Universal Truths

Relationship Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

7 Relationship Blueprint Updates

Writing these Relationship Blueprints has again caused me to consider some of the key concepts that Anthony & I tested and implemented as a couple in business, that had and continue to have a profound impact in moving us, our relationship, and our affairs from contraction and undesirable conditions toward joy and ever increasing expansion.

Listed are 7 powerful Relationship Blueprint Updates that you may wish to consider and test. As with all change, these too take a degree of practice before a return on investment yields lasting results. This, we are told, is due to the natural Law of Growth.

Although it would be impossible to reach the potential that these Relationship Updates offer when correctly applied, we quickly become part of the evidence that even a small tweak to our self, here and there, can make a world of difference and a difference to the world in how we relate to and with others.

So here's the first Update:

Update 1:  From What the heck don't you get to Know Thy Self

Have you ever felt like it wasn't just your words that got lost in translation but your life? That nobody gets you and that at times you barely recognise yourself and what your life has come to? Consider this, of the person or people you spend most of your time with each day, what percentage of your thoughts and feelings would they be aware of..? What percentage of your own thoughts and feelings are you aware of as you move about your day..?

Some of us were taught that what someone does for a living tells us who they are, that’s why we’ve been programmed to ask each other how our day went and what we got up to. Yet, who we are is a result of what we think about with feeling all day and not about what we are doing. And for those that haven’t heard it said before that’s why we are called human beings and not human doings.

To get to know someone better, including our self, we can ask, "What did I(you) invest my(your) time thinking about today?" And, "What feelings did these thoughts generate?"

When we can answer these questions consistently to our self we can ask another about them. Prepare to listen well and offer to go first many times before another may be willing to participate. It is preferred by some to capture their responses in a journal.

In the words of Pythagoras, "Man know thyself; then thou shalt know the Universe and God.”


Update 2:  From Everyone is incompetent and ignorant to Everyone is doing the best they can with the information they have

I believed everyone was doing the best they could with the information they had when I asked myself if I was.

I found I was doing the best I could even when I felt misunderstood and was continually in conflict with others. However, when I sought and found additional information, I was then able to experience better relationships and conditions and was able to shift my life toward becoming exponentially more positive and therefore more ideal.

A key to gaining additional information was to stop telling myself the story of what I no longer desired and began telling one that reflected my ideals. To this I added the faculties of imagination and visualisation as well as meditating on feeling the feelings of my wishes fulfilled.


Update 3:  From Nobody knows anything to Every man is my teacher

I knew just how little I and others knew when I began gaining additional information about the Cause of Life.

Before that, it appeared to me that most folks were incompetent and ignorant. Now I know, as mentioned above, that they were also doing the best they can and I have changed my perception to folks are my mirror reflecting back at me an array of available states of consciousness or personalities within a sophisticated contextual field we call Earth.

The truth is we all know things, many things in fact and it is these things (based on our thoughts, beliefs and values) that are shaping our life for negative, positive, or even more positive experiences.

Today, I understand that everyone is my teacher because everything they say and do has the capacity to teach me something else about myself.


Update 4:  From Should-ing all over others to Teaching what I want to learn most

When you use the word should with someone next, I invite you to take a moment to repeat the same sentience to yourself. For example, "you should watch what you say in front of the kids" to "I should watch what I say in front of the kids." Or, "You really should look after your health." to "I really should look after my health."

To stop should-ing all over others it is necessary ultimately to eliminate the word from our vocabulary altogether. When Anthony or I use this word on the odd occasion these days we are pretty quick to pick it up and correct our language. Using the word should seems disempowering and doesn’t feel friendly and uplifting. We found that using it somehow implies wrong doing, disappointment, shame or regret.

Words that are empowering and can easily replace it are Could, Can, Might, May and Will. For example, "You might watch what you say in front of the kids" or "You really could look after your health more." and "I can watch my thoughts and words more closely."

These days, I teach what I want to learn most by sharing blogs, posting status updates, having consultations, coaching sessions, or presenting someone with options via text, email or phone.  Each time I know I am telling them what I need to learn most. So I listen carefully to what all parities have to say because there is bound to be gold in it for me too.


Update 5:  From Hear me. Hear me. Hear me to Seek first to understand before being understood

When I first became a student of mental science (new thought), including metaphysics, I wanted everyone to know and feel the information and liberation that came with this ancient wisdom. I had a drum to beat that was inspirational and fun so I got around in a bit of a hear me or suffer in your ignorance type approach.

These days, believe it or not :o), I am quieter than I was, especially in social settings. I prefer to seek first to understand where someone is at on a particular topic or subject and then, if and when appropriate, share another model of the world that also exists and is assisting us achieve our desires at home, in business, and in relationship.


Update 6:  From Come on, I'll show you who is better to There is no competition only personal best

With a shawl of Everyone is incompetent and ignorant around my shoulders; a keen dancer; and an older sibling, I learnt competition young.

I learnt early about winning and losing, kill or be killed, and I enjoyed collecting medals, trophies and accolades.

Today, I understand that there is no one coming to take my place or play my part. I know that there is not another soul in the universe who is here to do what only I can do. Therefore, I also now know that there is no rush, no threat, and no competition. It is my personal best efforts alone that produce my conditions and outcomes.


Update 7:  From No! to Yes, and...

There was a period when Anthony & I began noticing that we were unintentionally making each other wrong in communication.  For example, we may be chatting about something and one of us would make a suggestion. Our conversations went from responding with something like, “No! I think we should do Y.”  to “Yes, that’s a good option, we need to consider this and that, and another option could be…”.

When we decided to act like best friends, and lovers, we began chatting with each other rather than talking at each other. The magic is in the couple when united values are based on love and beauty.  It is in this way that our chats that used to lead to arguments now lead us perfectly to an approach that meets our needs and desires as well as producing pleasant conversations…


In closing:  Self awareness is not something we can bestow on another, nor can we decide when another will have the experience. Those who know us also know that Anthony & I believe the magic is in the couple or the partnership (whatever form this takes) because while all awakening is golden, when we can experience this with our most beloved, or a mutually invested partner for example, to us this means having a constant best friend by our side to experience the highs and lows with, keeping each other buoyant and on track with what we say is ideal, and that special someone to cry and to celebrate with.

On our journey these precious moments became, and continue to be, our saving grace.

until I post again…
May all your relationships be joyful ones; and
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

With around seven years of exstensive personal development and self contemplation behind me, I recognise that around the age of 8 I bought into the possibility, through suggestion, that I needed to be a good girl or the separation of my parents could be my fault. The outcome was that I became a master people pleaser and carried this trait into my school years and work life.

During this time, I placed a great deal of pressure on myself to do things "perfectly". I would do whatever was asked of me to my fullest potential. I was a masterful chameleon acting one to please my friends, and another to please their parents. I also had different acts with my work colleagues and managers.

All the while, I was ill equipped mentally and emotionally, and the manner in which I conducted myself often crossed my unconscious value system of fairness and expectation of recognitions and rewards. Given I had also learnt to argue and defy, I occasionally found myself in disagreements and conflicts.

During the first one and half decades of my working life I worked long hours, I was dutiful, and thought it essential to impress by constantly going above and beyond other people's expectations.

What's wrong with that some may ask? Sounds like a strong work ethic right? I found that it wasn't when the reason for the input and effort was to feel worthy, accepted, appreciated, liked, respected, and not responsible if it all went wrong. By living and working from this place of insecurity, I often "hit the wall" - becoming burnt out, depressed and developing undesirable physical ailments on an ongoing basis.

When Anthony and I self funded four years of full time study between 2006 and 2010, we identified that there are a set of infallible laws that govern all life.

Throughout this particular study period we became more and more enthusiastic about the potential these laws could have on business operations, culture, profitability and success. It's easy to see how valuable and relevant this is when we acknowledge that a business exists through its people. When we consider the various elements of a business like the owners, clients, staff, service providers, stakeholders, shareholders and so on, we see that there is not a single aspect of a business that is not operated by and reliant on people. However, based on our limited teaching and inadequate education, especially in the arena of human excellence, it becomes easy to see that a business or company cannot reach its fullest potential until its people do - regardless of the type of business and industry.

With new knowledge obtained from a plethora of sources and tried and tested concepts, I no longer see my businesses or places of employment as time stealers and income earners. I now view these vehicles and the people within them as sacred places in and through which people are on a journey and relationships (i.e. who we are, in relation to each other) are experienced.

My desire to please others, at any cost, including my health and personal relationships has transformed into a deep desire to seek first to understand and assist others get what they want.

I do this having first and foremost developed a relationship with my self enabling me to come from a place of self love, self worth, and self understanding.  By doing so, I find I am continually seeking ways to add more value. I understand completely, i.e. intellectually and experientially, that when I help others get what they want, I get what I want and as I become the person I wish to see in others, others become the persons I wish to see.

Knowing what and where the source of all my good comes from, I am able to release, with confidence, the amount of energy I require for the activities of my day, draw on greater depths of understanding, love, patience, compassion, and wisdom rather than only giving in the hope of gaining an immediate return for myself and becoming exhausted, depleted, burnt out, and feeling used and abused when these hopes fall short.

I have moved passed having a job, working on my career, or being desirous of a vocation. Today and everyday is the now the next step towards becoming and experiencing my self as a company cultural change agent equipped with a tool kit of of knowledge, skill, experience and happy expectation.

The next topic in this Blueprint series is Relationships...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

Since beginning this Blueprint series I have grown. I understand more deeply through experience that I simply can no longer focus my thoughts upon something with feeling and not produce an experience of it.

My posts are considered; what I mean by this is that I place significant time and attention on capturing my thoughts, reading and re-reading my words, refining the content and context of my message, contemplating what I write, the concepts I write about and what they continue to mean to me today, as well as who I am presenting to and as.

As a result, during the process of writing and presenting the past three of four posts, I manifested a cold sore, a migraine, and experienced contraction. 

 

What we focus on expands - pure and simple!  

Fortunately, each condition was short lived, brought me new insights, actions, and outcomes, and all three conditions related predominantly to work. Given that I'm currently dedicating around 90 hours per week of focussed attention (thoughts, feelings, words, and actions) directly to work, with Awareness, it's no wonder the conditions are manifesting through this vehicle. I know the work I do and the service I provide is my current tool for greatest potential and growth towards my ideal - without doubt.

To understand a little about the origins of my work Blueprint it's important, I think, to understand a little about my heritage. I am the second child of two with an older brother of three years. I am first generation Australian, born and brought up in the wonderful city of Melbourne, Australia, except for its climate :). My parents migrated from the island of Malta, a country situated in the middle of the Mediterranean Sea with a long and rich history. Unlike many other migrant families, when my parents arrived in the early 1960s, on their one-way honeymoon, no other relatives from either side followed. I've never had cousins, aunts or uncles around, and I didn't meet my grandparents in person. I have met my relatives on five or six occasions, mostly when I have travelled to Malta. Did any of these people have a major influence on your work Blueprint?

What I saw and learnt about work, I did so predominantly from my parents who arrived in Australia with minimal savings and no jobs at the ages of 19 and 20. I also learnt from what I saw and heard from other migrant family friends, school and ballet class families, teachers, and religious leaders.

