During the week, a friend of Universal Truths said and asked the following:
"I’ve been thinking about something and have a question. I realised that ever since growing up, I carry with me a standard that was past on to me which hasn’t served me any good then and now. It's a process that I recognise is getting in the way of my ability to be appreciative of others.
Growing up, I would take one look at a person and 'measure' their coolness.
“I got teased when I was younger,
so I go out of my way to make sure I ‘fit in’.”
I have these categories where I put people in certain types of groups: 'people that are way too cool for me'; 'people that are cool enough'; 'people that aren’t so cool but I would still hang out with'; 'people that aren’t cool at all'.
I don’t just do that to others, I do it to myself as well. I put myself in one category as if that’s where I belong.
Today, I know it's getting in the way of feeling free to be me with others I encounter.
“How do I get rid of an old thought?”
Whilst there are a number of discussion points around this undesirable condition, this post has been primarily written to address the question: How do I get rid of an old thought?
The first Universal Truths Key to a Better Life is Awareness. Only by acknowledging or becoming aware that something or someone may no longer be serving our expansion towards living our highest expression, can we do something about it.
Further, the problem is never the problem! The problem here is not that this person had limiting beliefs passed on to them, or that they are unable to fully appreciate others, or that they got teased growing up, or that they categorise themself and others. These are all conditions and whilst many conditions from our past need acknowledgement and forgiveness, they are not today's problem. In fact, I would go so far as to say, there is no problem. Rather, what we have here is another opportunity to ‘feel free to be me’.
A distinction between what we do and what other personal development and psychological approaches do is that the latter often addresses the conditions and asks ‘why’ a lot. Why don’t you appreciate others? Why do you think you got teased? Why don’t you feel cool? And so on… Upon delving into these questions there is often an element of criticism that emerges for one self and others. Also, in our experience ‘why’, in this context, is useless because it is endless…
Instead, at Universal Truths, we turn Key 2 and suggest that once our awareness toward desirable or undesirable conditions has been identified, we become The Great Observer. That is, from a place of uncritical observation we consider ‘what’ impact has this style of thinking had? ‘What’ style of thinking is this? e.g. is it physical or spiritual, contracting or expanding, regressive or progressive? ‘What’ feelings does this thinking generate? And, ‘what’ conditions did it produce?
Making uncritical observations broadens our awareness enabling us to become better equipped to contain situations, welcome them by understanding there are new gifts about to revealed, address them from the present moment, and progress in an easier, more elegant, and rapid manner.
Key 3 is to Refine our Imagination and is a real key in the ‘how to’ process. The masters tell us that ‘how’ is not our role to play. Rather, our role in the co-creation of our ideal life is to define and refine the ‘what’.
We change old thoughts, word, actions and conditions by asking questions like, “What do I now desire? e.g. my desire is to feel free to be me and to appreciate others. What feelings would the accomplishment of these new desires produce? e.g. feelings of freedom and liberty, respect and appreciation, oneness, worthiness etc. Who will this allow me to be? e.g. loving, friendly, fun to be with, relaxed, uniquely expressive. What new conditions will this new way of thinking produce? e.g. I’ll get to meet new and interesting people, enjoy beautiful interaction, and appreciate a variety of personal expressions. I get to express myself freely.
The more consideration and aliveness we give to Key 3 the faster we move from where we are to where and what we next desire to be, to do, and to have. You may wish to review the Phases of Change post for more detail about this process (a link has been provided at the end).
Once we have refined our imagination and given definition and life to the next greatest version of who we wish to be, the fourth and final key in the process is to be Grateful for the inevitable and joyous experiences that are already present, but which we haven’t been able to notice, as well as the new ones now rushing towards us through the natural Law of Growth and Cause of Life.
The moment we imagine what we now desire, the greater part of us, our eternal essence or the Spirit of Life becomes it immediately and through our focussed attention on what we want and how that feels now, we attract from Spirit its correlating matter or form. That is, we attract the like conditions.
So, in summary, my answer to the question, 'how do I get rid of an old thought?' is; by replacing it with a better one. And a process to do so is through the application of the four Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life”.
- Become aware of it (the undesirable thought and/or correlating condition(s)).
- Contemplate it from a place of uncritical observation.
- Refine your imagination by defining what you now desire.
- Be grateful for its completion by detaching from anything unlike your new desire, focussing on like thoughts, and feeling the feelings of your wishes fulfilled.