ about a) your own; and b) your partner’s communication style, in this order. Then transform each of the items on the list to ‘likes’.

The ‘don’t like’ list is Awareness; the first step in the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” – and all the rest is 1, 2, 3.

Some quick examples here may include:


What I don’t like about my current communication style is:

Becoming impatient
Feeling inconsequential
Feeling ignored
Talking to a brick wall
Not being acknowledged
Getting angry
Nagging


What I don’t like about your current communication style is:

Not sharing your thoughts and feelings
Not taking time to discuss important matters
Not considering me
Not acknowledging what’s important to me
Ignoring me
That you probably see me as a nagger
That you don’t take action

What I would like in my communication style is:

To be patient and listen actively
To feel worthy
To be engaged in meaning discussions with my Beautiful Friend
To be heard
To communicate in a loving and friendly manner


What I would like in your communication style is:

To be comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings
To be trustworthy with your dreams and desires
To be considerate of me in our decision making process
To be an active listener with patience
To be a loving and friendly communicator
To become active once we are in agreement 

With the 1^st version of our values defined, the next step is to:

Identify what you (yes, what you would now change about yourself) in order to Be the person and style of communicator you have identified you like.

Take each of the communication styles you identified you ‘like’ for you and for your partner and change each to an ‘I am’ statement, e.g.

I am a patient and active listener
I am worthy
I engage in meaning discussions with my Beautiful Friend
I am heard
I am a loving and friendly communicator
I am comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings
I am trustworthy with your dreams and desires
I trust you with my dreams and desires
I am considerate of you in our decision making process
I play my part once we are in agreement

Carol and Mark would then commit to sharing their findings about who, and what, they are personally willing to be and do to improve their communication - with an accent on improving their decision making process. They will gain clarity from each other along the way by asking questions like “what does ‘being a patient and active listener’ mean to you exactly?”, “how will you demonstrate/how will I know that you feel heard?”

Due to the natural Law of Growth this process of transitioning from where we are to what we now desire to be takes time to unfold in this three dimensional (time/space) reality of ours.


Perfect practice makes perfect.

Have fun and allow your ‘ideal’ communication style with your partner to be
expressed by Being and Doing the things identified above.  We cannot make a wrong move because we are entertaining new thoughts and developing new beliefs about our ‘ideal’ communication style with our partner. The being and doing of these, in order to have the experiences we desire, are NEW, never carried out before by us and, there is no one else to do them our way but us.


There is no one to change but ourselves

Finally, I trust you have identified that there is ‘no thing’ we are to do, or can do to change another.  This is the time to make everything we identify and define personal. By becoming the person, and doing the things, we wish to see in another we attract like conditions.

How then does our communication improve? Because we each must decide at the very beginning we want to take this journey together, with our beautiful friend. Doing so means finding ways and means to co-exist in a joyful, loving, easy and elegant manner. If we don’t pass Step 1, a one hundred step process won’t make any difference. 

Awareness is the Key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3.

Your queries and comments are always welcome...

We offer weekend Couples Courses to assist couples transition from where they are to where they now desire to be.

until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

A Little Ray of Sunshine

has come into the world…


"Keys to a Better Life" 

A few months ago, one of the amazing women in my life invited me to assist her birth her first born child naturally.  As she is a student of Life and very dear friend of Universal Truths (the laws and principles that govern Cause & Effect), I was deeply honoured.

On Saturday, the 28^th of January 2012, an extension of Spirit, conceived in the exact same manner all things are – first by thought, and then by feeling, by taking divinely inspired action, and by remaining faithful to these thoughts and feelings – was expressed in the form of a precious little baby girl who was birthed naturally in water.

There were many realisations that occurred to me throughout the day. One of these was just how far off track we have wandered in some instances and just how much closer to our true nature we are evolving in others.

It was the intention of the mother-to-be that this experience be as non-invasive to her and her child as possible. As the day unfolded, the more sacred the event I was witnessing and actively got involved in, became.

The more connected I became with the birthing mum, the more intense the feeling of Oneness grew.  Whilst this tiny little physical vehicle was being designed and developed through the most intricate and orderly scientific, biological and Divinely Intelligent processes over the past nine months, we knew the greater part of her remained directly connected to the Spirit of Life.

Knowing and trusting played a great part in this glorious event. 

As we continue to keep our thoughts as connected and progressive as our ‘work in progress’ status enables us to, the sacredness of the day and the knowing and trusting in our Oness continues.

Whilst there may be moments in the past 48 hours that may be considered less than ‘ideal’ for this new mum, as she remains progressive, focussed, and lovingly responsive, the one and only Source of all things (with whom we connect via our consciousness) continues to co-produce one beautiful condition after another.

Thank you and Congratulations Beautiful Lady! A very warm welcome to this Little Ray of Sunshine that has come into the world!

 

Until next time…
Life the Life you Love
J x

Judgements Vs Observations

 

 "Keys to a Better Life"

I have a personal theme for 2012 that in a word is Congruence.  On a personal level, this means to be in alignment, agreement and harmony with who I say I am. I’ve also adopted a mathematical meaning for the visual construct it provides me which relates to a shape, a triangle for example, coinciding exactly when superimposed.

I placed a post on the Universal Truths Facebook Page recently mentioning that the difference between a judgement and an observation is that an observation informs us about our self. To obtain information on any subject, including our self, we must first ask questions – hence the statement, questions are the answers.

Recently, a friend was beside herself with fear and worry about what could be considered as seriously negative activities being carried out by her child. Although at a conscious, objective level she felt that she "had it all together’", based on the conditions being manifested, including a physical ailment that develops from the old thought pattern of, “Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Fear and tension. Too sensitive.” ~ Louise L. Hay, she accepted that something very different was going on at a sub-conscious and subjective level.