The messages (values and beliefs) I adopted were that we worked to live and the harder and longer we worked the more income we earned - to the extent that one could budget that income they could achieve a measure of "success". From what I gathered, in my culture and socio-economic circles of the time, this generally meant that I would own my home as well as a holiday house beachside or in the country perhaps. I'd always pay cash for vehicles, clothes, gifts, furniture, toys, and travel and I'd have a reasonable slush fund of cash in the bank. The irony of these sentences is that they will mean something different to everyone who reads this post, than they do to me. What we will mostly agree on is what these things we call homes, vehicles, clothes, cash etc. are, and the part that remains personal, and can only be, is just what they each mean to us. For example, we mostly agree that a moped is vehicle and so is a mercedes benz.

By adopting these beliefs, I bought my first car with cash (AU$1,200) at 18 (the legal age for obtaining a driver's licence in the state of Victoria) - albeit predominantly from the cash my parents had been saving up for me from the board I was paying from my part-time job I started when I was 14. I bought my first home with a fiancee at the age of 19 (or 1988) for AU$114,000. It was paid by age 24 and we went overseas, paying cash, for six months.

There were benefits to this system of belief, like never experiencing financial stress - I never wondered where by household or living expenses would be paid from for I had budgeted for everything, and some, 12 months in advance. To some reading this post this may seem like quite an achievement and at that time and place in my life it was. Although by age 30 I had become asset wealthy to the tune of a couple of million dollars, as previously mentioned, it didn't however prevent me becoming suicidal by age 32 as I seesawed backwards and forwards between pride and the obviousness of my mediocre lifestyle.

Most influential in introducing me to the concept that, in life there are three stages to producing an income or earnings was Caroline Myss.  She says that first we get a job which is for the purpose of meeting our basic survival needs such as food, shelter, and clothing. In a well developed country, such as Australia, this perhaps includes education and healthcare too. Then we develop a thirst for a career because it pays more than a job, and this is followed by developing a need/passion for a vocation because it's spiritually fulfilling.

At the time of my 30 something life changing moment, in my view of the world, I was developing a career in corporate management while earning $100,000. In Part 2 I'll share how I went from my career as master people pleaser to being in the process of self mastery. My last corporate job, prior to the one I am currently engaged in (six months as at Nov 2012) was in 2005.

Where has your current work Blueprint brought you too?  Are you utilising the moments of your day in a job, a career, or a vocation (the true purpose and reason that You are here)…?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 4 of 4

The beliefs instilled in me as a child and throughout my young adult life differ greatly from the ones I live my life by today. As a result I recognise my self as being a happier, healthier, wealthier, and more loving person. Every area of my life has been redefined by this process and when it comes to my health Blueprint, changing my beliefs about depression was most impactful. 

I learnt depression from an early age; mimicking and expressing feelings of despair and hopelessness to the point of becoming suicidal in my early 30s.

Instead of ending my life, I chose to start it over and I anticipate that although I am in the first decade of this life transformation, due to invaluable life experiences and Universal Truths, I have fast tracked to what feels like a current age of around mid twenty.  At this pace I expect to be living an ideal life, not only in some areas as I'm currently experiencing most of the time, but in all areas, all of the time within this decade. :o)

My initial beliefs about depression taught me that it was due to a chemical imbalance. No one could tell me how this imbalance occurred or perform a test to evidence this manic depression diagnoses. All I knew was that this chemical imbalance would deliver a heavy cloud of despair and hopelessness into my life that rendered me seemingly incapable of functioning and certainly unwilling to continue enduring such a mediocre version of what I thought life could be and what I saw others demonstrating.

I seesawed continuously between "why me, poor me, what did I do to deserve this, I must be crazy?" and depths of guilt, shame and embarrassment at ever thinking I had it badly. Nonetheless, I still couldn't explain my immense unhappiness and a doctor could - or so I thought.

Long story short, as I have made reference to this state of consciousness we call depression on other occasions throughout these posts, my new belief about it is that depression is something we learn and something we do - not something we get or that happens to us. From this base both Anthony & I have eliminated the experience called manic depression from our existence.

I first heard, via Carolyn Myss, that depression is not a mental crises but rather a crises of the soul. We agree!

Metaphysically, I was shown that depression is "an anger we feel we do not have a right to have. Hopelessness" and that suicidal tendencies relate to, "Seeing life only in black and white. Refusal to see another way out."* From this I did what I needed to, to overcome these conditions and "I went beyond other people's fears and limitations. I created MY life." I began to, "Live in the totality of possibilities." Believing that, "There is always another way. I am safe." *

As works in progress, and in the process of fully manifesting our ideal life in all areas, all of the time, these days we experience moments of contraction. The difference is that we have developed the ability to recognise these moments immediately (Awareness is the key) and then apply 1, 2, 3.

Every moment, period, season of contraction is always followed by expansion. Each experience is becoming easier and more elegant and is filled with hope and excited anticipation as we continue learning to read the signs and remain tuned to our innate guidance system.

Our purpose is to evolve happily and that's just what we are committed to doing. We have defined our personal version of this and are continually refining our health blueprints (beliefs, thoughts, values etc.) to align them to this image. Have you defined a personal expression of Life and Health?

I am happy to share another perspective about any health conditions that may be keeping you or a loved one from Loving the Life you Live.

Coming up next is the work Blueprint.

...until I post again
J. x

* source: You Can Heal Your Body by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 3 of 4

About migraines, Metaphysics reminded me that the root cause of this condition is the thoughts I have with feeling that are in accord with the "Dislike of being driven. Resisting the flow of life. Sexual fears." It also says, see headaches which states, "Invalidating the self. Self-criticism. Fear."*

As mentioned in the previous posts, I believe that all conditions are produced in correspondence with the thoughts I have with feeling that are consolidated, validated and reinforced by the words I speak and the actions I take. Every thought, feeling, word and action takes me toward or away from my ideal.

In my contemplation of the content of these posts, it occurred to me just recently that I learnt about migraines from a neighbour. She used to get them to the extreme that would render her incapacitated for up to three days at a time. The only time she left her darkened room or bed in these moments was to violently throw up/vomit.

On reflection, and from a place of uncritical observation about the past thinking that produced this condition in me, I can see that I learnt early the dislike of being driven, pushed or coerced into doing anything that didn't sit well with me. I didn't know there was a "flow to life" so it's no wonder I resisted - I didn't like what I was experiencing, so I certainly didn't want to flow with it.

I began early to endeavour to control life given it often seemed out of control to me. Particularly as a small child, my parents, in an attempt to protect my brother and I, would argue throughout the night turning my little stomach into knots of dread and fear.

The parents I mention here are of a version dating back approximately 38 years. We have all morphed into a very different version of who we were at the time these conditions and experiences took place. That being said, it was from my parents that I first observed this dislike of being driven.

My father, displayed what I might refer to as a severe case of emotional instability. I recall him on occasions threatening to end his life and I am, to this day, unaware of the beliefs that drove this style of personality and behaviour. I am however aware of the ones that eventually caused this same condition to prevail in me. Mum was the other character in this play, taking on the role of victim/rescuer of this challenging emotional expression.

I tolerated few people, especially teachers (whom I generally liked and who liked me), telling me what to do and how to do it. I absolutely disliked being driven in the direction of someone else's agenda and learnt well how to invalidate my self and be highly critical of myself which I masked by becoming critical of others. I judged and found most folks as being highly incompetent.

These days, through the study, coaching and conversation, I am aware that what I speak and observe in others is what, at some level (consciously or unconsciously), I like or dislike about my self.

In life there cannot be an abuser without a victim, a carer without a patient, or a rescuer without an endangered one. We are all playing roles in this existence we call humanity. Additional knowledge I found useful when it came to playing a different role, a more "ideal' role, is that in any moment, even right now, I am free to choose again.

As well as the victim/rescuer, to me mum was the rock, the stabiliser, and the main influencer in developing an intense personality of independence and justice in me. These traits have served me both well and not so well and which I spent much time refining. While there were things about my parents I didn't admire, today, there are also ones I do and this list grows longer. Through the understanding and practice of grace and forgiveness (A Course in Miracles being one of the influential sources in this process), I have completely embraced that everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this place. Once upon a time this place didn't feel ideal, for many reasons, and now - because life has become so delectable, my feelings of gratitude grow ever deeper.

The first step to overcoming migraines was again Awareness. I felt is was possible and made the choice to end this cycle - I recall reaching the point of "This is enough! No more!" Initially, Metaphysics provided the new thought program which I read and affirmed often, "I relax into the flow of life and let life provide all that I need easily and comfortably. Life is for me." And, "I love and approve of myself. I see myself and what I do with eyes of love. I am safe."*

In conjunction with Metaphysics I was introduced to and adopted the practise of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) - an ancient asian technique of tapping on the body's meridians, or pressure points, to relieve undesirable conditions of all sorts, including limiting beliefs and deicisions. It was highly effective for me, enabling me to return my compromised vision that indicated the onset of a migraine from 20 minutes to under 5, and reduce the throbbing headache from anywhere up to 16 hours, and copius amounts of medication, to under 10 minutes.

Being the work in progress that I am, again it takes great vigilance to monitor my thoughts and emotions to avoid the undesirable health condition that manifests or shows up in the form of a headache or migraine. However, the evidence that my health Blueprint for this condition has been permanently altered and continually improving is again unquestionable.

I'll wrap up the health Blueprint series in the next part. I will set the knee problem aside, momentarily at least, and share some thoughts on the subject of depression before moving on to the next topic of the work Blueprint.

I welcome any queries about any of the health conditions listed in Part 1 of this health series or any other that may be of interest to you.

Here are some questions to contemplate if you feel inclined to do so:

1. Are you still holing on to events that occurred in the past? How much longer are you willing to live there giving that the laws that govern life say that what we think about with feeling produces the conditions of our future that are coming to greet us?
    
2. What act/role are you playing and is it serving you well? Does this role assist or keep others and yourself in an undesirable place or is it empowering and encouraging change and growth?
    
3. Are you being observant of the thoughts and emotions that are producing your health conditions - the good ones and the not so good one?

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: Your Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 2 of 4

By considering the messages I received about health as a child, especially the first vital, impressionable 10 years, I invoke the first of the Universal Truths - "Keys to a Better Life" being Awareness. I cannot change anything I do not first acknowledge as being either something I desire more or less of.

I was programmed with a health Blueprint that was predominantly focused on the limited and undesirable half of the health spectrum. Not too far along the negative side in most instances, but certainly not on the half that continually expresses the seven characteristics of the Spirit of Life, as taught by Judge Thomas Troward, being love, light, power, peace, beauty and joy. This occurred not because my parents, carers and educators wanted to harm, hurt, or damage me but because they did the best they could with the information they acquired.

This being so, in my adult years from my early 20s through to my mid 30s in particular, I unconsciously reproduced conditions that were extremely undesirable. These included cold sores that appeared from early primary school years and became a regular occurrence including getting a couple a month, ongoing, towards the end of this cycle of belief, just a few years ago. The migraines I experienced began at age 19 and lasted up to 16 hours. I recalled only recently that I had a neighbour I liked a lot that used to get them in a highly debilitating way. Inflammation/Fluid around my knees rendered me unable to walk around many Friday evenings, and my biggest health challenge, depression, began as mild and undiagnosed episodes since childhood becoming manic in my early thirties.  The day I was diagnosed with manic depression I was provided with a doctor's certificate for three months of sick leave and enough drugs for the same period...in under eight minutes. Within three days of commencing this leave and medication, I felt so disorientated in my life and in my body that I didn't want to be there anymore.

