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Relationship Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

7 Relationship Blueprint Updates

Writing these Relationship Blueprints has again caused me to consider some of the key concepts that Anthony & I tested and implemented as a couple in business, that had and continue to have a profound impact in moving us, our relationship, and our affairs from contraction and undesirable conditions toward joy and ever increasing expansion.

Listed are 7 powerful Relationship Blueprint Updates that you may wish to consider and test. As with all change, these too take a degree of practice before a return on investment yields lasting results. This, we are told, is due to the natural Law of Growth.

Although it would be impossible to reach the potential that these Relationship Updates offer when correctly applied, we quickly become part of the evidence that even a small tweak to our self, here and there, can make a world of difference and a difference to the world in how we relate to and with others.

So here's the first Update:

Update 1:  From What the heck don't you get to Know Thy Self

Have you ever felt like it wasn't just your words that got lost in translation but your life? That nobody gets you and that at times you barely recognise yourself and what your life has come to? Consider this, of the person or people you spend most of your time with each day, what percentage of your thoughts and feelings would they be aware of..? What percentage of your own thoughts and feelings are you aware of as you move about your day..?

Some of us were taught that what someone does for a living tells us who they are, that’s why we’ve been programmed to ask each other how our day went and what we got up to. Yet, who we are is a result of what we think about with feeling all day and not about what we are doing. And for those that haven’t heard it said before that’s why we are called human beings and not human doings.

To get to know someone better, including our self, we can ask, "What did I(you) invest my(your) time thinking about today?" And, "What feelings did these thoughts generate?"

When we can answer these questions consistently to our self we can ask another about them. Prepare to listen well and offer to go first many times before another may be willing to participate. It is preferred by some to capture their responses in a journal.

In the words of Pythagoras, "Man know thyself; then thou shalt know the Universe and God.”


Update 2:  From Everyone is incompetent and ignorant to Everyone is doing the best they can with the information they have

I believed everyone was doing the best they could with the information they had when I asked myself if I was.

I found I was doing the best I could even when I felt misunderstood and was continually in conflict with others. However, when I sought and found additional information, I was then able to experience better relationships and conditions and was able to shift my life toward becoming exponentially more positive and therefore more ideal.

A key to gaining additional information was to stop telling myself the story of what I no longer desired and began telling one that reflected my ideals. To this I added the faculties of imagination and visualisation as well as meditating on feeling the feelings of my wishes fulfilled.


Update 3:  From Nobody knows anything to Every man is my teacher

I knew just how little I and others knew when I began gaining additional information about the Cause of Life.

Before that, it appeared to me that most folks were incompetent and ignorant. Now I know, as mentioned above, that they were also doing the best they can and I have changed my perception to folks are my mirror reflecting back at me an array of available states of consciousness or personalities within a sophisticated contextual field we call Earth.

The truth is we all know things, many things in fact and it is these things (based on our thoughts, beliefs and values) that are shaping our life for negative, positive, or even more positive experiences.

Today, I understand that everyone is my teacher because everything they say and do has the capacity to teach me something else about myself.


Update 4:  From Should-ing all over others to Teaching what I want to learn most

When you use the word should with someone next, I invite you to take a moment to repeat the same sentience to yourself. For example, "you should watch what you say in front of the kids" to "I should watch what I say in front of the kids." Or, "You really should look after your health." to "I really should look after my health."

To stop should-ing all over others it is necessary ultimately to eliminate the word from our vocabulary altogether. When Anthony or I use this word on the odd occasion these days we are pretty quick to pick it up and correct our language. Using the word should seems disempowering and doesn’t feel friendly and uplifting. We found that using it somehow implies wrong doing, disappointment, shame or regret.

Words that are empowering and can easily replace it are Could, Can, Might, May and Will. For example, "You might watch what you say in front of the kids" or "You really could look after your health more." and "I can watch my thoughts and words more closely."

These days, I teach what I want to learn most by sharing blogs, posting status updates, having consultations, coaching sessions, or presenting someone with options via text, email or phone.  Each time I know I am telling them what I need to learn most. So I listen carefully to what all parities have to say because there is bound to be gold in it for me too.


Update 5:  From Hear me. Hear me. Hear me to Seek first to understand before being understood

When I first became a student of mental science (new thought), including metaphysics, I wanted everyone to know and feel the information and liberation that came with this ancient wisdom. I had a drum to beat that was inspirational and fun so I got around in a bit of a hear me or suffer in your ignorance type approach.