When we first began discussing the subject, she was using phrases like, “I’ll just have to let them go”, “they know what they need to do, they just won’t do it”, and “I just don’t know what else to do.”  During our conversation, I began introducing big concepts like, the world is our mirror, every man is my teacher, the difference between a judgement and an observation, and of course my favourite, the Law of Cause & Effect.

Given that her child is also a mature adult, there is no-thing any of us can do, without their desire and full cooperation, to assist them to change their situation. Therefore, to change our undesirable conditions and experiences, the areas to address include refraining from judgement and making many observations instead to assist us to become aware amd informed about, and change, ourselves.

As we do this, and the more those in relationship with anyone who appears to be caught up in undesirable behaviours does this, the more the undesirable behaviours will let go, fall away and disappear both from our reflection (the other person) and in our own life.

We cannot observe in another,
that which does not exist within our self.

There is but one of us.

So who do I say I am and who do I wish to superimpose?  Metaphysics and mental science has taught me that my highest personality is expressed in greater and greater form the more I recognise my relationship to the Great Oversoul of the Universe.  To me, this Being is Supreme Consciousness with attributes consisting of Life, Love and Beauty.

Based on this, I am welcoming, blessing and utilising all the characters and conditions currently in my life to inform me about myself.  Whenever I hear, see or feel an interaction that is displeasing in some way, I ask myself, “Where in my life am I being, saying, doing…?”  and, “Where in my life can I express more Life, Love and Beauty?”

With each answer to my questions I become further informed about actions I can take to become more congruent.

My friend left asking questions like, “Perhaps it's not my child I'll just have to let go of but the fear and worry”, “I know what I want to do with my life and it’s time I did it”, and “I know what else I can do.”

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Sign Posts

"Keys to a Better Life"

All conditions in our experience are temporary indications of our current states of consciousness; what we think and feel about our self.

In the same manner many of us were taught one mode of thinking: three-dimensional, of the conscious mind, and in accordance with our five senses; many of us were taught one mode of communication: the spoken and written language(s).

Sign Posts is an Awareness raiser about other sources of communication; primarily modes of communication that are derived from the physical body and from our physical conditions.

If I were to encapsulate the spoken and written language as mind communication, I would refer to these other modes as body communication and conditions communication.

Both of these forms of communication are incorporated by metaphysics: The branch of philosophy that examines the nature of reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, substance and attribute, fact and value*.

There is nothing (or no-thing) that exists in our physical world that didn’t first originate in the mind.  All matter was first a thought before it was produced in form.

The same is said of physical ailments, illnesses and disease (dis-ease) as well as the type and style of people, places and events (conditions) we encounter.

Conditions that show up in, on, and around us are all
'Sign Posts'
telling us where we’ve come from and where we’re going to...

We can change direction and obtain different, more desirable conditions to the ones being produced, by becoming more proficient at reading the Sign Posts and adjusting our course to either 'stay on track' or 'get on track'.

Even the dreams we produce during the night and during the day, we are told by the ancients, are all figments of our imagination, symbolic of our current states of consciousness, and therefore Sign Posts telling us who and what we think and feel about our self in the moments leading up to NOW.

Every thought with feeling is creative.

It is these other modes of communication that produce our every condition.  Sign Posts everywhere are telling us which direction we are journeying in. They are evident in every moment of every day, and night.  Our body image and general health are telling us what is temporarily so, every person in our life is a reflection of what is temporarily so, the location and state of our homes, cars and bank accounts, in fact every condition and event that occurs is a Sign Post of what is currently and temporarily so.

Above all else are our emotions, they are the no. 1 Sign Post of was is temporarily so because they also tell us what we are creating next...

For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. ~ Proverbs 23:7

What are your Sign Posts telling you about where you're at and the direction you want your Life to go?

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x


* source: thefreedictionary.com

Cause & Effect…

"Keys to a Better Life"

When we feel certain frustrations, we have a tendency to think that making changes to the conditions will fix everything. This is attempting to live by the law of effect & cause which is a reverse of the actual Law.

Using any law back-to-front produces back-to-front results. While it is true that changing our actions can generate changes to our conditions (effects)…our actions are not the First Cause of our experiences.

Acting better is as long term effective as thinking better;
both are surface level changes that produce temporary improvement.

First Cause consists of nouns and adjectives such as Being and Knowing so, when we change the reason (Cause) that attracted the undesirable conditions to us in the first place, we are sure to experience different conditions that ultimately generate more and lasting desirable results and feelings.

To change our unwanted conditions and outcomes, easily and elegantly and with lasting change, it is imperative we use the Law correctly. As it is the Law of Cause & Effect, we are to first contemplate the thoughts we have with feelings about the topic in hand, be it at home, at work, or in relationship. Following this key step we call 'Awareness', the rest is 1, 2, 3 * - all of which, in turn, cause us to take different actions which, in turn attract different conditions, and result in ongoing improved experiences and feelings.

Cause > Effect

Thoughts with feeling drive our words and actions
which attract, produce or reflect like conditions - (people, places and events).

Make 2012 about you, because we can't give what we haven't got and,
until next time...
Live the Life you Love!
J. x


* to read Posts about the Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3 click on Awareness (Part 2 of 5) or My Ideal Week, type Awareness in the Search field, or click on the Awareness Category from any page.

My Ideal Week

"Keys to a Better Life"

I use the Universal Truths - Four "Keys to a Better Life" (Awareness + 1, 2, 3), to plan and prepare my ideal week.

I also take inspired action to get there... Where's there? The feeling of the wish fulfilled.

Key 1: Awareness + 1: from a place of Uncritical Observation

I have reviewed my previous week's conditions to recognise what moments were not ideal. My feelings are my guidance system.

I know I'm observing my past experiences critically when I get sucked into the drama; and I know I'm observing them uncritically when they inform me how I felt when that person and those conditions presented them-self.

Key 2: What's ideal?