It was at this cross road, that a beloved friend handed me a book that she hadn't read at the time but came recommended by one of her trusted friend, and it turned my every thought about Life on its head. Do you know the type?

It was the impetus to reaching the conclusion or rather the commencement of a thought process that went, "If I am willing to check-out of life, why don't I just change all the things I don't like about it."  Within six months I had changed pretty much everything external to me - my relationship of 19 years came to a relatively amicable conclusion, I changed my job, the state I lived in, and my friends - not all for my immediate betterment but all of which contributed to my recognition some five years later, and with the ongoing assitance of my most incredible mirror, change agent/coach and life partner Anthony Harvey, that the one and only thing that constantly requires direct, focussed attention for change is me. By me, I don't mean more of the things around me, like my partner, my body, my friends, my home, or my clothes, I mean my beliefs.

When I changed my beliefs about my health I changed my world.

According to the thefreedictionary.com Metaphysics is branch of philosophy that deals with first principles, especially of being and knowing. It examines the nature of reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, substance and attribute, fact and value. In summary, I describe Metaphysics as a branch of philosophy that recognises that for each and every physical condition there is a mental thought process as its cause. To me Metaphysics is the understanding of the body's Cause and Effect.

Through the application of Metaphysics I gained a new understanding about all of the undesirable conditions listed in the previous post Part 1.  In particular, regarding cold sores, migraines, knee problems, and depression the understandings I gained, the actions I took, and the outcomes I produced were as follows:

Of cold sores, Metaphysics says that the old thought process (root cause) of this condition is, "Festering angry words and fear of expressing them." And, the extension of this condition, Herpes Simplex (Herpes Labialis), is "Burning to bitch. Bitter words left unspoken."* 

Every member of my family got cold sores and in my recollection we had them regularly and frequently. As the ancients say, "Like Attracts Like" and it was certainly true again of this condition. In the "communication" arena, I learnt what I saw, heard and felt which consisted predominantly of arguments, condemnation, criticism and impatience. As I became more and more aware of the particular thoughts, feelings, words and actions that brought with them the condition called cold sores, I began to impress upon my sub-conscious mind, with my conscious mind, a different belief. I wrote down and repeated often, "I only create peaceful experiences because I love myself. All is well." And, " I think and speak only words of love. I am at peace with life."*

So simple, don't you think…? Simple it is, but it's not always easy. Seven years on and I must remain ever vigilant with my thoughts, feelings, words and actions to maintain a cold sore free complexion. It is not that I no longer feel my emotions, including upset, sorrow, annoyance and anger but I am ever working my mental and emotional muscles to ensure they are fit and focussed and my aim is to feel my feelings from an uncritical place of observation to the best of my current ability. I feel the feeling and ask the question in parallel, "what is this condition telling me about myself?"

and this is how parts are born… stay tuned for part 3 of 3 or perhaps 4... :D

until I post again
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay. 

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 1 of 4
(revised Tue, 16 Oct) 

It was via Abraham-Hicks that I first read that every subject has two subjects. Take this first subject of health for example, there is the subject of poor health and there is the subject of exceptional health.  In my further study and truth, it is not so much that every subject has two subjects but rather that every subject has two extreme contrasts that exist on either end of the same spectrum of possibility.  And, on this spectrum of possibility exists a myriad of contrast available for our choosing e.g. poor health, not enough heath, failing health; and on the other end, improving health, good health, great health, and so on.  

In my understanding, both ends of the spectrum exist simultaneously and are a single subject.  What determines our experience and conditions is what we place our attention on.

At one end of the health spectrum we have the limited, contracted, and undesirable aspect of the subject and at the other end we have health in all its fullness - expressed as a state of consciousness that is ideal.

If we were asked to role play or act out either end of the spectrum, generally speaking and with sufficient rehearsing, we would have no trouble thinking about, feeling the feelings of, speaking in terms that were conducive with, and acting in ways that expressed a person with either failing, or ever increasing health.  

Always, it's the same subject with both possibilities existing simultaneously depending on the role being rehearsed over and over in thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

Here is how I believe my Health Blueprint works: According to sociologist Morris Massey, our beliefs and values (which I'm referring to as our Blueprints) are effectively programmed into us in the same manner we are initially conditioned about our gender, taught language, adopt our spiritual beliefs, learn to crawl, or walk, gain an understanding of the roles we play in relationship, the value of money, or any other value or behaviour. Depending on the repetitive messages we receive verbally, visually, audibly, and kinaesthetically etc. determines our Blueprint about that subject.  

My recollections of the messages I received in relation to health included:

• new born babies through to teenage years require immunisations to prevent them from contracting and dispensing illnesses
• children go through primary school years passing on and receiving all sorts of highly contagious conditions including knits/hair lice as well as mumps, measles, and chicken pox
• ear aches and tonsillitis predominantly effect children
• if I move my cold extremities (fingers, toes, ears and nose) to heat too quickly I will develop chill blains
• headaches are caused by stress
• migraines are caused by poor eyesight, overuse of a computer, and stress
• poor eyesight is caused from too much computer use and reading fine print
• neck, shoulder, and back pain are all caused by stress and poor posture, predominantly from sitting at a computer too long, alternatively we can sleep wrong, or get injured through physical activity
• cold sores are initiated by receiving a knock to the chin or lip, and recur when being run down, and spending too much time in the sun
• thrush/candida is caused by wearing synthetic underwear like nylon and elastin
• acne is a puberty related condition, skin conditions are weather or stress related, and a rash means that we have an internal illness or used the wrong soap/detergent
• almost all of the above are all highly contagious
• depression is caused by a chemical imbalance
• fluid around my joints occurred from hours of dance practice and teaching
• diseases like cancer are illnesses we get by drawing a short straw, or abusing substances such as tobacco and alcohol
• as adults we are required to continue getting immunisations to travel, to prevent catching colds and flues; and to have babies when we can't seem to do so naturally; and
• that our eyesight, hearing, joints, organs, minds and memory deteriorate with age - not to mention all the other aches, pain, ailments and illnesses that come with ageing. 

The above are all conditions I recall dealing with directly or observing most in others.

If, as the sages of the ages tell us, thoughts with feelings create our reality, and I believe with everything in me - a belief founded on years of study and practical implementation into the Cause of Life - that this is the one and only cause of our life experiences, it's no wonder I was somewhat of a hypocondriac.  Although I don't think I was a sickly child on the outside I do remember contracting a share of whatever was going around.  More than this I remember entertaining thoughts of terminal illnesses and death a lot and being perplexed that we supposedly had an almighty, loving God with unlimited powers, yet there was so much earthly suffering.

This is what my Health Blueprint was and where it came from. In the following parts of the Blueprint on health, I'll share what I did to reprogram it and what results I achieved.

What are or were some of your messages about health?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

An Introduction to Blueprints

Throughout the various modalities and avenues of personal development Anthony and I have travelled, there is always a chapter about what keeps our ideals, goals, milestones, or whatever terms we give them, from manifesting or reaching us.  These blocks, obstacles, limiting decisions and beliefs, self sabotaging patterns of behaviour, or whatever terms these hindrances are given, play a key role in keeping us from living an ideal life.

Generally speaking, I believe that the achievement or non achievement of our ideals has a great deal to do with our Blueprints. I define my Blueprints as those set of plans and drawings, the model or prototype, upon which my conscious and subconscious minds have been programmed.  This programming is based on years, especially the vital first 10*, when our values, beliefs and understandings about major concepts governing our state of health, work attitudes, relationships, spirituality, and money are introduced and consolidated. The consolidation process occurs via the repetitive thoughts, feelings, words, and actions that occur in relation to each of these topics producing like conditions to affirm them as true, even when they are not.

A subject of great interest to Anthony and I is identifying ways to transcend or modify the Blueprints that no longer serve us.  More than this, we wanted to be able to do so in a manner that was easy and elegant and with results that enabled the change to be rapid and lasting. The process we developed, and which has produced the most effective coaching and self-coaching techniques we've discovered to date :o) is the four Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3.

This series of posts is a behind the scenes look at how and why the Awareness + 1, 2, 3 technique works. They are intended to drill down momentarily, taking a side step from the easy and elegant, rapid, lasting change process to show these working based on personal experiences and case studies we've undertaken.

My intention in writing and publishing these is that others may also obtain keys to unlocking doors that seemingly separate them from moving forward and prospering. It is to recognise those patterns or cycles that we can unconsciously produce that seem to land us over and over again in undesirable places and unwanted conditions.

The reason why I wish to present this information, free of charge, is because I feel divinely inspired to do so. While we are works in progress, we know that the information we have attained and the manner in which we have processed and codified it is highly valuable. Further, I accept the phrase that we teach what we want to learn most, and that the gift is in the giving and the receiving.

While the space in which to share is concise, considering I endeavour to keep my posts up to an A4 page of text, you are invited to utilise the comments sections on Facebook or TypePad to ask any questions on the topic at hand that are relevant to you, a member of your family, or on behalf of a friend.   If you wish to participate and remain anonymous, please email or message me via Facebook and I will maintain your anonymity. I will however publish all queries and respond to those queries publicly.

The first Blueprint to be introduced is one that defined, and continues to define, our state of health.

Let us begin…

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

* Refer post: What's important to you?

Filler

I've titled this post Filler because in a sense that is what it is.  In another sense however it affods me the space to share with you that there are times I am writing/typing a post for hours and because my desire to share so many concepts, experiences and results about manifesting an ideal life are abundant, sometimes topics merge into each other and the post I am working on becomes neither about one or the other :D.  As a result, I either temporarily or permanently set it aside to start on another topic that has burst to the forefront.

At times, like this, a topic can consume my thoughts and feelings to such a degree I can't recall the precise message I was hoping to share through the current post.

The other thing that occurs through writing, which I highly recommend, be it for publication or not, is that insights and epiphanies occur as I read and reread my work causing me to see a concept in an entirely new light.

The topic that is consuming me on this occasion is about Blueprints and in particular how our personal Blueprints about health, work, relationship, spirituality, and money, carried out consciously or unconsciously, determine our conditions and Cultures as individuals, in family, at our work place, and as nations…

Thanks for visiting and stay tuned…

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J x

One thing is for Certain

 
The company with whom I'm currently engaged is in the throes of massive transformation. No surprises there given my belief that everything and everyone, in my unique perspecitve of the world, is in some form or another a reflection of my Self. : )

The greatest corporate transformation I've experienced to-date was when the Melbourne aviation office I was engaged with from 1998 to 2004 outsourced its products and services resulting in the office's closer and redundancy of all team members.

During the closure period, around August to December, my business success and human potential studies were in their infancy.  They had progressed enough however to gain an intellectual understanding that, in Truth, "Life is happening through me, not to me".

That small family of 10, part of a global company employing in excess of 25,000, united by consciously or unconsciously agreeing on a couple of key concepts including;

• One Thing for Certain is...Change; and
  
  
• Thoughts and Attitudes play a big part in our current change experiences and in our next professional engagement, our home life, our health, and goodness knows what else, now and in the future...