These days, believe it or not :o), I am quieter than I was, especially in social settings. I prefer to seek first to understand where someone is at on a particular topic or subject and then, if and when appropriate, share another model of the world that also exists and is assisting us achieve our desires at home, in business, and in relationship.


Update 6:  From Come on, I'll show you who is better to There is no competition only personal best

With a shawl of Everyone is incompetent and ignorant around my shoulders; a keen dancer; and an older sibling, I learnt competition young.

I learnt early about winning and losing, kill or be killed, and I enjoyed collecting medals, trophies and accolades.

Today, I understand that there is no one coming to take my place or play my part. I know that there is not another soul in the universe who is here to do what only I can do. Therefore, I also now know that there is no rush, no threat, and no competition. It is my personal best efforts alone that produce my conditions and outcomes.


Update 7:  From No! to Yes, and...

There was a period when Anthony & I began noticing that we were unintentionally making each other wrong in communication.  For example, we may be chatting about something and one of us would make a suggestion. Our conversations went from responding with something like, “No! I think we should do Y.”  to “Yes, that’s a good option, we need to consider this and that, and another option could be…”.

When we decided to act like best friends, and lovers, we began chatting with each other rather than talking at each other. The magic is in the couple when united values are based on love and beauty.  It is in this way that our chats that used to lead to arguments now lead us perfectly to an approach that meets our needs and desires as well as producing pleasant conversations…


In closing:  Self awareness is not something we can bestow on another, nor can we decide when another will have the experience. Those who know us also know that Anthony & I believe the magic is in the couple or the partnership (whatever form this takes) because while all awakening is golden, when we can experience this with our most beloved, or a mutually invested partner for example, to us this means having a constant best friend by our side to experience the highs and lows with, keeping each other buoyant and on track with what we say is ideal, and that special someone to cry and to celebrate with.

On our journey these precious moments became, and continue to be, our saving grace.

until I post again…
May all your relationships be joyful ones; and
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Relationship Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

At Universal Truths, we believe, through studying and consultations, that all disharmony in relationship, from upset to hatred and individuals to nations, stems from a mismatch in personal values (that which is important to us individually).

I've been reworking this Relationships Blueprint blog for some time now considering the most succinct manner in which I can share seven years of study and observation as well as experiences and findings on this subject concisely enough to produce a blog or two of around 800 words each.  More than half a dozen approaches must have come to me since commencing it the day after the previous blog was posted.

Relationships, although not the last of this Blueprint series, is the ultimate one because Life itself is about who we are being in relation to everyone and everything.  Our health, our work, our spirituality, our finances, and our many and varying relationships are all dependent on the manner in which we view and relate to these subjects.

Another fundamentally important aspect of relationships is the subject of communication because we communicate in alignment with our state of consciousness (who we perceive ourselves to be at any given point in time) and many people get, intellectually at least, that it's not what we say that counts so much as how we say it.  Therefore, the quality of all relationships are influenced by our ability to express ourselves in and through them.

By living in awareness of the laws that govern all life, we have come to know - intellectually and experientially - that the world and everyone we encounter is merely a reflection of our perceived self.  Conditions and people are our mirror image and tell us where we are up to or how we are tracking against what we think and say is "ideal".  An example of this is that I spent a period of my life believing people were angry and rude and the moment I began to eliminate anger and any form of rudeness from by expressions (facial, tonality, physical etc.) is the moment I began encountering different experiences. It took me many years to get to a place where I could accept this "mirror image" concept fully and today there is not shred of doubt left in me that this is a Universal Truth.  Don't take my word for it though, test it for yourself...

Who we are being, through the personalities we express, are yet again a composition of learnt values and behaviours. Our thoughts about a person, a place, a race, a country, alternative spiritual beliefs, sexual preferences, body piercing, hairstyles, fashion, tattooing, body compositions, public displays of affection, the rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, and the thief are, like all blueprints, initially taught to us, learnt and adopted.