Knowing what I don't want, I then contemplate and discuss (only ever with myself or Anthony) what I would rather feel. What would I feel were I to have a great week?

Key 3: Desire / Imagination

I design a single scene that would imply fulfilment of my desire and I attach a short phrase (up to 3 words) to it, like, “This is great!”, “I love it”, “Perfect”.

Having clearly established what it would feel like to experience an ideal outcome in any area of my life, I hold my will here (to the thought + feeling most predominantly generated in the above activity).

In my meditations, I make there-here and then-now until my picture is so alive with feeling as to make it Believable. Then I desire it no more. I can never experience in form anything I keep separate from me. To continually desire something implies that I don't yet have it.

Key 4: Detach

Throughout the week, in my mind, I will continue to Be the person who has had a great week and I’ll frequently, throughout each day, feel that feeling and repeat that phrase.

I’ll spend many moments in gratitude that all that I require is already available and keeps 'showing up' at the right and perfect time, in the right and perfect form.

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

You and I

“Keys to a Better Life”

Who’s this ‘You’, you keep telling me about…?

Several years ago, it was brought to my attention that we mostly speak in ‘you’ rather than ‘I’ tense statements.  An example might be, “I really love Gold class, but you never find movies you like.”

“Hmmm, is that true for me..?” Who’s this ‘you’, you keep telling me about?

When we speak in ‘I’ consciousness
we take ownership of our communication
as well as the experience we’re talking about.

‘I’ communication places the responsibility for what we say with us – the place we need it to be to do something with it.

My experience when replacing ‘you’ with ‘I ‘in communication has been very beneficial for my emotional awakening.  ‘Aha moments’ live in ‘I’ tense statements and whilst this style of communication can be confronting on occasions, on the whole it introduced me to an emotional buffet.

For the first time in my life
I began to feel my feelings fully
because I made my communication personal.

When my communication became personal, I found I didn’t need or desire to over speak. I became more interested in listening to what others have to say and just how much of their communication they make personal.

Now when ‘I’ hear someone say, “I really dislike Monday’s because you realise you haven’t done much with your weekend. Who has time to plan their ‘ideal’ week.” I know who they’re really talking about.

This week I’ll again be taking ownership of my communication and becoming more aware of the use of ‘you’ instead of ‘I’.   I plan to make it all personal.

Until next time…
Love the Life you Live
J. x

Tolerance, Information, Personal Responsibility

"Keys to a Better Life"

Earlier this week I observed a conversation by a group of individuals who were discussing feedback received in their department from airline passengers complaining that they had been inconvenienced because the person sitting next to them was overweight.

In general, these passengers complained that because the overweight person beside them took up in excess of the seat allocated to them, their own flight became physically uncomfortable and caused practical inconveniences such as access to and from their seat, use of tray tables, constantly being bumped by cabin crew passing by and so on.

As it wasn’t what they’d paid for (i.e. they purchased a full seat but only gained access to half of one), they were demanding some form of compensation from the airline.

Who or What in these instances is at fault?  Is it the overweight passenger, the airline or the passenger placing the complaint?

They shared various perspectives:

“Humanity has become completely intolerant” was the sentiment of one individual, who by their own admission is overweight.  “What’s the big deal? It’s usually only a couple of hours.” Another, who is less than 5 feet tall made comments along the lines of, “They [The airlines] should weigh people and luggage together to determine beforehand the seating and baggage allowance.” This statement was agreed to by others. What about the height/weight ratio? There are many people who are tall and not overweight but will be penalised for their height, was the sentiment of yet others (these people were in excess of 6 feet tall).

At no time during the conversation however was there any mention of personal responsibility.

The ancient teachers have taught us that there is One Source and Cause of all that we experience. They say that our thoughts and feelings create our reality. Having put these kinds of statements and philosophies to the test in recent years, in every area of my life, I can vouch for the fact that whilst I may not enjoy all of the conditions through which my experiences come, I am totally responsible for each and every one of them - no matter what the condition, situation or scenario.

We are living in an ‘information era’ so in my view, personal responsibility takes the gathering of relevant information and tolerance into account.

When I observe my thoughts and personal conversations, and that of others, I’m amazed at how often we place the responsibility for our desirable and undesirable conditions and related experiences outside of our self.

Therefore, by taking personal responsibility for upcoming events by imagining my ideal, I get better outcomes; ones that are pleasant in every aspect. On the occasions when I do still find myself in the midst of undesirable conditions, I again take personal responsibility for the experience and choose to remember that all conditions are temporary.  Therefore, as soon as I change my thoughts, feelings and attitude about a current undesirable experience that my physical senses reflect, I regain the power to change the conditions. I do this by imagining a new, more enjoyable situation, I look for beauty in everyone and everything and I find that I either engage the person I perceived to be the cause of my displeasure in new and interesting ways or that other factors immediately show up to move me to new and more pleasurable conditions and therefore experiences.

I choose to believe that everything that is happening to me, is happening for my highest good (my growth) assisting me in being the person I say I am or now wish to be.

Simple, but not always easy….

Until next time,
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Yes, and…

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

The manner in which we communicate with our self and others is integral to experiencing beautiful relationships and pleasant interactions.

With practice, greater awareness, and becoming truly present with these internal and external conversations, it becomes more obvious just how much of our daily language is regressive (negative) instead of progressive (positive).

In the 5th Habit of Stephen Covey’s book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” we're reminded about the importance of being active listeners so we really, deeply understand human beings. In it he states, “most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand.”

A common occurrence when we do this “loading up” is evidenced by the automated response of “No, …”. We unintentionally, often unconsciously, reject and shut down what the other person has said or suggested by the “No” and sometimes emphatic “No, no, no” reply that precedes our own perception or interpretation of the subject.

Another option, one that allows for far lovelier interactions and that changes the dynamic of our communication is to respond with, “Yes, and …”.