The outcome: every member of that family stayed until the final day and immediately transitioned to roles we considered to be an advancement for one reason or another.

Another major factor I believe contributed to that outcome was the leadership capabilities and competencies of our Managing Director. More about these another time - they're important!

On my newest stage, I find myself surrounded by more lovely people.  In my immediate vicinity there are 26 of them. My experience is that they are warm, friendly, professional, fun loving, family oriented, and highly intelligent people in their fields.

Late last week, following an office group function, five guys (amongst them leaders from our team) were chatting. Not too long after joining them to say hello, I asked the group a question... It went something like;

So, who here thinks they'll still have a job in 6 to 12 months? :|

My conscious mind, the one that operates in conjunction with my five physical senses, wants to dedicate the next couple of paragraphs to justifying why I asked the question in this manner, just as it briefly attempted to do at the time. Yet, when I invite my sub-conscious mind to contribute a perspective it offers something quite different...

My sub-conscious mind, the part that operates in conjunction with my feelings enables me to have an emotional attachment with the people I'm around, in fact people in general these days, that springs from a base of Love.  From that place my question resembles something more like;

"This is a big time for you guys, most of you are husbands and fathers, with homes and bills to pay, children to educate, lives to plan, relationships to be enjoyed. What are you making of this time and job security?" : )

Some of these guys have been with the company for a decade or more.  Fortunately, they are sharp and fast and got my intent real quick so we went on to have a candid conversation for the last few minutes of the gathering.

It was great to discover that these guys are not just colleagues, they're mates.  I loved they're honest sharing.  One colleague expressed it was Certainty he desired.  A knowing which way things are going to go - one way or the other.  They were frank in their understanding that new blood often brings known blood with them to the table - people they have worked with in the past.  So they most want to know where they stand.

When I asked if it really was Certainty they sought, another colleague suggested that it's Transparency in terms of simply being kept informed.

I agreed, I believe Transparency is paramount when people do not yet have the understanding and experience that we are creating our own reality and that in truth job security is not up to anyone or anything outside our self.  In this interim, Transparency forms part of the foundation of basic respect and is a two way street.

By the end, our conversation left me contemplating two Certainties...the first is as this post implies, Change is Certain. The second certainty is that we are always in transition and there is an easy and elegant manner for this transition to occur.

I believe company culture and company success, like individual personalities and our ability to prosper, are external expressions of our internal beliefs and values.

The significant Change that will determine this company
and individual's outcomes are the changes that are going on within.

Now, regarding Getting into the Spirit of my city abode...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

The Waiting Game

A blog about Manifestation

The greatest fascination I have currently, regarding the Law of Attraction, New Thought, or Mental Science, is the speed at which it takes to manifest our desired objects, relationships and conditions.

Is there a way to determine or influence how long it takes for our "stuff" to show up?

I honestly believe there is, and one of the ways I am applying and improving this process is by gaining a greater understanding of the Natural Law of Growth as well as getting into the Spirit of a Thing.

Allow me to explain my interpretation of the Natural Law of Growth concept with these examples...

Simply put, if my desire is to draw to myself an ideal role, optimum health, a gazillion dollars, or a fabulous relationship, I must first become this person in my imagination.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. ~ Proverbs 23:7

In doing so I will Grow into these roles naturally by attracting or drawing to me the right and perfect resources (people, places, information, funds etc.) and conditions (objects, opportunities, roles, learings, timing etc.) required to Be this person, Do these activities, and Have these experiences.

While today marks day four of my "ideal role" (a stepping stone to my grander aspirations of service), I rehearsed the role on and off (a significant inhibitor to speedy manifestation) for about six months in my imagination prior to it showing up in our three dimensional existence. I have been practicing on stage for three more months and only now beginning to gain some real clarity about how this is contributing to what my version of highest personality and "ideal" is.

During this time I have been observing a variety of feelings, especially in the past few weeks, and the ones I am specifically interested in right now are in regard to the three hours of travel required to get to and from my place of service.

When I consider "what's ideal" for the next phase of this journey, it is evident after 12 weeks that three hours travel, even though I utilise these moments productively, is not "ideal" for five days straigt, week in week out.

This part of the process we call Awareness. I am Aware that I would rather a different travel schedule.

My desired outcome in this role is to provide exceptional service. In doing so, I believe it will generate feelings of appreciation for my knowledge, skills and talents and also reflect desirable conditions of being highly valued - a reflection of the amount and style of value I am and will continue offering and delivering.

In Being and Doing what I next desire...what would be really ideal...is to Have access to an inner city abode, as well as the haven and expanse that the mountain cabin provides. This way, I can achieve greater flexibility in relation to office hours enabling me to perform my duties and provide the Executive I support with even greater service and value.

My first tendency when I thought of this was still to consider "how" this was going to happen. Although I know "how" is not my responsibility, I am now recognising that there are degrees of "how". Recognising and surrendering all attempts to control or dictate "how" a desired condition objectifies itself is what I'm addressing right now.

My role in this glorious, delectable Play called "Life" is to contemplate my undesirable condition from an uncritical place of observation.

Instead of thinking and saying things like, "we may not be able to afford it" and "it's not like someone is going to just give us a place", instead I clearly define "what". What's ideal? What do I now desire?

Here's what I am doing at present to surrender and release "how", in all its disguises.

An initial thought that came to me about a city abode was, "I desire a fully furnished apartment, on a top floor, free of charge."

By the natural Law of Growth this has evolved into, "My Loving Father/Mother willing provides me with the perfect abode, in the perfect place, in the perfect way, under grace, knowing that my deepest desires include:

• To be in walking distance to the office
• To have access to a large private balcony or private rooftop space
• That the premises is new and fresh or aged and funky (warehouse style)
• Lots of natural lighting
• Reliable hot water, heating and cooling
• Reliable Internet access
• Easy access; and
• A car space

That or Better!

And, in a way I do not know, you do not know, no man knows,
it will harden into fact!

In my next post I'll share what I do to get into the Spirit of this thing called "My ideal city abode!"

until I post again...
Live a Life you Love
J. x

Too Cool For You

"Keys to a Better Life" 

How do I get rid of an old thought?

 
During the week, a friend of Universal Truths said and asked the following:

"I’ve been thinking about something and have a question. I realised that ever since growing up, I carry with me a standard that was past on to me which hasn’t served me any good then and now. It's a process that I recognise is getting in the way of my ability to be appreciative of others.

Growing up, I would take one look at a person and 'measure' their coolness. 

“I got teased when I was younger,
so I go out of my way to make sure I ‘fit in’.”

I have these categories where I put people in certain types of groups: 'people that are way too cool for me'; 'people that are cool enough'; 'people that aren’t so cool but I would still hang out with'; 'people that aren’t cool at all'.

I don’t just do that to others, I do it to myself as well. I put myself in one category as if that’s where I belong.

Today, I know it's getting in the way of feeling free to be me with others I encounter.

“How do I get rid of an old thought?”

Whilst there are a number of discussion points around this undesirable condition, this post has been primarily written to address the question: How do I get rid of an old thought?

The first Universal Truths Key to a Better Life is Awareness. Only by acknowledging or becoming aware that something or someone may no longer be serving our expansion towards living our highest expression, can we do something about it.

Further, the problem is never the problem! The problem here is not that this person had limiting beliefs passed on to them, or that they are unable to fully appreciate others, or that they got teased growing up, or that they categorise themself and others. These are all conditions and whilst many conditions from our past need acknowledgement and forgiveness, they are not today's problem. In fact, I would go so far as to say, there is no problem. Rather, what we have here is another opportunity to ‘feel free to be me’.

A distinction between what we do and what other personal development and psychological approaches do is that the latter often addresses the conditions and asks ‘why’ a lot. Why don’t you appreciate others? Why do you think you got teased? Why don’t you feel cool? And so on… Upon delving into these questions there is often an element of criticism that emerges for one self and others. Also, in our experience ‘why’, in this context, is useless because it is endless…

Instead, at Universal Truths, we turn Key 2 and suggest that once our awareness toward desirable or undesirable conditions has been identified, we become The Great Observer. That is, from a place of uncritical observation we consider ‘what’ impact has this style of thinking had? ‘What’ style of thinking is this? e.g. is it physical or spiritual, contracting or expanding, regressive or progressive?  ‘What’ feelings does this thinking generate? And, ‘what’ conditions did it produce?

Making uncritical observations broadens our awareness enabling us to become better equipped to contain situations, welcome them by understanding there are new gifts about to revealed, address them from the present moment, and progress in an easier, more elegant, and rapid manner.

Key 3 is to Refine our Imagination and is a real key in the ‘how to’ process. The masters tell us that ‘how’ is not our role to play. Rather, our role in the co-creation of our ideal life is to define and refine the ‘what’. 

We change old thoughts, word, actions and conditions by asking questions like, “What do I now desire?  e.g. my desire is to feel free to be me and to appreciate others. What feelings would the accomplishment of these new desires produce? e.g. feelings of freedom and liberty, respect and appreciation, oneness, worthiness etc. Who will this allow me to be? e.g. loving, friendly, fun to be with, relaxed, uniquely expressive. What new conditions will this new way of thinking produce? e.g. I’ll get to meet new and interesting people, enjoy beautiful interaction, and appreciate a variety of personal expressions. I get to express myself freely.

The more consideration and aliveness we give to Key 3 the faster we move from where we are to where and what we next desire to be, to do, and to have. You may wish to review the Phases of Change post for more detail about this process (a link has been provided at the end).

Once we have refined our imagination and given definition and life to the next greatest version of who we wish to be, the fourth and final key in the process is to be Grateful for the inevitable and joyous experiences that are already present, but which we haven’t been able to notice, as well as the new ones now rushing towards us through the natural Law of Growth and Cause of Life.

The moment we imagine what we now desire, the greater part of us, our eternal essence or the Spirit of Life becomes it immediately and through our focussed attention on what we want and how that feels now, we attract from Spirit its correlating matter or form. That is, we attract the like conditions.

So, in summary, my answer to the question, 'how do I get rid of an old thought?' is; by replacing it with a better one. And a process to do so is through the application of the four Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life”.

1. Become aware of it (the undesirable thought and/or correlating condition(s)).
2. Contemplate it from a place of uncritical observation.
3. Refine your imagination by defining what you now desire.
4. Be grateful for its completion by detaching from anything unlike your new desire, focussing on like thoughts, and feeling the feelings of your wishes fulfilled.

Try it for yourself and let us know how you go…

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Helpful Posts: What Vs Why; Phases of Change – A 6 Step Process

Who Am I Being?

"Keys to a Better Life" 

"All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you." ~ don Miguel Ruiz

Following a number of conversations and observations recently, I’ve been reminded of how much we are generally conditioned to spend our time discerning who someone else is being. By our comments, often unconsciously, we remark about whether or not we perceive others as being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on…

Over the past decade or so, I have been introduced and reintroduced to the concept, from a plethora of sources, that everyone and everything is my mirror. That is, all things and conditions are a direct reflection of what I think about and radiate about who I am. Having spent many hours contemplating this concept, and integrating it into my life, it became evident to me through these conversations, just how little (if any) time I now spend concerned with or about what or who someone else is being.