To change what I see, hear, feel, know and reflect to myself about others, I change myself.  I have done this enough times now to know that every man is my teacher, reflecting to me a potential state of consciousness. Depending on the thoughts, feelings, and meaning I give to how someone else chooses to express themselves tells me where I am up to in my beliefs about whatever aspect of life they are expressing.  If I make a judgement, i.e. my thoughts and feelings are about them, I place my power to make a change outside of me.  If instead I make an observation, i.e. I view what is being said or done as merely an interesting way to express oneself, I empower myself to consider what I'm seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling about this tells me about myself.  I then become the change I wish to see in others - while not surprising anymore I am constantly amazed by the power these laws have to change my conditions. The understanding and implementation of judgements vs observations played and continues to play an integral part in living an ideal life.

When I first returned to the 'Big Smoke' recently to engage with the movers and shakers of our central business district or corporate world with my new found knowledge and skills, I was consumed by the public display of contrast available. The homeless, the shoppers, the buskers, the money collectors and so on and then, once inside a high rise, engaging with collegues, peers, senior executives as well as CEOs and an array of consultants and service providers who wish to converse and do business with us.  The world is our contextual field from which to define and design our ideals.

As a child I learnt judgment over observation. I was taught what was "right" and "wrong" sometimes with conflicting messages and demonstration. I was taught that what goes on in our home, stays in our home and this taught me how to live more than 'One Life'.  It was the days when visitors would just pop in because they were "in the neighbourhood".  The full blown argument that was occurring a one moment ago was set aside to act as though all was harmonious.  This could go on for hours before the visitors left and the arguing was picked up where things left off.

Within the past seven years I have learnt to live 'One Life' and maintain my centre of peace on a more consistent bases.  Once I could change my state of consciousness from "I feel great", to "I feel lousy" and everything in between many times a day. Now peace and contentment are my base achieved by exchanging swinging states of consciousness with regularly checking that my thoughts and emotions are aligned to my clearly defined ideals about how I wish to be perceived and relate to others - all human beings regardless of their current state of consciousness (who they believe themselves to be), or their race, skin colour, religious and sexual preferences and so on.

Who and how I relate with and to others is critical to Living a Life I Love. I have become more tolerant and compassionate by becoming engaging and genuinely curious and interested in other people's story.  I now understand that we are all living our dream life however for some this means nirvana while for others this is hell but all are derived by the same laws that govern life, whether we know them or not.  Our current conditions are derived from what we belief to be true and think about with feeling and are as temporary as our current thoughts about these subjects.

In Part 2 of Relationship Blueprints I'll relate more specifically to how blueprints affect our intimate relationships.

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 2 of 2

With around seven years of exstensive personal development and self contemplation behind me, I recognise that around the age of 8 I bought into the possibility, through suggestion, that I needed to be a good girl or the separation of my parents could be my fault. The outcome was that I became a master people pleaser and carried this trait into my school years and work life.

During this time, I placed a great deal of pressure on myself to do things "perfectly". I would do whatever was asked of me to my fullest potential. I was a masterful chameleon acting one to please my friends, and another to please their parents. I also had different acts with my work colleagues and managers.

All the while, I was ill equipped mentally and emotionally, and the manner in which I conducted myself often crossed my unconscious value system of fairness and expectation of recognitions and rewards. Given I had also learnt to argue and defy, I occasionally found myself in disagreements and conflicts.

During the first one and half decades of my working life I worked long hours, I was dutiful, and thought it essential to impress by constantly going above and beyond other people's expectations.

What's wrong with that some may ask? Sounds like a strong work ethic right? I found that it wasn't when the reason for the input and effort was to feel worthy, accepted, appreciated, liked, respected, and not responsible if it all went wrong. By living and working from this place of insecurity, I often "hit the wall" - becoming burnt out, depressed and developing undesirable physical ailments on an ongoing basis.

When Anthony and I self funded four years of full time study between 2006 and 2010, we identified that there are a set of infallible laws that govern all life.

Throughout this particular study period we became more and more enthusiastic about the potential these laws could have on business operations, culture, profitability and success. It's easy to see how valuable and relevant this is when we acknowledge that a business exists through its people. When we consider the various elements of a business like the owners, clients, staff, service providers, stakeholders, shareholders and so on, we see that there is not a single aspect of a business that is not operated by and reliant on people. However, based on our limited teaching and inadequate education, especially in the arena of human excellence, it becomes easy to see that a business or company cannot reach its fullest potential until its people do - regardless of the type of business and industry.

With new knowledge obtained from a plethora of sources and tried and tested concepts, I no longer see my businesses or places of employment as time stealers and income earners. I now view these vehicles and the people within them as sacred places in and through which people are on a journey and relationships (i.e. who we are, in relation to each other) are experienced.