A simple example of this could be that Anthony makes a suggestion about how we might approach an activity or upcoming event. In the instance where I might have a different opinion, instead of saying, “No, we should … ”, a more progressive responsive would be, “Yes, and another consideration or approach could be …”. This often leads to a lovely discussion and complimentary representation of both of us.

I invite you to become an observer when others are interacting around you to witness just how often this occurs. It's a great active listening exercise. 

You may also wish to observe if you are listening actively or unintentionally shutting down and rejecting another's perspective in conversations.

Covey’s “7 Habits” are timeless and worthy of visiting and revisit time and again: 

https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits-habit5.php 


Until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

You Are The Person You Are Waiting For

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

"I used to say, "I sure hope things will change." Then I learned that the
only way things are going to change for me is when I change." - Jim Rohn

Often in life, when the conditions around our relationships, health, wealth and so on are not as we desire, we place the power to heal them outside ourselves. We think, say and do things that indicate when that other something changes, e.g. that person realises what they’re doing, we get that job, we find a doctor who can treat us correctly etc., then our unwanted conditions will change and everything will be OK.

However, when we truly understand that there is not a single anyone or anything outside of ourselves that needs to change for us to Be, Do and Have all that we require and desire, the power to change is back in the hands of the one and only person co-creating their involvement in the first place – our self! And how are we doing this? By our thoughts of who we are and the value we place on our existence!

"Don’t wish it was easier; wish you were better.
Don’t wish for less problems; wish for more skills.
Don’t wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom." - Jim Rohn

In this moment now we have all the talent, skills, intellect, ability, characteristics, resources, wisdom, and any other quality required to take the very next step towards Being the person, and living the ideal life, we imagine for our self.

The reason this is true, is because of our uniqueness. There is no other ‘you’ who is coming to take your place and be the person only you can be called to be, do the things only you desire to do, and have the things only you can desire and have.

We are here to Live a Life we Love and Love the Life we Live.

Until next time…
Live a Life you Love!
J. x

Beliefs Vs Ideas

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

Stick to your beliefs, if that serves you. Hold tight. Do not waiver.
For your ideas about "right" and "wrong" are your definitions of Who You Are.
Yet do not require that others define themselves according to your terms.
– Neale Donald Walsch

Recently Anthony and I were introduced to and watched a movie by director Kevin Smith called 'Dogma'.  In it, actor Chris Rock plays Rufus, the thirteenth apostle left out of the bible because he was black. In one of his appearances, he points out that 'beliefs' may not be most beneficial because they are very hard to change, unlike an 'idea', which is fairly easy.

When it comes to hearing, seeing or reading anything that I feel may take me toward my personal version of who I desire to be, I like to implement immediately and review results. Since watching the movie I replaced saying, “my belief about abc is xyz” with “my idea about abc is xyz”.

The result: greater feelings of freedom and liberty and ease of transitioning from where I was to where I now desire to be.

Try it and see for yourself. Perhaps start by having those conversations with yourself regarding your current ideas about health, relationships, wealth, work and so on and see if you find it easier to change those ideas that are no longer serving you.  After all, they're only ideas right... :)

Until next time…
Live a Life you Love!
J. x

Thought Power for New Conditions

 "Keys to a Better Life"

Seven Things to Remember in Using Your Thought Power
for the Production of New Conditions

from “Your Invisible Power” by Genevieve Behrend

 

1. Be sure to know exactly what conditions you wish to produce.  Then weigh carefully to what further results the accomplishment of your desire will lead.
   
   
2. By letting your thought dwell upon a mental picture, you are concentrating the Creative Action of Spirit in this centre, where its forces are equally balanced.
   
   
3. Visualising brings your objective mind into a state of equilibrium which enables you to consciously direct the flow of Spirit to a definitely recognised purpose, and to carefully guard your thoughts from including a flow in the opposite direction.
   
   
4. You must always bear in mind that you are dealing with wonderful potential energy, which is not yet differentiated into any particular form, and that by the action of your mind, you can differentiate it into any specific form that you will.  Your picture assists you to keep your mind fixed on the fact that the inflow of this Creative Energy is taking place.  Also by your mental picture, you are determining the direction you wish the sensitive Creative Power to take, and by doing this, you make the externalisation of your picture a certainty.
   
   
5. Remember when you are visualising properly that there is no strenuous effort to hold your thought-forms in place.  Strenuous effort defeats your purpose, and suggests the consciousness of an adverse force to be fought against, and this creates conditions adverse to your picture.
   
   
6. My holding your picture in a cheerful frame of mind, you shut out all thoughts that would disperse or dissipate the spiritual nucleus of your picture.  Because the law is Creation in its action, your pictured desire is certain of accomplishment.
   
   
7. The seventh and great thing to remember in visualising is that you are making a mental picture for the purpose of determining the quality you are giving to the previously undifferentiated substance and energy, rather than to arrange the specific circumstances for its manifestation.   That is the work of the Creative Power itself.  It will build its own forms of expression quite naturally, if you will allow it, and save you a great deal of needless anxiety.   What you really want is expansion in a certain direction, whether of health, wealth or what not, and so long as you get – as you surely will, if you confidently hold to your picture – what does it matter whether it reaches by some channel which you thought you could count upon, or through some other of whose existence you had no idea.  You are concentrating energy of a particular kind for a particular purpose.  Keep this in mind and let specific details take care of themselves, and never mention what you are doing to anyone.

Until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Specificity

 "Keys to a Better Life"

A Universal Truth regarding the Law of Attraction is to BE SPECIFIC.

Attracting that which we desire in life is much like focusing a camera.  If we are uncertain of the details of what we wish to capture on film and we shift the camera around from scene to scene, it matters not how many times we take a shot.  Chances are every outcome will be blurry.