Instead, what has transpired is that I have become acutely aware of other people’s self expression but only for the purpose of providing me with a contextual field i.e. when I hear about, read a Facebook post or Blog from, listen to, or have a direct interaction with another, I use what my physical senses are transmitting to revalue and refine who I am being.

As an example, several people have been sharing their challenges and experiences with me in relation to their mothers, some of who are also their children’s grandparent. Our initial response to these conditions, based on our prior conditioning, often puts us in the position of being critical of what the other has said or done - usually a clear indication that a values conflict has occurred – leaving us open to slights, insults or getting sucked into their drama.

When we consider large concepts like, “everyone and everything is a reflection of who I am being”, and begin implementing and testing these concepts throughout our own life, we gain an insight into even larger concepts such as “I am the centre of my universe”. Doing so gives us an opportunity to recognise that everything that has every occurred, is occurring, and will occur is for the sole/soul purpose of causing our expansion and evolution toward a higher expression of the Self, through us.

Rather than reacting to old conditioning and continually drawing to us old and undesirable conditions, we can begin to dissolve them, not by critiquing or judging whether or not someone else is being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on; but rather using their reflection to further become aware of, Who am I being as a … and, when we recognise there may be moments when we too are being impatient, unloving, uncaring, rude, hurtful, ignorant etc. we then get to ask, from a place of uncritical observation, Who do I now wish to be.

In this way, instead of spending our time contemplating who someone ‘should be’, we begin investing our time designing and refining our next best expression of our Self.

Related posts:

Have you been sucked into the Vortex lately?
Judgement Vs Observation
We don’t smash the mirror
God send nothing but angels

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Have you been sucked into a Vortex lately?

"Keys to a Better Life"

Over the past couple of weeks two Facebook (FB) occurrences captured my attention more than others. One was to do with local politics and the other KONY2012.

When the KONY2012 film swarmed FB, I took the time to watch it. I was deeply moved by its contents in a number of internal and external ways. It moved me into action by reviewing related posts on FB by the likes of Oprah Winfrey, Anthony Robbins, Louise L. Hay, Wayne Dyer and others. I visited the Invisible Children and related websites. I reviewed a number of related FB pages, including videos and YouTubes posted and, by my internal response to what I viewed, I was lead to ‘Like’ Pages and repost the KONY2012 film as well as the Invisible Children’s LRA Defection Flier video.

My contact with this FB occurrence made me feel uplifted, not by the atrocities the film reveals of course but by the commitment, passion, devotion, focus, determination, courage, unity, compassion, and generally progressive manner these individuals are demonstrating themselves.

The other event that occurred last week was that I came across a FB discussion between a local council candidate and local media representative.  Their dialogue also moved me however it didn’t generate any of the feelings the KONY2012 film did.  From this representation I wanted to distance myself, was deflated, disheartened, and saw no signs of how this style of self representation and discourse did any good for the individuals, or the community.

Since then, I have seen posts and a video contradicting the Invisible Children cause and all of the ones I have seen are again what I consider to be a contracted version of our highest representation.  The stance taken is to attack, belittle, put down, make demands of, and generally discredit another while in one manner or another promote self.  Not to mention the angry, attacking, often profane, ignorant comments individuals post with the intent to also judge and discredit.  Given we are all doing the best we can with the information we have, perhaps this is their way of feeling better about themselves and to continue using those outside of them as a distraction from looking within.

Regardless of the situation, we each have our own process for discerning whether a thing is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ as well as the ability to exercise our intuition on such matters; both of which are more easily accomplished when our personal values and personality are being progressively refined. The negative folk amongst us always find negative evidence to support ones views while the positive amongst us the positive views - for the axioms “birds of a feather flock together” and “like attracts like” are truisms for a reason.

Regardless of what we bring to our attention, what matters most is how we choose to respond to it. This is the difference between being an observer for the purpose of defining and refining our self, or getting sucked into the vortex and making a judgement about what others are doing and who they are being.  Instead of getting sucked into the vortex of disharmony and chaos, another option is to ask our self, “What can I learn from this situation?” and “What does this situation teach/tell me about myself.”

By doing so we go from Awareness to Uncritical Observation and from a place of uncritical observation, we can choose and Desire what we perceive to be a better definition of personal expression. Once defined, by Focussing our attention on what we now want, and expressing Gratitude for its inevitable fulfilment, in time that desire refines our personality and comes into expression.

Do not imagine anything but good,
because under the law of thought combined with substance
it will sooner or later come into expression,
unless you head it off, eliminate it by denial.
~ Charles Fillmore

All events, situations and conditions are merely temporary occurrences in our grand contextual field for the purpose of providing us with an opportunity to further define and refine our highest personality.

Awareness is the Key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3.

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

A Little Ray of Sunshine

has come into the world…


"Keys to a Better Life" 

A few months ago, one of the amazing women in my life invited me to assist her birth her first born child naturally.  As she is a student of Life and very dear friend of Universal Truths (the laws and principles that govern Cause & Effect), I was deeply honoured.

On Saturday, the 28^th of January 2012, an extension of Spirit, conceived in the exact same manner all things are – first by thought, and then by feeling, by taking divinely inspired action, and by remaining faithful to these thoughts and feelings – was expressed in the form of a precious little baby girl who was birthed naturally in water.

There were many realisations that occurred to me throughout the day. One of these was just how far off track we have wandered in some instances and just how much closer to our true nature we are evolving in others.

It was the intention of the mother-to-be that this experience be as non-invasive to her and her child as possible. As the day unfolded, the more sacred the event I was witnessing and actively got involved in, became.

The more connected I became with the birthing mum, the more intense the feeling of Oneness grew.  Whilst this tiny little physical vehicle was being designed and developed through the most intricate and orderly scientific, biological and Divinely Intelligent processes over the past nine months, we knew the greater part of her remained directly connected to the Spirit of Life.

Knowing and trusting played a great part in this glorious event. 

As we continue to keep our thoughts as connected and progressive as our ‘work in progress’ status enables us to, the sacredness of the day and the knowing and trusting in our Oness continues.

Whilst there may be moments in the past 48 hours that may be considered less than ‘ideal’ for this new mum, as she remains progressive, focussed, and lovingly responsive, the one and only Source of all things (with whom we connect via our consciousness) continues to co-produce one beautiful condition after another.

Thank you and Congratulations Beautiful Lady! A very warm welcome to this Little Ray of Sunshine that has come into the world!

 

Until next time…
Life the Life you Love
J x

Cause & Effect…

"Keys to a Better Life"

When we feel certain frustrations, we have a tendency to think that making changes to the conditions will fix everything. This is attempting to live by the law of effect & cause which is a reverse of the actual Law.

Using any law back-to-front produces back-to-front results. While it is true that changing our actions can generate changes to our conditions (effects)…our actions are not the First Cause of our experiences.

Acting better is as long term effective as thinking better;
both are surface level changes that produce temporary improvement.

First Cause consists of nouns and adjectives such as Being and Knowing so, when we change the reason (Cause) that attracted the undesirable conditions to us in the first place, we are sure to experience different conditions that ultimately generate more and lasting desirable results and feelings.

To change our unwanted conditions and outcomes, easily and elegantly and with lasting change, it is imperative we use the Law correctly. As it is the Law of Cause & Effect, we are to first contemplate the thoughts we have with feelings about the topic in hand, be it at home, at work, or in relationship. Following this key step we call 'Awareness', the rest is 1, 2, 3 * - all of which, in turn, cause us to take different actions which, in turn attract different conditions, and result in ongoing improved experiences and feelings.

Cause > Effect

Thoughts with feeling drive our words and actions
which attract, produce or reflect like conditions - (people, places and events).

Make 2012 about you, because we can't give what we haven't got and,
until next time...
Live the Life you Love!
J. x


* to read Posts about the Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3 click on Awareness (Part 2 of 5) or My Ideal Week, type Awareness in the Search field, or click on the Awareness Category from any page.

My Ideal Week

"Keys to a Better Life"

I use the Universal Truths - Four "Keys to a Better Life" (Awareness + 1, 2, 3), to plan and prepare my ideal week.

I also take inspired action to get there... Where's there? The feeling of the wish fulfilled.

Key 1: Awareness + 1: from a place of Uncritical Observation

I have reviewed my previous week's conditions to recognise what moments were not ideal. My feelings are my guidance system.

I know I'm observing my past experiences critically when I get sucked into the drama; and I know I'm observing them uncritically when they inform me how I felt when that person and those conditions presented them-self.

Key 2: What's ideal?

Knowing what I don't want, I then contemplate and discuss (only ever with myself or Anthony) what I would rather feel. What would I feel were I to have a great week?

Key 3: Desire / Imagination

I design a single scene that would imply fulfilment of my desire and I attach a short phrase (up to 3 words) to it, like, “This is great!”, “I love it”, “Perfect”.

Having clearly established what it would feel like to experience an ideal outcome in any area of my life, I hold my will here (to the thought + feeling most predominantly generated in the above activity).

In my meditations, I make there-here and then-now until my picture is so alive with feeling as to make it Believable. Then I desire it no more. I can never experience in form anything I keep separate from me. To continually desire something implies that I don't yet have it.

Key 4: Detach

Throughout the week, in my mind, I will continue to Be the person who has had a great week and I’ll frequently, throughout each day, feel that feeling and repeat that phrase.

I’ll spend many moments in gratitude that all that I require is already available and keeps 'showing up' at the right and perfect time, in the right and perfect form.

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

You and I

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Who’s this ‘You’, you keep telling me about…?

Several years ago, it was brought to my attention that we mostly speak in ‘you’ rather than ‘I’ tense statements.  An example might be, “I really love Gold class, but you never find movies you like.”

“Hmmm, is that true for me..?” Who’s this ‘you’, you keep telling me about?

When we speak in ‘I’ consciousness
we take ownership of our communication
as well as the experience we’re talking about.

‘I’ communication places the responsibility for what we say with us – the place we need it to be to do something with it.

My experience when replacing ‘you’ with ‘I ‘in communication has been very beneficial for my emotional awakening.  ‘Aha moments’ live in ‘I’ tense statements and whilst this style of communication can be confronting on occasions, on the whole it introduced me to an emotional buffet.

For the first time in my life
I began to feel my feelings fully
because I made my communication personal.

When my communication became personal, I found I didn’t need or desire to over speak. I became more interested in listening to what others have to say and just how much of their communication they make personal.

Now when ‘I’ hear someone say, “I really dislike Monday’s because you realise you haven’t done much with your weekend. Who has time to plan their ‘ideal’ week.” I know who they’re really talking about.

This week I’ll again be taking ownership of my communication and becoming more aware of the use of ‘you’ instead of ‘I’.   I plan to make it all personal.

Until next time…
Love the Life you Live
J. x

Tolerance, Information, Personal Responsibility

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Earlier this week I observed a conversation by a group of individuals who were discussing feedback received in their department from airline passengers complaining that they had been inconvenienced because the person sitting next to them was overweight.

In general, these passengers complained that because the overweight person beside them took up in excess of the seat allocated to them, their own flight became physically uncomfortable and caused practical inconveniences such as access to and from their seat, use of tray tables, constantly being bumped by cabin crew passing by and so on.

As it wasn’t what they’d paid for (i.e. they purchased a full seat but only gained access to half of one), they were demanding some form of compensation from the airline.