My desire to please others, at any cost, including my health and personal relationships has transformed into a deep desire to seek first to understand and assist others get what they want.

I do this having first and foremost developed a relationship with my self enabling me to come from a place of self love, self worth, and self understanding.  By doing so, I find I am continually seeking ways to add more value. I understand completely, i.e. intellectually and experientially, that when I help others get what they want, I get what I want and as I become the person I wish to see in others, others become the persons I wish to see.

Knowing what and where the source of all my good comes from, I am able to release, with confidence, the amount of energy I require for the activities of my day, draw on greater depths of understanding, love, patience, compassion, and wisdom rather than only giving in the hope of gaining an immediate return for myself and becoming exhausted, depleted, burnt out, and feeling used and abused when these hopes fall short.

I have moved passed having a job, working on my career, or being desirous of a vocation. Today and everyday is the now the next step towards becoming and experiencing my self as a company cultural change agent equipped with a tool kit of of knowledge, skill, experience and happy expectation.

The next topic in this Blueprint series is Relationships...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Work Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

Since beginning this Blueprint series I have grown. I understand more deeply through experience that I simply can no longer focus my thoughts upon something with feeling and not produce an experience of it.

My posts are considered; what I mean by this is that I place significant time and attention on capturing my thoughts, reading and re-reading my words, refining the content and context of my message, contemplating what I write, the concepts I write about and what they continue to mean to me today, as well as who I am presenting to and as.

As a result, during the process of writing and presenting the past three of four posts, I manifested a cold sore, a migraine, and experienced contraction. 

 

What we focus on expands - pure and simple!  

Fortunately, each condition was short lived, brought me new insights, actions, and outcomes, and all three conditions related predominantly to work. Given that I'm currently dedicating around 90 hours per week of focussed attention (thoughts, feelings, words, and actions) directly to work, with Awareness, it's no wonder the conditions are manifesting through this vehicle. I know the work I do and the service I provide is my current tool for greatest potential and growth towards my ideal - without doubt.

To understand a little about the origins of my work Blueprint it's important, I think, to understand a little about my heritage. I am the second child of two with an older brother of three years. I am first generation Australian, born and brought up in the wonderful city of Melbourne, Australia, except for its climate :). My parents migrated from the island of Malta, a country situated in the middle of the Mediterranean Sea with a long and rich history. Unlike many other migrant families, when my parents arrived in the early 1960s, on their one-way honeymoon, no other relatives from either side followed. I've never had cousins, aunts or uncles around, and I didn't meet my grandparents in person. I have met my relatives on five or six occasions, mostly when I have travelled to Malta. Did any of these people have a major influence on your work Blueprint?

What I saw and learnt about work, I did so predominantly from my parents who arrived in Australia with minimal savings and no jobs at the ages of 19 and 20. I also learnt from what I saw and heard from other migrant family friends, school and ballet class families, teachers, and religious leaders.

The messages (values and beliefs) I adopted were that we worked to live and the harder and longer we worked the more income we earned - to the extent that one could budget that income they could achieve a measure of "success". From what I gathered, in my culture and socio-economic circles of the time, this generally meant that I would own my home as well as a holiday house beachside or in the country perhaps. I'd always pay cash for vehicles, clothes, gifts, furniture, toys, and travel and I'd have a reasonable slush fund of cash in the bank. The irony of these sentences is that they will mean something different to everyone who reads this post, than they do to me. What we will mostly agree on is what these things we call homes, vehicles, clothes, cash etc. are, and the part that remains personal, and can only be, is just what they each mean to us. For example, we mostly agree that a moped is vehicle and so is a mercedes benz.

By adopting these beliefs, I bought my first car with cash (AU$1,200) at 18 (the legal age for obtaining a driver's licence in the state of Victoria) - albeit predominantly from the cash my parents had been saving up for me from the board I was paying from my part-time job I started when I was 14. I bought my first home with a fiancee at the age of 19 (or 1988) for AU$114,000. It was paid by age 24 and we went overseas, paying cash, for six months.

There were benefits to this system of belief, like never experiencing financial stress - I never wondered where by household or living expenses would be paid from for I had budgeted for everything, and some, 12 months in advance. To some reading this post this may seem like quite an achievement and at that time and place in my life it was. Although by age 30 I had become asset wealthy to the tune of a couple of million dollars, as previously mentioned, it didn't however prevent me becoming suicidal by age 32 as I seesawed backwards and forwards between pride and the obviousness of my mediocre lifestyle.

