Who’s this ‘You’, you keep telling me about…?
Several years ago, it was brought to my attention that we mostly speak in ‘you’ rather than ‘I’ tense statements. An example might be, “I really love Gold class, but you never find movies you like.”
“Hmmm, is that true for me..?” Who’s this ‘you’, you keep telling me about?
When we speak in ‘I’ consciousness
we take ownership of our communication
as well as the experience we’re talking about.
‘I’ communication places the responsibility for what we say with us – the place we need it to be to do something with it.
My experience when replacing ‘you’ with ‘I ‘in communication has been very beneficial for my emotional awakening. ‘Aha moments’ live in ‘I’ tense statements and whilst this style of communication can be confronting on occasions, on the whole it introduced me to an emotional buffet.
For the first time in my life
I began to feel my feelings fully
because I made my communication personal.
When my communication became personal, I found I didn’t need or desire to over speak. I became more interested in listening to what others have to say and just how much of their communication they make personal.
Now when ‘I’ hear someone say, “I really dislike Monday’s because you realise you haven’t done much with your weekend. Who has time to plan their ‘ideal’ week.” I know who they’re really talking about.
This week I’ll again be taking ownership of my communication and becoming more aware of the use of ‘you’ instead of ‘I’. I plan to make it all personal.
Until next time…
Love the Life you Live