Who or What in these instances is at fault?  Is it the overweight passenger, the airline or the passenger placing the complaint?

They shared various perspectives:

“Humanity has become completely intolerant” was the sentiment of one individual, who by their own admission is overweight.  “What’s the big deal? It’s usually only a couple of hours.” Another, who is less than 5 feet tall made comments along the lines of, “They [The airlines] should weigh people and luggage together to determine beforehand the seating and baggage allowance.” This statement was agreed to by others. What about the height/weight ratio? There are many people who are tall and not overweight but will be penalised for their height, was the sentiment of yet others (these people were in excess of 6 feet tall).

At no time during the conversation however was there any mention of personal responsibility.

The ancient teachers have taught us that there is One Source and Cause of all that we experience. They say that our thoughts and feelings create our reality. Having put these kinds of statements and philosophies to the test in recent years, in every area of my life, I can vouch for the fact that whilst I may not enjoy all of the conditions through which my experiences come, I am totally responsible for each and every one of them - no matter what the condition, situation or scenario.

We are living in an ‘information era’ so in my view, personal responsibility takes the gathering of relevant information and tolerance into account.

When I observe my thoughts and personal conversations, and that of others, I’m amazed at how often we place the responsibility for our desirable and undesirable conditions and related experiences outside of our self.

Therefore, by taking personal responsibility for upcoming events by imagining my ideal, I get better outcomes; ones that are pleasant in every aspect. On the occasions when I do still find myself in the midst of undesirable conditions, I again take personal responsibility for the experience and choose to remember that all conditions are temporary.  Therefore, as soon as I change my thoughts, feelings and attitude about a current undesirable experience that my physical senses reflect, I regain the power to change the conditions. I do this by imagining a new, more enjoyable situation, I look for beauty in everyone and everything and I find that I either engage the person I perceived to be the cause of my displeasure in new and interesting ways or that other factors immediately show up to move me to new and more pleasurable conditions and therefore experiences.

I choose to believe that everything that is happening to me, is happening for my highest good (my growth) assisting me in being the person I say I am or now wish to be.

Simple, but not always easy….

Until next time,
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Yes, and…

 
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The manner in which we communicate with our self and others is integral to experiencing beautiful relationships and pleasant interactions.

With practice, greater awareness, and becoming truly present with these internal and external conversations, it becomes more obvious just how much of our daily language is regressive (negative) instead of progressive (positive).

In the 5th Habit of Stephen Covey’s book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” we're reminded about the importance of being active listeners so we really, deeply understand human beings. In it he states, “most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand.”

A common occurrence when we do this “loading up” is evidenced by the automated response of “No, …”. We unintentionally, often unconsciously, reject and shut down what the other person has said or suggested by the “No” and sometimes emphatic “No, no, no” reply that precedes our own perception or interpretation of the subject.

Another option, one that allows for far lovelier interactions and that changes the dynamic of our communication is to respond with, “Yes, and …”.

A simple example of this could be that Anthony makes a suggestion about how we might approach an activity or upcoming event. In the instance where I might have a different opinion, instead of saying, “No, we should … ”, a more progressive responsive would be, “Yes, and another consideration or approach could be …”. This often leads to a lovely discussion and complimentary representation of both of us.

I invite you to become an observer when others are interacting around you to witness just how often this occurs. It's a great active listening exercise. 

You may also wish to observe if you are listening actively or unintentionally shutting down and rejecting another's perspective in conversations.

Covey’s “7 Habits” are timeless and worthy of visiting and revisit time and again: 

https://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits-habit5.php 


Until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Four UT Keys for Affirmations

 
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What are Affirmations and how do I use them?

Recently, I introduced the topic of Metaphysics via our Universal Truths Facebook Page so I thought I would share my experience with Affirmations and Four UT Keys for the most beneficial way I construct and use them.

An Affirmation is defined as 1. the act of affirming or the state of being affirmed; 2. a statement of the existence or truth of something; assertion.

The first time I recall giving any personal meaning to Affirmations was about six years ago when I first read “You Can Heal Your Life” by international bestselling author Louise L. Hay.

Mind activity that occurs just below the level of conscious awareness is referred to as the sub-conscious.  This sub-conscious mind is defined as being responsible for one's thoughts and feelings; the seat of the faculty of reason.  It has been likened to a limitless volt of information retaining every detail from every moment in our life.  For example, someone sufficiently skilled enough to tap into this volt, may be able to recall the outfit, hair style, cake, friends, gifts, food, music, games, weather, colour of the paint or wall paper design along with every other detail pertaining to their 3^rd birthday party, assuming of course they had one.

Our thoughts, values, and beliefs (for more about these see my Blog titled, “What’s important to you?”) are also stored in our sub-conscious mind and whilst this makes life functional in terms of not having to learn how to operate a door or a car every time we approach one etc. many, many, many of the thoughts, values, and beliefs stored there are adopted, inherited, taught to us, limiting and no longer serve us for our highest good.

Affirmations are a useful tool to reprogram our sub-conscious mind’s obsolete data.  As an example, through slow normalcy I went from getting occasional headaches from my early teens to having a headache, of some degree, for as often as five out of seven days a week by my mid 20s.  Headaches, together with migraines which set in from age 19, were ultimately both eliminated by my mid 30s.  This included a period of time when, by becoming more and more aware of my thoughts, I could predict getting these and various other ailments in advance.  These days, I don’t have to exercise ‘stinking thinking’ for very long before an ailment will rear its head.  However, I like it this way, as I’m committed to heightened awareness and I now trust my body to keep me lovingly accountable.  Fortunately, as quickly as something appears, I can cause it to disappear and I often still use Affirmations as a tool of choice to achieve this.

It is important to understand that values, and beliefs stored in the sub-conscious, that play out automatically, are generated from thoughts that we have had millions of times over.  Therefore;

The 1^st UT key regarding Affirmations is to make them short, simple phrases or statements (initially at least) that can be learnt verbatim and are in the first and present tense.

The 2^nd UT Key regarding Affirmations is that they are repeated often throughout the day and perhaps over many days, until the old thought pattern is overridden.

Often times, although an affirmation may feel good at some level, it may sound foreign and a little awkward to your inner or outer ear at first.  Discipline and persistence are keys.  It’s very OK to have fun with your affirmation so a simple approach is to fake it til you make it.

The 3^rd UT Key regarding Affirmations is to understand that the sub-conscious mind is quite literal.  Let’s say you wanted to increase your income.  To the sub-conscious mind, an affirmation along the lines of, “I am excited about the pay rise I have coming my way”, will always be something that is coming as opposed to something that is happening now.  A rewording of this may go something like, “My income constantly increases.”

And the 4^th UT Key regarding Affirmations is to understand that by often I mean potentially hundreds of times a day.  It’s a tool for immersing our sub-conscious mind with uplifting, affirmative and present data enabling it to, not just suspend obsolete programming that was generated and remains in place by millions of repetitive thoughts each day, but permanently override it with a new thought pattern.  In doing so, the sub-conscious mind can produce automatical feeds to the conscious mind causing us to think, speak and act in a manner that instead of sabotaging us is constantly setting us up for our highest good and greatest success.

This is a sure way to permanently eliminate undesirable ailments, dis-ease and conditions that keep showing up, sometimes with a different face and name but that generate the same old unwanted feelings.

The manner in which I use affirmations is to adopt ones from someone or somewhere else, that resonate with me deeply, or construct my own based on the above UT Keys.

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

All paths lead to God

 
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All paths lead to God!
Well, at least they did in our instance…

Anyone who has read our Home Page introduction on this website (www.universaltruths.com.au) will be informed that Anthony and I have dedicated ourselves as individuals, in relationship, and in our careers to the study of human potential, sales, and business performance.

When Anthony and I first connected in November of 2005, Anthony had been a celibate Christian for some 14 years and I, well, I had distanced myself from religion as far as I could although metaphysics and spirituality had been emerging in my life in preceding years.

Our beliefs were generally vastly different and at some point, very early in our relationship, Anthony suggested we proceed on the proviso that we conduct the study that will tell us whether or not the Bible and its content are in fact the Truth, the Light, and the Way, or not.

A new covenant three months after we met, a relocation from inner city Melbourne to the majestic setting of Zaggi Point in Wamuran Queensland, and the journey continues...

First, we did some internet research and quickly found a plethora of material for and against.

Around the same time, we were seeking a coach that could assist us with a mortgage broking business we commenced.  After a number of ‘non matches’ including successfully suing one company for misleading conduct and failure to fulfil our contractual agreement, I stated that from now on I was going to appoint Christ as my coach. He was the only wholesome character I knew who was trustworthy, possessed infinite intelligence, is extremely resourceful, and 100% reliable.

Have you tried having a meeting with Christ lately?  Some questions that immediately came to mind were; where do we meet, how do I address Him, and how will we communicate…

These questions led us to research individuals that had not only acquainted themselves with the western biblical text intimately, but had studied the Greek and Hebrew origins of it, all excluded and relocated scriptural text, as well as the spiritual origins and books of the world.

To cut a long story short in this medium of sharing today, just like a jigsaw puzzle, one revealing piece led us to the next until eventually the scales tipped and the jigsaw puzzle became both complete and eternally incomplete.

By emanating Christ as best we can, at this stage of our existence, our journey has led us to grasp a foundation of Truth that produced the quality of results and feelings we had been searching for and continues to reveal to us the infinite potential and possibilities available to us for experiencing.

Our journey has led us to a relationship with God, so personal in its nature, that it surpasses anything our religious backgrounds obscurely taught us.

God is our Truth, our Light and our Way! In Him do we live and move and have our whole being.

To our fellow seekers of Truth I repeat: "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. [Matthew 7:7-8; Luke 11:9-10]

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J x

The Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back

 
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Identifying our values is a key to designing a ‘better life’.  So why is it that identifying what’s important to us can sometimes deliver challenges before delivering the peace, contentment and happiness we seek to achieve?

In my experience this occurs when:

a) the values we establish are truly our own, making them more important to us and worthy of greater investment than the ones we’ve adopted or inherited from others through life; and

b) we haven’t considered new boundaries and implemented a plan for inviting others to recognise and value what’s important to us.

For an explanation about establishing our own values you may find “What’s Important to You?” worthy of visiting or revisiting.

This Blog Post is dedicated to part b):

Developing boundaries and a plan for inviting others,
primarily our partner and children, to recognise and honour our values. 

I’ll use an example to deliver my point. I identify that one thing that’s important to me at home is that the place is kept clean and tidy.  This is the first step from the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” – Awareness. 

The next step is to make an Uncritical Observation of what is.  For example, when activities required in the kitchen are not attended to i.e. the dishwasher isn't stacked and emptied, other dishes aren't washed up, bench tops aren't wiped down, the rubbish isn't taken out etc., or are left to me to attend to, it conflicts with what I have identified as important to me.

Another example could be that dirty clothes are left on the bathroom or bedroom floor instead of being placed in a dirty clothes basket again conflicting with what may have been identified as being important for maintaining, as a minimum, a clean and orderly home.

Our homes, cars, careers/vocations, partners, and everything else in our life are extensions of our personality. They represent who we are and the orderliness or chaos of our thinking which create our conditions.