On the other hand, if we take time out to contemplate the perfect shot, clearly defining the details of the desired end result, and hold our attention on the vision to be created along with the feelings this perfect shot will generate, we are certain to DEVELOP AN OUTSTANDING IMAGE.

Love the Life you Live
J. x

Four UT Keys for Affirmations

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

What are Affirmations and how do I use them?

Recently, I introduced the topic of Metaphysics via our Universal Truths Facebook Page so I thought I would share my experience with Affirmations and Four UT Keys for the most beneficial way I construct and use them.

An Affirmation is defined as 1. the act of affirming or the state of being affirmed; 2. a statement of the existence or truth of something; assertion.

The first time I recall giving any personal meaning to Affirmations was about six years ago when I first read “You Can Heal Your Life” by international bestselling author Louise L. Hay.

Mind activity that occurs just below the level of conscious awareness is referred to as the sub-conscious.  This sub-conscious mind is defined as being responsible for one's thoughts and feelings; the seat of the faculty of reason.  It has been likened to a limitless volt of information retaining every detail from every moment in our life.  For example, someone sufficiently skilled enough to tap into this volt, may be able to recall the outfit, hair style, cake, friends, gifts, food, music, games, weather, colour of the paint or wall paper design along with every other detail pertaining to their 3^rd birthday party, assuming of course they had one.

Our thoughts, values, and beliefs (for more about these see my Blog titled, “What’s important to you?”) are also stored in our sub-conscious mind and whilst this makes life functional in terms of not having to learn how to operate a door or a car every time we approach one etc. many, many, many of the thoughts, values, and beliefs stored there are adopted, inherited, taught to us, limiting and no longer serve us for our highest good.

Affirmations are a useful tool to reprogram our sub-conscious mind’s obsolete data.  As an example, through slow normalcy I went from getting occasional headaches from my early teens to having a headache, of some degree, for as often as five out of seven days a week by my mid 20s.  Headaches, together with migraines which set in from age 19, were ultimately both eliminated by my mid 30s.  This included a period of time when, by becoming more and more aware of my thoughts, I could predict getting these and various other ailments in advance.  These days, I don’t have to exercise ‘stinking thinking’ for very long before an ailment will rear its head.  However, I like it this way, as I’m committed to heightened awareness and I now trust my body to keep me lovingly accountable.  Fortunately, as quickly as something appears, I can cause it to disappear and I often still use Affirmations as a tool of choice to achieve this.

It is important to understand that values, and beliefs stored in the sub-conscious, that play out automatically, are generated from thoughts that we have had millions of times over.  Therefore;

The 1^st UT key regarding Affirmations is to make them short, simple phrases or statements (initially at least) that can be learnt verbatim and are in the first and present tense.

The 2^nd UT Key regarding Affirmations is that they are repeated often throughout the day and perhaps over many days, until the old thought pattern is overridden.

Often times, although an affirmation may feel good at some level, it may sound foreign and a little awkward to your inner or outer ear at first.  Discipline and persistence are keys.  It’s very OK to have fun with your affirmation so a simple approach is to fake it til you make it.

The 3^rd UT Key regarding Affirmations is to understand that the sub-conscious mind is quite literal.  Let’s say you wanted to increase your income.  To the sub-conscious mind, an affirmation along the lines of, “I am excited about the pay rise I have coming my way”, will always be something that is coming as opposed to something that is happening now.  A rewording of this may go something like, “My income constantly increases.”

And the 4^th UT Key regarding Affirmations is to understand that by often I mean potentially hundreds of times a day.  It’s a tool for immersing our sub-conscious mind with uplifting, affirmative and present data enabling it to, not just suspend obsolete programming that was generated and remains in place by millions of repetitive thoughts each day, but permanently override it with a new thought pattern.  In doing so, the sub-conscious mind can produce automatical feeds to the conscious mind causing us to think, speak and act in a manner that instead of sabotaging us is constantly setting us up for our highest good and greatest success.

This is a sure way to permanently eliminate undesirable ailments, dis-ease and conditions that keep showing up, sometimes with a different face and name but that generate the same old unwanted feelings.

The manner in which I use affirmations is to adopt ones from someone or somewhere else, that resonate with me deeply, or construct my own based on the above UT Keys.

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

On No, not the ‘G’ Word

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

Notice how many people get freaked out by the ‘God’ word?  I know I used to.  In fact, I found it so repulsive, I banished it from my vocabulary altogether for a number of years.

It’s any wonder really, given that many of us are introduced to a version of a sinister, bearded man, up there, somewhere, yielding a rod that, depending on our ability to placate him during this poor excuse for a life, either grants us access through the pearly gates to heaven or banishes us forever to the hollows of hell.

Who needs that nightmare?  I certainly didn’t.  My life was scary enough without this dude in my life and if I wasn’t being told a horrible story about punishment and banishment, I was told he was unconditionally loving and forgiving. What the?  When I became so confused that I began to ask questions I was told, ‘have faith’.  Again, what the?

I found it easier to checkout from these godly beliefs, and so I did, for a while at least.

When my seemingly cosy life ‘hit the wall’ however, a cherished girlfriend gifted me a book called “Conversations with God : An Uncommon Dialogue (Book 1)”.  The first part of the title put me off and the second half intrigued me enough to pick it up and open it to the first page.  I read non-stop for 48 hours!

What is succeeded in doing was it shook up my current and grossly distorted model of the world and God and brought home some resounding Truths that I was unable to deny. While it succeeded in snapping me out of manic depression, it was still some years, in fact many years, before I was able to use the ‘G’ word again.

Today, although I have become 100% comfortable in my relationship with and use of the term God, I am still mindful of using it around others.  Just recently, I was again reminded of the discomfort this word can conjure for people and yet, from my in depth study and implementation of the subject (whilst only having scratched the surface) I understand that this discomfort is primarily due to ignorance (1. (n.) a wilful neglect or refusal to acquire knowledge which one may acquire and it is his duty to have.).