Most influential in introducing me to the concept that, in life there are three stages to producing an income or earnings was Caroline Myss.  She says that first we get a job which is for the purpose of meeting our basic survival needs such as food, shelter, and clothing. In a well developed country, such as Australia, this perhaps includes education and healthcare too. Then we develop a thirst for a career because it pays more than a job, and this is followed by developing a need/passion for a vocation because it's spiritually fulfilling.

At the time of my 30 something life changing moment, in my view of the world, I was developing a career in corporate management while earning $100,000. In Part 2 I'll share how I went from my career as master people pleaser to being in the process of self mastery. My last corporate job, prior to the one I am currently engaged in (six months as at Nov 2012) was in 2005.

Where has your current work Blueprint brought you too?  Are you utilising the moments of your day in a job, a career, or a vocation (the true purpose and reason that You are here)…?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 4 of 4

The beliefs instilled in me as a child and throughout my young adult life differ greatly from the ones I live my life by today. As a result I recognise my self as being a happier, healthier, wealthier, and more loving person. Every area of my life has been redefined by this process and when it comes to my health Blueprint, changing my beliefs about depression was most impactful. 

I learnt depression from an early age; mimicking and expressing feelings of despair and hopelessness to the point of becoming suicidal in my early 30s.

Instead of ending my life, I chose to start it over and I anticipate that although I am in the first decade of this life transformation, due to invaluable life experiences and Universal Truths, I have fast tracked to what feels like a current age of around mid twenty.  At this pace I expect to be living an ideal life, not only in some areas as I'm currently experiencing most of the time, but in all areas, all of the time within this decade. :o)

My initial beliefs about depression taught me that it was due to a chemical imbalance. No one could tell me how this imbalance occurred or perform a test to evidence this manic depression diagnoses. All I knew was that this chemical imbalance would deliver a heavy cloud of despair and hopelessness into my life that rendered me seemingly incapable of functioning and certainly unwilling to continue enduring such a mediocre version of what I thought life could be and what I saw others demonstrating.

I seesawed continuously between "why me, poor me, what did I do to deserve this, I must be crazy?" and depths of guilt, shame and embarrassment at ever thinking I had it badly. Nonetheless, I still couldn't explain my immense unhappiness and a doctor could - or so I thought.

Long story short, as I have made reference to this state of consciousness we call depression on other occasions throughout these posts, my new belief about it is that depression is something we learn and something we do - not something we get or that happens to us. From this base both Anthony & I have eliminated the experience called manic depression from our existence.

I first heard, via Carolyn Myss, that depression is not a mental crises but rather a crises of the soul. We agree!

Metaphysically, I was shown that depression is "an anger we feel we do not have a right to have. Hopelessness" and that suicidal tendencies relate to, "Seeing life only in black and white. Refusal to see another way out."* From this I did what I needed to, to overcome these conditions and "I went beyond other people's fears and limitations. I created MY life." I began to, "Live in the totality of possibilities." Believing that, "There is always another way. I am safe." *

As works in progress, and in the process of fully manifesting our ideal life in all areas, all of the time, these days we experience moments of contraction. The difference is that we have developed the ability to recognise these moments immediately (Awareness is the key) and then apply 1, 2, 3.

Every moment, period, season of contraction is always followed by expansion. Each experience is becoming easier and more elegant and is filled with hope and excited anticipation as we continue learning to read the signs and remain tuned to our innate guidance system.

Our purpose is to evolve happily and that's just what we are committed to doing. We have defined our personal version of this and are continually refining our health blueprints (beliefs, thoughts, values etc.) to align them to this image. Have you defined a personal expression of Life and Health?

I am happy to share another perspective about any health conditions that may be keeping you or a loved one from Loving the Life you Live.

Coming up next is the work Blueprint.

...until I post again
J. x

* source: You Can Heal Your Body by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 3 of 4

About migraines, Metaphysics reminded me that the root cause of this condition is the thoughts I have with feeling that are in accord with the "Dislike of being driven. Resisting the flow of life. Sexual fears." It also says, see headaches which states, "Invalidating the self. Self-criticism. Fear."*

As mentioned in the previous posts, I believe that all conditions are produced in correspondence with the thoughts I have with feeling that are consolidated, validated and reinforced by the words I speak and the actions I take. Every thought, feeling, word and action takes me toward or away from my ideal.