As a next step, identify, “what do I now desire?”  An example here could be that I desire, for this season in my life at least, that each capable member of the household takes joint responsibility for the various kitchen activities and attending to and keeping their own clothes in a tidy and orderly manner.  By holding a picture in my mind and recognising the feelings that these conditions provide is certainly a critical part of the process.  Taking inspired action is another. So what is meant by the latter part?

My definition of inspired action is taking steps that produce my desired results in a joyful manner.  Namely, for these examples, this may include those actions that enable me to feel the preferred feelings and live in my preferred environment.  When I’ve identified clearly what I now desire, I expect new ideas to flow and I take action that feels uplifting, expanding, congruent, authentic, and joyful in place of those that feel uneasy, contracting, like a struggle, uphill, or against the current.

Some examples of inspired action related to these examples may include installing hooks, erecting shelves, purchasing a clothes valet or baskets, or perhaps placing clothes baskets in bedrooms or bathrooms to more easily accommodate.

It may involve having new conversations with family members to communicate my new desire and invite them to acknowledge and accept and/or provide them with an opportunity to present their ideal of what makes for a more pleasant relationship and living environment.

At some point, everyone needs to agree on at least one law. The natural Law of Cause & Effect whereby family members unwilling to play their part must accept the effects of their non compliance. And, everyone must clearly understand what will happen (the effect) if they don’t play their part.

In my early days in partnership, before I was in a relationship where both parties were committed to living a peace filled and joyful life, continually looking for ways to meet each other’s values without compromising their own, the effect I clearly communicated for clothes that were left lying around on the floor was that I would throw them into the backyard as a first step and into the rubbish bin as a follow up. 

Whatever effects you identify and communicate, be sure that you are willing to follow through.  I did!  I threw them into backyard once and clothes not longer littered our floors. Instead they were dealt with in an orderly fashion.

If spending time in the kitchen cooking and using lots of utensils and crockery doesn't work for you in this season of your life, think about what would minimise kitchen time.  During various seasons in our life, Anthony and I find that the slow cooker concept provides excellent time freedom and minimises the amount of time we spend in the kitchen. 

Instead of focussing on a problems, focus on the solution.

When all is said and done, and members capable of participating have committed to upholding one party's value as a unified one, whatever effects are established, they have to be ones you are willing to carry through and because the intention is to produce greater order and harmony, they must first be clearly communicated so that everyone understands what will happen if a team member doesn’t honour their commitment to their loved ones.

Anyone serious about living a “better life” always has clearly established values and boundaries in place as well as clearly established consequences if those values are encroached upon.  The effects or outcomes of having these boundaries crossed vary for person to person however, it’s important that they are established, communicated, and honoured by our self and others.

Relationships, especially partnerships are about what we can bring to the table, they are about enriching our experience as an individual, a couple and a family rather than looking for what we can take. If someone is unwilling to play their part in honouring what’s important to their loved ones and expanding their own life and environment in the process, perhaps the focus of the relationship is on taking rather than giving. 

Are you currently being a taker or a giver? And, what’s your limit before the straw breaks the camel’s back?

Another Euphoric Day

 
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I’m grateful that the sun shone brightly today....on every area of my Life.  My desire is for more of these experiences that give me cause to feel Euphoric.

If you’re reading this Blog Post, it's because you are significant in my life. You can be assured of that because a) we are somehow connected; and b) by my concept of you, you provide a contextual field of my available choices in this Buffet of Life.  And, this occurs regardless of how near or far we think we are in time and space.

I fall more and more in Love when I think from the place of; it's not about whether or not we like each other, it’s about Loving each other for assisting us become clearer about who we now wish to Be, what we imagine that Being will enable us to Do, and what that Doing allows us to Have and to Express – as an individual, a partner, a parent, a family member, a friend, a colleague, a business owner, a resident of a state, a citizen or visitor in someone’s home or country, and as a representative of humanity.

Depening on how you choose to express yourself today and my interpretation of that personality, based on my current beliefs and values, you play your part in providing me with immense choice. For that, I have only Love for You.

If we're not contemplating and expressing our personal personality
in every moment, then we are expressing learnt behaviours,
inherited beliefs or adopted values.

Our personal version of Planet Beautiful is possible when we become responsible for, and ordered in, our every thought and feeling. Those not living an ideal life, and wish to with every cell in their body, will know they are ready to do so when they realise they are already living it. 'Now' is part of it.

Becoming aware of, observing, and choosing our every thought and feeling causes us to truly experience this ‘Now’ and enables us to design the next version with purpose, clarity, accuracy and pure intent. Our journey is not haphazard it is always precise, on purpose and valuable right now.

We are always being a demonstration and expression of Life.

By ordering our thoughts and feelings it becomes possible to be still enough to hear what initially is the soft angelic voice of Divine Guidance’s whisper, beckoning us Gently and Lovingly forward. Soon enough it becomes the same volume as the sound of our voice in our head. 

We all desire Order and “Order is Heaven’s First Law”.

There is no one else to show us how to know Love (Life), for knowing Love is a unique, personal journey that we alone are to enjoy with the Source of Life. There is no other you on the planet that is coming to play your part.

We’re always telling others what Love is. We’re always showing others.

Everyday we’re consistently Being our best individual expression of Love!

Flat out like a lizard drinking

 
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A query from a Client/Friend came in along these lines, “I know we have discussed this in the past, but can you briefly nudge my memory as to why we don't do busy..."time is irrelevant"...am I on the right track? :)"

My response (version 2) was, "we make every endeavour to avoid being and doing ‘busy’, at a conscious and sub-conscious level, because along with the actions related to my connotation of ‘busy’ (or rush), generally the emotion of fear is present. Fear that there is not enough time, fear of being late, fear of missing out, fear of what someone might think and so on.

When I remember that “time is an illusion” – and by this I mean personal more so than irrelevant, because when we attend an appointment or catch a plane for example, time is very relevant - I release the need to be fearful. Without fear, there’s always enough time, Life isn’t a race, I can’t compete with another; because there is no another - there is only one individual expression of me therefore, there is no right way, or right time, or right place. There is only my preferred way, my personal expression of time, and the place I’m at right now.

‘Busy’, to me, reflects inverted thinking.  Thinking that goes against what someone might say they want and what they are actually experiencing. We see many people wheel spinning in life because they have busy physical or mental lives, or both.  They think a lot and they do a lot, but they don’t seem to be achieving their desires.  Anthony and I remember being like this, and doing this, ourselves; in fact I think our pace was more like frenetic :D, especially mentally. Anthony used to carry two mobile phones and it felt like they both rang constantly.

I found that when I used my time instead to think, to plan, to feel and to act from the place of Awareness + 1, 2, 3, about my health, my finances, my relationships, my life purpose, and so on, I experience the reciprocal conditions - in the exact same way my inverted thinking brought me what I didn’t want.

Our game is to choose affirmative thoughts,
feelings and actions in place of any and all inverted ones.

 



Transitioning with Awareness + 1, 2, 3

 
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This Post is a practical piece and a follow on from the previous Post “Killing with Kindness”.

One way to turn this, or any situation around, is to use the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” (Awareness + 1, 2, 3) by experimenting with the following steps:


1.   Firstly, become AWARE of the undesired condition.  For example, “I don’t want to see my child hanging around not working or earning an income and a decent standard of living.”

Perhaps they are dating a partner you don’t approve of, or mixing with peers that you don’t feel are in your child’s best interest.  Whatever it is, write down the undesirable condition as you currently perceive it.


2.   Recollecting from previous Posts and from what many of us have no doubt read, heard and experienced for our Selves at various times, we cannot change anyone but our Self. 

All undesirable outward conditions change
when we change something within us. 

So, from a place of UNCRITICAL OBSERVATION, that’s right – without criticism or condemnation, identify and write down any thoughts, words and actions that may have contributed to these current conditions.  Do your utmost not to edit what comes forth, just observe it from a “that’s interesting” point-of-view.

Some questions to ask your Self may include:

• What do I think about work?  Therefore, what beliefs have I inherited about working?
• What do I recall my parents saying about work?
• What do I perceive their attitude to work and earning a living was/is?
• Did I perceive my parents as having enjoyed the work they did?
• Did I perceive my parents earning sufficient income to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle?
• Do I enjoy what I do?
• What may I have said or demonstrated about work to my children? You may even ask them what they recall you saying about work or what they perceive your attitude to work and earnings might be.

It’s also most beneficial to jot down how we feel when we observe this outward condition our child, or whoever, is displaying.  Some examples again may include:

Frustration, anxiety, anger, fear, sadness…

What other words come to mind when you make these observations.  Do you have thoughts of them being:

Lazy, expecting the right job to land in their lap, having a poor attitude,
being negative, expecting too much…

Remember, we’re doing this from a place of UNCRITICAL OBSERVATION, so just notice!


3.   Next, CLEARLY identify what you now DESIRE?

The idea, as a starting point, is to identify the minimum requirement and some, to comfortably meet our desires. Turn each of the inverted statements noted in steps 1. and 2. to affirmative ones:

For example:  “I desire to see my child happily working and earning an income and enjoying a wonderful standard of living.”

Often, by this step, we can identify that the undesirable observations we make of others pertains in some way to our Self.  After all, everyone is our perfect mirror!

“I desire to work in an environment and in a job that I do happily,
earning an income and enjoying a wonderful standard of living for myself.”

It’s always about us!  Everything we project, judge, condemn of another is a temporary indicator of a part of our Self that we have a distorted perspective about (often an inherited or limiting belief).  When we identify and begin to think differently, i.e. affirmatively about that area of our life, our conditions must reflect that and the undesirable expression currently being observed of another will also fall away.

Write down what you would prefer to feel: e.g. relaxed, supportive, confident, joyful, valuable etc.

I think of him/her OR myself as being:  energetic, enthusiastic, positive, motivated etc.

Dispose of the notes captured in point 2. and make multiple copies of the ones captured here in point 3.  In other words, take whatever steps feel natural to ensure these desired states of awareness/consciousness are at the forefront of your thoughts.

The key is to think about, visualise and focus our attention on how we feel and what we will have and/or do when we, or the other person expressing the undesired conditions, are expressing a desirable one instead.  What will this do for me?

For example: I can meet my needs with peace and ease.  I can gift my family and loved ones in the most beautiful and joyful manner.  I can experience happiness every day doing what I take great pleasure in doing with people I admire and respect and who admire, appreciate and respect me in return etc. etc. etc.

Only when this becomes our sustained thought, i.e. our thinking is persistent, continuous, unrelenting and constantly on what we desire, will our conditions change to mirror that. 

Conditions ALWAYS mirror our thinking.

 

4.   The fourth key to turn in Awareness, 1, 2, 3 is detachment.  DETACH from any thought you notice that is unlike what you desire.  Employ a mental Gatekeeper to keep a watchful eye on your thoughts and emotions.

The thoughts and emotions we experience towards others
directly effects our life and the conditions we produce/experience.

Deny your senses (anything you see and hear etc. about a condition that is not what you want) and refocus on the thoughts and feelings captured in step 3. that evoke the images and feelings you do want.

FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT!

Whilst it may feel difficult and unbelievable initially, the more we implement and repeat this process the more natural it will feel and the quicker the results will be attained.

