"Keys to a Better Life"
"God’s sends nothing but Angels" – NDW
When I find myself challenged by, or taking a disliking to, someone's personality style, I choose to recognise who they really are and what it is they are in my life to teach me about myself.
I have come to understand that there is not a single person in my life that isn’t here for a reason. I also recognise that what I resist persists and the reason it does is because our conditions are "Sign Posts" that reveal temporary states of consciousness we have assumed about our self.
When I resist someone, I know it is due to my thoughts, values and beliefs (states of consciousness) about me, and them, and that instead of making an observation, I have made a judgement ("Judgements VS Observations").
When I come from a place of Love, I immediately begin to gather learnings through insight, rather than through pain.
So, when my interactions with another produce feelings of annoyance, frustration, disapproval, anger or what not, I change these undesirable conditions by addressing the Cause.
The First Cause of all my conditions, the undesirable and the desirable ones alike, are the thoughts I have with feeling. I then become Aware of exactly what it is I seemingly dislike and I name it, for example:
With my Awareness (Key No. 1) list produced, in writing, from a place of Uncritical Observation (Key No. 2) I consider the stories I’ve been telling myself about these perceived dislikeable personality traits. By doing so I am able to identify the thoughts and feelings that produced these temporary conditions.
Generally, we are taught to only change our conditions, yet conditions are second cause and no matter what we do to change or retain them, we are challenged to do so on a permanent basis. Even when the problem at hand appears to be gone, in what will feel like no time at all we are likely to reproduce a new set of conditions, including new faces and names, that generate the same old undesirable feelings. Have you every changed your job, your car, your home, or your partner in the hope of a new start, a better feeling, more enjoyable conditions - only to reproduce undesirable ones again.
The problem is we try to change the other when there is no other, there’s only one of us getting around in seemingly separate vehicles we call physical bodies however this is an illusion based on limited teaching. There is much evidence, including that of a scientific nature that tells us we are all intricately connected through and by one cosmic ether or energy.
So to make any changes to anyone, or anything, outside of us we are to change the Cause - The First Cause; our Thoughts about them.
When I need to change my thoughts about someone, in order to change my outer conditions, I go inside. I recognise the place Love reside in me and contemplate what do I now desire (Key No. 3) and wish to experience with this person. I begin thinking about what it would be like to have a lovely relationship with this other; without comparing it to or needing it to be like any other relationship I know. I think about how this great relationship makes me feel. The more I consider what it sounds, looks, and feels like to have a desirable relationship it will also be revealed to me who I am to Be and what I am to Do and Say differently that would assist produce different outcomes - ones I now thoroughly enjoy.
This person carries keys and gifts to my healing and wholeness...and I know they come bearing gifts, because if they didn’t they wouldn’t be playing a prominent role in my life.
To complete the Awareness is the key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3 process, every time I think of this person, I live in the feeling of my wish fulfilled that we now enjoy a terrific relationship. I give thanks (Key No. 4) to that higher part of me and Creator of all things that makes what I think about with feeling a reality, and produces like conditions in my life…for mine and everyone’s greater enjoyment.
until my next post…
Live the Life you Love
"God’s sends nothing but Angels" – NDW