In my contemplation of the content of these posts, it occurred to me just recently that I learnt about migraines from a neighbour. She used to get them to the extreme that would render her incapacitated for up to three days at a time. The only time she left her darkened room or bed in these moments was to violently throw up/vomit.

On reflection, and from a place of uncritical observation about the past thinking that produced this condition in me, I can see that I learnt early the dislike of being driven, pushed or coerced into doing anything that didn't sit well with me. I didn't know there was a "flow to life" so it's no wonder I resisted - I didn't like what I was experiencing, so I certainly didn't want to flow with it.

I began early to endeavour to control life given it often seemed out of control to me. Particularly as a small child, my parents, in an attempt to protect my brother and I, would argue throughout the night turning my little stomach into knots of dread and fear.

The parents I mention here are of a version dating back approximately 38 years. We have all morphed into a very different version of who we were at the time these conditions and experiences took place. That being said, it was from my parents that I first observed this dislike of being driven.

My father, displayed what I might refer to as a severe case of emotional instability. I recall him on occasions threatening to end his life and I am, to this day, unaware of the beliefs that drove this style of personality and behaviour. I am however aware of the ones that eventually caused this same condition to prevail in me. Mum was the other character in this play, taking on the role of victim/rescuer of this challenging emotional expression.

I tolerated few people, especially teachers (whom I generally liked and who liked me), telling me what to do and how to do it. I absolutely disliked being driven in the direction of someone else's agenda and learnt well how to invalidate my self and be highly critical of myself which I masked by becoming critical of others. I judged and found most folks as being highly incompetent.

These days, through the study, coaching and conversation, I am aware that what I speak and observe in others is what, at some level (consciously or unconsciously), I like or dislike about my self.

In life there cannot be an abuser without a victim, a carer without a patient, or a rescuer without an endangered one. We are all playing roles in this existence we call humanity. Additional knowledge I found useful when it came to playing a different role, a more "ideal' role, is that in any moment, even right now, I am free to choose again.

As well as the victim/rescuer, to me mum was the rock, the stabiliser, and the main influencer in developing an intense personality of independence and justice in me. These traits have served me both well and not so well and which I spent much time refining. While there were things about my parents I didn't admire, today, there are also ones I do and this list grows longer. Through the understanding and practice of grace and forgiveness (A Course in Miracles being one of the influential sources in this process), I have completely embraced that everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this place. Once upon a time this place didn't feel ideal, for many reasons, and now - because life has become so delectable, my feelings of gratitude grow ever deeper.

The first step to overcoming migraines was again Awareness. I felt is was possible and made the choice to end this cycle - I recall reaching the point of "This is enough! No more!" Initially, Metaphysics provided the new thought program which I read and affirmed often, "I relax into the flow of life and let life provide all that I need easily and comfortably. Life is for me." And, "I love and approve of myself. I see myself and what I do with eyes of love. I am safe."*

In conjunction with Metaphysics I was introduced to and adopted the practise of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) - an ancient asian technique of tapping on the body's meridians, or pressure points, to relieve undesirable conditions of all sorts, including limiting beliefs and deicisions. It was highly effective for me, enabling me to return my compromised vision that indicated the onset of a migraine from 20 minutes to under 5, and reduce the throbbing headache from anywhere up to 16 hours, and copius amounts of medication, to under 10 minutes.

Being the work in progress that I am, again it takes great vigilance to monitor my thoughts and emotions to avoid the undesirable health condition that manifests or shows up in the form of a headache or migraine. However, the evidence that my health Blueprint for this condition has been permanently altered and continually improving is again unquestionable.

I'll wrap up the health Blueprint series in the next part. I will set the knee problem aside, momentarily at least, and share some thoughts on the subject of depression before moving on to the next topic of the work Blueprint.

I welcome any queries about any of the health conditions listed in Part 1 of this health series or any other that may be of interest to you.

Here are some questions to contemplate if you feel inclined to do so:

1. Are you still holing on to events that occurred in the past? How much longer are you willing to live there giving that the laws that govern life say that what we think about with feeling produces the conditions of our future that are coming to greet us?
    