There is a great deal of merit in acquiring the knowledge for ourselves about this Eternal Life Source rather than continuing to live in a maya of misconception and misrepresentation.

There is so much to gain and so much benefit to be had by doing so.  After all, we are told we are made in His image and likeness.  It’s fascinating to discover what aspect of us this relates to and what this entitles us, and enables us to be, do and have as a birthright.

Until next time…
Love the Life you Live
J. x

All paths lead to God

 
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All paths lead to God!
Well, at least they did in our instance…

Anyone who has read our Home Page introduction on this website (www.universaltruths.com.au) will be informed that Anthony and I have dedicated ourselves as individuals, in relationship, and in our careers to the study of human potential, sales, and business performance.

When Anthony and I first connected in November of 2005, Anthony had been a celibate Christian for some 14 years and I, well, I had distanced myself from religion as far as I could although metaphysics and spirituality had been emerging in my life in preceding years.

Our beliefs were generally vastly different and at some point, very early in our relationship, Anthony suggested we proceed on the proviso that we conduct the study that will tell us whether or not the Bible and its content are in fact the Truth, the Light, and the Way, or not.

A new covenant three months after we met, a relocation from inner city Melbourne to the majestic setting of Zaggi Point in Wamuran Queensland, and the journey continues...

First, we did some internet research and quickly found a plethora of material for and against.

Around the same time, we were seeking a coach that could assist us with a mortgage broking business we commenced.  After a number of ‘non matches’ including successfully suing one company for misleading conduct and failure to fulfil our contractual agreement, I stated that from now on I was going to appoint Christ as my coach. He was the only wholesome character I knew who was trustworthy, possessed infinite intelligence, is extremely resourceful, and 100% reliable.

Have you tried having a meeting with Christ lately?  Some questions that immediately came to mind were; where do we meet, how do I address Him, and how will we communicate…

These questions led us to research individuals that had not only acquainted themselves with the western biblical text intimately, but had studied the Greek and Hebrew origins of it, all excluded and relocated scriptural text, as well as the spiritual origins and books of the world.

To cut a long story short in this medium of sharing today, just like a jigsaw puzzle, one revealing piece led us to the next until eventually the scales tipped and the jigsaw puzzle became both complete and eternally incomplete.

By emanating Christ as best we can, at this stage of our existence, our journey has led us to grasp a foundation of Truth that produced the quality of results and feelings we had been searching for and continues to reveal to us the infinite potential and possibilities available to us for experiencing.

Our journey has led us to a relationship with God, so personal in its nature, that it surpasses anything our religious backgrounds obscurely taught us.

God is our Truth, our Light and our Way! In Him do we live and move and have our whole being.

To our fellow seekers of Truth I repeat: "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. [Matthew 7:7-8; Luke 11:9-10]

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J x

God sends nothing but Angels

 
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How do you identify what your current values and boundaries are?

My experience tells me we recognise these in two ways, through ‘pain’ or through ‘insight’.

It was Rev. Michael Beckwith who I first heard say,

“People grow in two ways, through pain or through insight. Many people choose the path of pain. They keep bumping their head up against life and then they begin to ask some empowering questions, like, why is this happening to me over and over again?”

I have also recognised that we experience these in two ways, through ‘role playing’ (pain), or through ‘role definition’ (insight). 

“All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts…” – William Shakespeare

An example of ‘role playing’ could be the conditions that surround Victims and their Abusers, whatever the extent.  We cannot witness an incident that results in abuse unless one party plays the role of the ‘Abuser’ and the other the role of the ‘Victim’ - consciously or unconsciously. 

These ‘players’ are expressing a set of individual values and boundaries (mostly adopted or inherited by others) through the roles/parts they play on the world’s stage.

"God sends nothing but Angels", says Neale Donald Walsch.  Every person, animal, and condition reflects to us the part we’re playing thereby giving us an opportunity to recognise and choose again.

Through ‘role definition’ we can recognise our values and boundaries first and choose instead to define our role and play the part of a self loving, self respecting, self honouring individual.  When we play roles that are Love based, we either avoid all together, or find the ways and the means to release ourselves from a part that is playing the role of ‘Abuser’, ‘Bully’, ‘User’, ‘Task Master’, 'Addict', or any other role equally developed from the basis of Fear.

In all instances, when a role we play no longer serves our expansion towards the Joy of Living, we are free to revalue ourselves by redefining our character/role.  As we repeatedly do so, we become the next greatest version of us and the world confirms the change.

How do you identify what your current values and boundaries are?

The Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back

 
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Identifying our values is a key to designing a ‘better life’.  So why is it that identifying what’s important to us can sometimes deliver challenges before delivering the peace, contentment and happiness we seek to achieve?

In my experience this occurs when:

a) the values we establish are truly our own, making them more important to us and worthy of greater investment than the ones we’ve adopted or inherited from others through life; and

b) we haven’t considered new boundaries and implemented a plan for inviting others to recognise and value what’s important to us.

For an explanation about establishing our own values you may find “What’s Important to You?” worthy of visiting or revisiting.

This Blog Post is dedicated to part b):

Developing boundaries and a plan for inviting others,
primarily our partner and children, to recognise and honour our values. 

I’ll use an example to deliver my point. I identify that one thing that’s important to me at home is that the place is kept clean and tidy.  This is the first step from the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” – Awareness. 

The next step is to make an Uncritical Observation of what is.  For example, when activities required in the kitchen are not attended to i.e. the dishwasher isn't stacked and emptied, other dishes aren't washed up, bench tops aren't wiped down, the rubbish isn't taken out etc., or are left to me to attend to, it conflicts with what I have identified as important to me.

Another example could be that dirty clothes are left on the bathroom or bedroom floor instead of being placed in a dirty clothes basket again conflicting with what may have been identified as being important for maintaining, as a minimum, a clean and orderly home.

