As I mentioned in my previous post, once we’ve named the feeling, the next question we asked our self and which leads us to the next key is:
So, what would I now rather feel?
You’ll notice I use the word ‘what’ above. For years I practised asking ‘why’ instead of ‘what’ - as in ‘why’ do I feel this way, and I would analyse, and analyse, and analyse these feelings often leading to analysis paralysis.
Always this process led me to a dead end. By ‘dead end’ I mean I would end up finding that someone else was the perceived cause of my undesirable experiences and the feelings I associated with that experience – "if only they hadn’t said that or done that, then I wouldn’t have felt what I felt and my life would have turned out better." All this did for me was place the power to live a 'better life' outside of me. I now required that person to apologise or become someone different in order to feel immense happiness. And what if I didn't get it all done before they past on from this realm to the next...?
In addition to placing the power outside of us, ‘why’ also takes us into the past for the answers. In many instances, our pasts are a product of learnt values, beliefs and behaviours (often limiting ones) therefore, we will almost certainly be inclined to create a future based on this past programming. That means more of what we’ve already experienced and more of what we no longer desire.
In time, and with the implementation and practise of the ‘what would I now rather feel’ concept, both Anthony and I find the ‘why’ process completely unnecessary. Asking ‘why’ has its place in other processes, which I’ll share along the way, however in this context, we also find it to be just as unnecessary when assisting our Client’s transition from where they are to what they would rather feel and experience next.
Asking ‘what’ instead of ‘why’ in the context I’ve explained here transcends limiting beliefs. What would I now rather feel transcends values and beliefs that we’ve been taught. It provides us with an opportunity for a ‘fresh start’.
When we begin to a) monitor how we feel; then b) choose what we would now rather feel, we are in Ekhart Tolle’s New Thought teaching of the power of NOW and when we make decisions from where we are now, we are manifesting our future based on what we would rather.
If our past thoughts with feeling have created our now, the thoughts with feeling we are having now go out into the future to greet us.
So, what next? Next, we apply the Universal Truths' Key No. 2 and become The Great Observer from a place of uncritical observation...