"Keys to a Better Life"
I have a personal theme for 2012 that in a word is Congruence. On a personal level, this means to be in alignment, agreement and harmony with who I say I am. I’ve also adopted a mathematical meaning for the visual construct it provides me which relates to a shape, a triangle for example, coinciding exactly when superimposed.
I placed a post on the Universal Truths Facebook Page recently mentioning that the difference between a judgement and an observation is that an observation informs us about our self. To obtain information on any subject, including our self, we must first ask questions – hence the statement, questions are the answers.
Recently, a friend was beside herself with fear and worry about what could be considered as seriously negative activities being carried out by her child. Although at a conscious, objective level she felt that she "had it all together’", based on the conditions being manifested, including a physical ailment that develops from the old thought pattern of, “Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Fear and tension. Too sensitive.” ~ Louise L. Hay, she accepted that something very different was going on at a sub-conscious and subjective level.
When we first began discussing the subject, she was using phrases like, “I’ll just have to let them go”, “they know what they need to do, they just won’t do it”, and “I just don’t know what else to do.” During our conversation, I began introducing big concepts like, the world is our mirror, every man is my teacher, the difference between a judgement and an observation, and of course my favourite, the Law of Cause & Effect.
Given that her child is also a mature adult, there is no-thing any of us can do, without their desire and full cooperation, to assist them to change their situation. Therefore, to change our undesirable conditions and experiences, the areas to address include refraining from judgement and making many observations instead to assist us to become aware amd informed about, and change, ourselves.
As we do this, and the more those in relationship with anyone who appears to be caught up in undesirable behaviours does this, the more the undesirable behaviours will let go, fall away and disappear both from our reflection (the other person) and in our own life.
We cannot observe in another,
that which does not exist within our self.
There is but one of us.
So who do I say I am and who do I wish to superimpose? Metaphysics and mental science has taught me that my highest personality is expressed in greater and greater form the more I recognise my relationship to the Great Oversoul of the Universe. To me, this Being is Supreme Consciousness with attributes consisting of Life, Love and Beauty.
Based on this, I am welcoming, blessing and utilising all the characters and conditions currently in my life to inform me about myself. Whenever I hear, see or feel an interaction that is displeasing in some way, I ask myself, “Where in my life am I being, saying, doing…?” and, “Where in my life can I express more Life, Love and Beauty?”
With each answer to my questions I become further informed about actions I can take to become more congruent.
My friend left asking questions like, “Perhaps it's not my child I'll just have to let go of but the fear and worry”, “I know what I want to do with my life and it’s time I did it”, and “I know what else I can do.”
until next time…
Live the Life you Love