Our homes, cars, careers/vocations, partners, and everything else in our life are extensions of our personality. They represent who we are and the orderliness or chaos of our thinking which create our conditions.

As a next step, identify, “what do I now desire?”  An example here could be that I desire, for this season in my life at least, that each capable member of the household takes joint responsibility for the various kitchen activities and attending to and keeping their own clothes in a tidy and orderly manner.  By holding a picture in my mind and recognising the feelings that these conditions provide is certainly a critical part of the process.  Taking inspired action is another. So what is meant by the latter part?

My definition of inspired action is taking steps that produce my desired results in a joyful manner.  Namely, for these examples, this may include those actions that enable me to feel the preferred feelings and live in my preferred environment.  When I’ve identified clearly what I now desire, I expect new ideas to flow and I take action that feels uplifting, expanding, congruent, authentic, and joyful in place of those that feel uneasy, contracting, like a struggle, uphill, or against the current.

Some examples of inspired action related to these examples may include installing hooks, erecting shelves, purchasing a clothes valet or baskets, or perhaps placing clothes baskets in bedrooms or bathrooms to more easily accommodate.

It may involve having new conversations with family members to communicate my new desire and invite them to acknowledge and accept and/or provide them with an opportunity to present their ideal of what makes for a more pleasant relationship and living environment.

At some point, everyone needs to agree on at least one law. The natural Law of Cause & Effect whereby family members unwilling to play their part must accept the effects of their non compliance. And, everyone must clearly understand what will happen (the effect) if they don’t play their part.

In my early days in partnership, before I was in a relationship where both parties were committed to living a peace filled and joyful life, continually looking for ways to meet each other’s values without compromising their own, the effect I clearly communicated for clothes that were left lying around on the floor was that I would throw them into the backyard as a first step and into the rubbish bin as a follow up. 

Whatever effects you identify and communicate, be sure that you are willing to follow through.  I did!  I threw them into backyard once and clothes not longer littered our floors. Instead they were dealt with in an orderly fashion.

If spending time in the kitchen cooking and using lots of utensils and crockery doesn't work for you in this season of your life, think about what would minimise kitchen time.  During various seasons in our life, Anthony and I find that the slow cooker concept provides excellent time freedom and minimises the amount of time we spend in the kitchen. 

Instead of focussing on a problems, focus on the solution.

When all is said and done, and members capable of participating have committed to upholding one party's value as a unified one, whatever effects are established, they have to be ones you are willing to carry through and because the intention is to produce greater order and harmony, they must first be clearly communicated so that everyone understands what will happen if a team member doesn’t honour their commitment to their loved ones.

Anyone serious about living a “better life” always has clearly established values and boundaries in place as well as clearly established consequences if those values are encroached upon.  The effects or outcomes of having these boundaries crossed vary for person to person however, it’s important that they are established, communicated, and honoured by our self and others.

Relationships, especially partnerships are about what we can bring to the table, they are about enriching our experience as an individual, a couple and a family rather than looking for what we can take. If someone is unwilling to play their part in honouring what’s important to their loved ones and expanding their own life and environment in the process, perhaps the focus of the relationship is on taking rather than giving. 

Are you currently being a taker or a giver? And, what’s your limit before the straw breaks the camel’s back?

Another Euphoric Day

 
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I’m grateful that the sun shone brightly today....on every area of my Life.  My desire is for more of these experiences that give me cause to feel Euphoric.

If you’re reading this Blog Post, it's because you are significant in my life. You can be assured of that because a) we are somehow connected; and b) by my concept of you, you provide a contextual field of my available choices in this Buffet of Life.  And, this occurs regardless of how near or far we think we are in time and space.

I fall more and more in Love when I think from the place of; it's not about whether or not we like each other, it’s about Loving each other for assisting us become clearer about who we now wish to Be, what we imagine that Being will enable us to Do, and what that Doing allows us to Have and to Express – as an individual, a partner, a parent, a family member, a friend, a colleague, a business owner, a resident of a state, a citizen or visitor in someone’s home or country, and as a representative of humanity.

Depening on how you choose to express yourself today and my interpretation of that personality, based on my current beliefs and values, you play your part in providing me with immense choice. For that, I have only Love for You.

If we're not contemplating and expressing our personal personality
in every moment, then we are expressing learnt behaviours,
inherited beliefs or adopted values.

Our personal version of Planet Beautiful is possible when we become responsible for, and ordered in, our every thought and feeling. Those not living an ideal life, and wish to with every cell in their body, will know they are ready to do so when they realise they are already living it. 'Now' is part of it.

Becoming aware of, observing, and choosing our every thought and feeling causes us to truly experience this ‘Now’ and enables us to design the next version with purpose, clarity, accuracy and pure intent. Our journey is not haphazard it is always precise, on purpose and valuable right now.

We are always being a demonstration and expression of Life.

By ordering our thoughts and feelings it becomes possible to be still enough to hear what initially is the soft angelic voice of Divine Guidance’s whisper, beckoning us Gently and Lovingly forward. Soon enough it becomes the same volume as the sound of our voice in our head. 

We all desire Order and “Order is Heaven’s First Law”.

There is no one else to show us how to know Love (Life), for knowing Love is a unique, personal journey that we alone are to enjoy with the Source of Life. There is no other you on the planet that is coming to play your part.

We’re always telling others what Love is. We’re always showing others.

Everyday we’re consistently Being our best individual expression of Love!

Flat out like a lizard drinking

 
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A query from a Client/Friend came in along these lines, “I know we have discussed this in the past, but can you briefly nudge my memory as to why we don't do busy..."time is irrelevant"...am I on the right track? :)"

My response (version 2) was, "we make every endeavour to avoid being and doing ‘busy’, at a conscious and sub-conscious level, because along with the actions related to my connotation of ‘busy’ (or rush), generally the emotion of fear is present. Fear that there is not enough time, fear of being late, fear of missing out, fear of what someone might think and so on.