If you have any queries about this process drop me a comment or email at unitruths@gmail.com

Killing with Kindness

 
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An aspect of Anthony and I loving the life we live and living the life we love requires us to observe and provide options to individuals, families and organisations who are living and operating on the effect side of years of inherited beliefs, limited decision and learnt behaviours.

One of the perceived challenges the X and Y generations face, in my opinion, is the need to think for our Selves about everyone and everything.  While it may seem to some people that we are all free thinkers, we can share with you from experience this is simply not the case.

Until a conscious choice is made to examine every belief, decision, behaviour and aspect of our personality and where desired redefine them, we are living-out the effects of years of programming that feels so natural to who we are and what we do that it has become unconscious.  In other words, we are generally giving the ideas, outcomes and activities of our life as much conscious thought as we give to the blinking of our eyes, the beating of our hearts or the levelling of our blood sugar.

That’s right…for the most part we are on auto-pilot.

As a result, we have become products of our environment, not duplicates but individuals that have been profoundly influenced by the environments in which we were raised.  All too often, because Love is so grossly misunderstood and rarely demonstrated by our parents and carers, because they weren’t shown true Love themself, we are left floundering with what I call acts of disempowering kindness.  Good intentions and actions that, more often than not, are based on fear and do more harm than good.

Before I studied and implemented the sort of change I’ve referred to here, I spent from my mid teens through to my late twenties witnessing a family, particularly the parents, convince a young boy from about age five or six (that I know of) that he was good for nothing.

By whatever standards a lay person can measure, I knew this adorable child was of healthy mind and body. Yet, because of the continual barrage of insults, name-calling, verbal and sometimes physical abuse he received, he grew up with an intense lack of self worth and a whole lot of loathing for himself and others.

By his mid teens he was a rebel and by the time he got his licence he was heading off the rails, fast.  Because he was ‘good for nothing’, all conditions that involved this young man were rarely short of drama. He wasn’t able to get a job and on the rare occasion someone lined one up for him, he wouldn’t keep it. Mum became the bank, the taxi and to keep the peace, not that it did or maybe it would have been worse, whatever he asked for he generally received.  His disregard for women and law and order meant that he was often heartbroken, in poor company, making poor choices, repeatedly losing licence demerit points and his licence, and accumulating fines.

Supposedly, to prevent the problem from escalating, mum in particularly would pay up, shut up and cover up as much of the now delinquent behaviour as she could. It quickly progressed to being somewhat of a full time job.  But no matter how hard she compensated for her contribution to this man becoming exactly what she, and others, expected of him and what he was told over and over again until it became true for him and them, there were two major events she was never going to be able to undertake on his behalf...going to jail and having a heart attack at around age 25.

As it turns out, this man was lined up with yet another job however this time he was made to feel as though his contribution counted.  He began to feel valued and valuable on a more consistent basis.  This in turn enabled him to regain some of his own self worth and instead of fulfilling a prophecy held by some, he did manage to avoid prison. Comparatively, he progressed well in this place of employment as well as building a home, getting married and having a child by around the age of 25. However, whilst he survived the second event, he did experience a heart attack at this young age.

Labels, name-calling, abuse of any sort, including inverted thinking,
and internal and external dialogue with our children,
our Selves and others counts all the time.

Children in particular want to do nothing short of please their parents and they will and do become whatever is told, demonstrated and expected of them literally.

It’s never too late to expect wonderful things for and of our Selves and the people around us.  If we or someone else is not currently living up to our expectations then Awareness is the key and the rest is 1, 2, 3.

In my next blog post I’ll provide an example of how these Universal Truth Keys can be applied to a situation such as this.

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Financial Blueprints

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

Recently I was chatting with the father of two young boys aged approximately seven and nine.

While tucking his boys into bed one night dad asked his boys what makes them happy?

The nine year old responded that money makes him happy and his father asked him why? The boy didn’t have a response right away so dad asked him to think about it and told him he would ask again the next night.

When he asked his seven year old the same question, his response was “I don't know”, so dad asked him to think about it and told he would ask again the next night.

The following night, the nine year old informed dad that money made him happy because he could buy fun things. With the intention of "pulling him back a couple of cogs" dad said "but you know mate, things don't make you happy, so have a another think and I'll ask you again tomorrow night."

The seven year old told dad that spending time with his family makes him happy and dad was pleased with his response.

Notice firstly, that people, including little people, always tell us what they want and what's currently important to them. Are we listening carefully?  And, what messages are we giving them in return?

According to sociologist Morris Massey and others, we inherit our values or blueprints regarding finance, health, relationships and spirituality by age ten.

What if then, instead of pulling children back a couple of cogs by impressing our own financial blueprint upon them, which may be limited by the beliefs and attitudes we inherited from our parents and other carers, we encourage our children to obtain a healthy financial blueprint and support their grand and achievable imaginings?

For example, another response could have been along the lines of "you sure can buy fun things with money, for yourself and others, that’s so true. In fact, the more money you have the more you can buy.  What would you buy with a lot of money?"

From an uncritical place of observation you can enquire what else they would buy?...and what else?” And after a few nights of this perhaps you could share with him/her what you would buy and then chat with them about what you could both do with a lot of money. 

Money, in and of itself, has no power to generate positive or negative
conditions, greed or destruction, or generosity and benevolence.
These conditions are always dependent on who the user of this commodity
is Being.

Individual expression occurs in and through the unlimited States of Consciousness we are choosing, from moment to moment, to express.

The rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, the thief are all made of the same substance.  The only difference being that this substance, our blueprint or beliefs and value of our Self in relation to a particular subject e.g. money, is reordered. 

When we revalue our Self, the world confirms the change – Neville

Then, our external expression of form (i.e. the money) simply becomes another tool or instrument to aid our fullest expression of our true nature being Freedom, Liberty and Life.

Awareness (Part 2a of 5); What Vs Why

As I mentioned in my previous post, once we’ve named the feeling, the next question we asked our self and which leads us to the next key is: 
 

So, what would I now rather feel? 

You’ll notice I use the word ‘what’ above. For years I practised asking ‘why’ instead of ‘what’ - as in ‘why’ do I feel this way, and I would analyse, and analyse, and analyse these feelings often leading to analysis paralysis.

Always this process led me to a dead end.  By ‘dead end’ I mean I would end up finding that someone else was the perceived cause of my undesirable experiences and the feelings I associated with that experience – "if only they hadn’t said that or done that, then I wouldn’t have felt what I felt and my life would have turned out better."  All this did for me was place the power to live a 'better life' outside of me. I now required that person to apologise or become someone different in order to feel immense happiness. And what if I didn't get it all done before they past on from this realm to the next...? 

In addition to placing the power outside of us, ‘why’ also takes us into the past for the answers. In many instances, our pasts are a product of learnt values, beliefs and behaviours (often limiting ones) therefore, we will almost certainly be inclined to create a future based on this past programming.  That means more of what we’ve already experienced and more of what we no longer desire.

In time, and with the implementation and practise of the ‘what would I now rather feel’ concept, both Anthony and I find the ‘why’ process completely unnecessary.  Asking ‘why’ has its place in other processes, which I’ll share along the way, however in this context, we also find it to be just as unnecessary when assisting our Client’s transition from where they are to what they would rather feel and experience next.

Asking ‘what’ instead of ‘why’ in the context I’ve explained here transcends limiting beliefs.  What would I now rather feel transcends values and beliefs that we’ve been taught.  It provides us with an opportunity for a ‘fresh start’.

When we begin to a) monitor how we feel; then b) choose what we would now rather feel, we are in Ekhart Tolle’s New Thought teaching of the power of NOW and when we make decisions from where we are now, we are manifesting our future based on what we would rather.

If our past thoughts with feeling have created our now, the thoughts with feeling we are having now go out into the future to greet us.

So, what next?  Next, we apply the Universal Truths' Key No. 2 and become The Great Observer from a place of uncritical observation...

Awareness (Part 2 of 5)

Key No. 1 – AWARENESS

Anthony and I have a number of sayings which we use to remind us of how to live a ‘better life’ - many of these come from amination movies :o).

We use these sayings daily to bring us ever nearer to the fulfilment of our desires and while the saying in relation to this post isn't from a screen movie it is from the movie of our life: 

“Awareness is the key, and all the rest is 1, 2, 3”

My reference to Awareness here is not the consciousness awareness that comes from using our five senses (sight, sound, smell, taste and touch).  Rather, I’m referring to the sub-conscious Awareness of our feelings (the language of the soul). Because of our evolution thus far and our culture, this can be an easier activity for some women, than it is for lot of men.

In my experience, Awareness that comes from our senses is insufficient to create real and lasting change.  Sure it seems real when our eyes or ears tell us something is going on in our relationship, with our health, with our career or with our bank account that displeases us. However, this is only because we’ve been taught to react in life based on our senses even though there are numerous examples of our senses desceiving us such as when we look at train tracks meeting in the distance.

In actuality, what is occurring in all situations, circumstances and conditions in our life (the pleasant and the unpleasant ones) is a direct reflection of our expectations, based on our concept of our self (our values and beliefs), in relation to whatever we perceive is going on.

In the words of William Blake, an 18^th Century English poet:

What seems to be, is, to those to whom it seems to be.

And, perhaps you have come across this saying,

In Life, we don’t get what we want, we get what we EXPECT!

What we often don't know if that our expectations come from our values and beliefs stored sub-consciously. 

Becoming Aware of our feelings produces very different results!  To truly make positive, lasting change possible, it is essential that, are you ready for this...we take everything personally.  Here’s what I mean by this: whenever we use our senses to perceive a situation or condition as distasteful, instead of thoughtless-ly reacting, based on our unrecognised feelings and unexplored values and beliefs, triggered by old programming, it is necessary to pause a moment and ask our self – so...how does this make me feel?

Achieving all that we desire begins with Awareness.  Either we become aware that we desire less of the ‘bad stuff’ (less insufficient money, less poor health, less poor quality relationships, less poor business results) or we become aware that we desire more of the ‘good stuff’ in life (more money, better health, greater quality relationships, bigger and better business outcomes and so on).  Regardless, it’s important to recognise that everything we do is to generate a feeling.

In their book “Money, And The Law of Attraction” by Abraham-Hicks, I was enriched when I read that “every subject is really two subjects”.  Take the subject of money for example.  There is “(1) money, plenty of money, the feeling of freedom and ease that plenty of money can provide; and (2) absence of money, not nearly enough money, the feeling of fear and disappointment that the thought of absence of money induces.”

One speaks of the subject of more than enough money, while the other of the subject of not enough money.

While we have come to understand that it is essential to focus on what we want, rather than what we don’t want (e.g. we want abundance rather than less insufficient money) based on our learnt values, beliefs and behaviours, we progressed to knowing what we wanted by becoming clear about what we didn’t want.  This was a slower than desirable way to progress however and these Four UT Keys have been established to fast track what we’ve identified, tested and implemented that is delivering our goals/desires time and time again.

Once we’ve named the feeling, the next question to ask our self, and which leads us to the next key is: 

So, what would I now rather feel?

The reason being, I believe, is that by becoming aware of how something makes me feel currently and then moving towards what I now wish to feel places me immediately in the realm of creativity rather than an auto-pilot regurgitation of the past. (See part 2a of this series of posts for additional essential information about the power of this ‘what next’ concept).

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J x