When I remember that “time is an illusion” – and by this I mean personal more so than irrelevant, because when we attend an appointment or catch a plane for example, time is very relevant - I release the need to be fearful. Without fear, there’s always enough time, Life isn’t a race, I can’t compete with another; because there is no another - there is only one individual expression of me therefore, there is no right way, or right time, or right place. There is only my preferred way, my personal expression of time, and the place I’m at right now.

‘Busy’, to me, reflects inverted thinking.  Thinking that goes against what someone might say they want and what they are actually experiencing. We see many people wheel spinning in life because they have busy physical or mental lives, or both.  They think a lot and they do a lot, but they don’t seem to be achieving their desires.  Anthony and I remember being like this, and doing this, ourselves; in fact I think our pace was more like frenetic :D, especially mentally. Anthony used to carry two mobile phones and it felt like they both rang constantly.

I found that when I used my time instead to think, to plan, to feel and to act from the place of Awareness + 1, 2, 3, about my health, my finances, my relationships, my life purpose, and so on, I experience the reciprocal conditions - in the exact same way my inverted thinking brought me what I didn’t want.

Our game is to choose affirmative thoughts,
feelings and actions in place of any and all inverted ones.

 



Transitioning with Awareness + 1, 2, 3

 
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This Post is a practical piece and a follow on from the previous Post “Killing with Kindness”.

One way to turn this, or any situation around, is to use the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” (Awareness + 1, 2, 3) by experimenting with the following steps:


1.   Firstly, become AWARE of the undesired condition.  For example, “I don’t want to see my child hanging around not working or earning an income and a decent standard of living.”

Perhaps they are dating a partner you don’t approve of, or mixing with peers that you don’t feel are in your child’s best interest.  Whatever it is, write down the undesirable condition as you currently perceive it.


2.   Recollecting from previous Posts and from what many of us have no doubt read, heard and experienced for our Selves at various times, we cannot change anyone but our Self. 

All undesirable outward conditions change
when we change something within us. 

So, from a place of UNCRITICAL OBSERVATION, that’s right – without criticism or condemnation, identify and write down any thoughts, words and actions that may have contributed to these current conditions.  Do your utmost not to edit what comes forth, just observe it from a “that’s interesting” point-of-view.

Some questions to ask your Self may include:

• What do I think about work?  Therefore, what beliefs have I inherited about working?
• What do I recall my parents saying about work?
• What do I perceive their attitude to work and earning a living was/is?
• Did I perceive my parents as having enjoyed the work they did?
• Did I perceive my parents earning sufficient income to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle?
• Do I enjoy what I do?
• What may I have said or demonstrated about work to my children? You may even ask them what they recall you saying about work or what they perceive your attitude to work and earnings might be.

It’s also most beneficial to jot down how we feel when we observe this outward condition our child, or whoever, is displaying.  Some examples again may include:

Frustration, anxiety, anger, fear, sadness…

What other words come to mind when you make these observations.  Do you have thoughts of them being:

Lazy, expecting the right job to land in their lap, having a poor attitude,
being negative, expecting too much…

Remember, we’re doing this from a place of UNCRITICAL OBSERVATION, so just notice!


3.   Next, CLEARLY identify what you now DESIRE?

The idea, as a starting point, is to identify the minimum requirement and some, to comfortably meet our desires. Turn each of the inverted statements noted in steps 1. and 2. to affirmative ones:

For example:  “I desire to see my child happily working and earning an income and enjoying a wonderful standard of living.”

Often, by this step, we can identify that the undesirable observations we make of others pertains in some way to our Self.  After all, everyone is our perfect mirror!

“I desire to work in an environment and in a job that I do happily,
earning an income and enjoying a wonderful standard of living for myself.”

It’s always about us!  Everything we project, judge, condemn of another is a temporary indicator of a part of our Self that we have a distorted perspective about (often an inherited or limiting belief).  When we identify and begin to think differently, i.e. affirmatively about that area of our life, our conditions must reflect that and the undesirable expression currently being observed of another will also fall away.

Write down what you would prefer to feel: e.g. relaxed, supportive, confident, joyful, valuable etc.

I think of him/her OR myself as being:  energetic, enthusiastic, positive, motivated etc.

Dispose of the notes captured in point 2. and make multiple copies of the ones captured here in point 3.  In other words, take whatever steps feel natural to ensure these desired states of awareness/consciousness are at the forefront of your thoughts.

The key is to think about, visualise and focus our attention on how we feel and what we will have and/or do when we, or the other person expressing the undesired conditions, are expressing a desirable one instead.  What will this do for me?

For example: I can meet my needs with peace and ease.  I can gift my family and loved ones in the most beautiful and joyful manner.  I can experience happiness every day doing what I take great pleasure in doing with people I admire and respect and who admire, appreciate and respect me in return etc. etc. etc.

Only when this becomes our sustained thought, i.e. our thinking is persistent, continuous, unrelenting and constantly on what we desire, will our conditions change to mirror that. 

Conditions ALWAYS mirror our thinking.

 

4.   The fourth key to turn in Awareness, 1, 2, 3 is detachment.  DETACH from any thought you notice that is unlike what you desire.  Employ a mental Gatekeeper to keep a watchful eye on your thoughts and emotions.

The thoughts and emotions we experience towards others
directly effects our life and the conditions we produce/experience.

Deny your senses (anything you see and hear etc. about a condition that is not what you want) and refocus on the thoughts and feelings captured in step 3. that evoke the images and feelings you do want.

FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT!

Whilst it may feel difficult and unbelievable initially, the more we implement and repeat this process the more natural it will feel and the quicker the results will be attained.

If you have any queries about this process drop me a comment or email at unitruths@gmail.com