2. What act/role are you playing and is it serving you well? Does this role assist or keep others and yourself in an undesirable place or is it empowering and encouraging change and growth?
    
3. Are you being observant of the thoughts and emotions that are producing your health conditions - the good ones and the not so good one?

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: Your Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L. Hay

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 2 of 4

By considering the messages I received about health as a child, especially the first vital, impressionable 10 years, I invoke the first of the Universal Truths - "Keys to a Better Life" being Awareness. I cannot change anything I do not first acknowledge as being either something I desire more or less of.

I was programmed with a health Blueprint that was predominantly focused on the limited and undesirable half of the health spectrum. Not too far along the negative side in most instances, but certainly not on the half that continually expresses the seven characteristics of the Spirit of Life, as taught by Judge Thomas Troward, being love, light, power, peace, beauty and joy. This occurred not because my parents, carers and educators wanted to harm, hurt, or damage me but because they did the best they could with the information they acquired.

This being so, in my adult years from my early 20s through to my mid 30s in particular, I unconsciously reproduced conditions that were extremely undesirable. These included cold sores that appeared from early primary school years and became a regular occurrence including getting a couple a month, ongoing, towards the end of this cycle of belief, just a few years ago. The migraines I experienced began at age 19 and lasted up to 16 hours. I recalled only recently that I had a neighbour I liked a lot that used to get them in a highly debilitating way. Inflammation/Fluid around my knees rendered me unable to walk around many Friday evenings, and my biggest health challenge, depression, began as mild and undiagnosed episodes since childhood becoming manic in my early thirties.  The day I was diagnosed with manic depression I was provided with a doctor's certificate for three months of sick leave and enough drugs for the same period...in under eight minutes. Within three days of commencing this leave and medication, I felt so disorientated in my life and in my body that I didn't want to be there anymore.

It was at this cross road, that a beloved friend handed me a book that she hadn't read at the time but came recommended by one of her trusted friend, and it turned my every thought about Life on its head. Do you know the type?

It was the impetus to reaching the conclusion or rather the commencement of a thought process that went, "If I am willing to check-out of life, why don't I just change all the things I don't like about it."  Within six months I had changed pretty much everything external to me - my relationship of 19 years came to a relatively amicable conclusion, I changed my job, the state I lived in, and my friends - not all for my immediate betterment but all of which contributed to my recognition some five years later, and with the ongoing assitance of my most incredible mirror, change agent/coach and life partner Anthony Harvey, that the one and only thing that constantly requires direct, focussed attention for change is me. By me, I don't mean more of the things around me, like my partner, my body, my friends, my home, or my clothes, I mean my beliefs.

When I changed my beliefs about my health I changed my world.

According to the thefreedictionary.com Metaphysics is branch of philosophy that deals with first principles, especially of being and knowing. It examines the nature of reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, substance and attribute, fact and value. In summary, I describe Metaphysics as a branch of philosophy that recognises that for each and every physical condition there is a mental thought process as its cause. To me Metaphysics is the understanding of the body's Cause and Effect.

Through the application of Metaphysics I gained a new understanding about all of the undesirable conditions listed in the previous post Part 1.  In particular, regarding cold sores, migraines, knee problems, and depression the understandings I gained, the actions I took, and the outcomes I produced were as follows:

Of cold sores, Metaphysics says that the old thought process (root cause) of this condition is, "Festering angry words and fear of expressing them." And, the extension of this condition, Herpes Simplex (Herpes Labialis), is "Burning to bitch. Bitter words left unspoken."* 

Every member of my family got cold sores and in my recollection we had them regularly and frequently. As the ancients say, "Like Attracts Like" and it was certainly true again of this condition. In the "communication" arena, I learnt what I saw, heard and felt which consisted predominantly of arguments, condemnation, criticism and impatience. As I became more and more aware of the particular thoughts, feelings, words and actions that brought with them the condition called cold sores, I began to impress upon my sub-conscious mind, with my conscious mind, a different belief. I wrote down and repeated often, "I only create peaceful experiences because I love myself. All is well." And, " I think and speak only words of love. I am at peace with life."*

So simple, don't you think…? Simple it is, but it's not always easy. Seven years on and I must remain ever vigilant with my thoughts, feelings, words and actions to maintain a cold sore free complexion. It is not that I no longer feel my emotions, including upset, sorrow, annoyance and anger but I am ever working my mental and emotional muscles to ensure they are fit and focussed and my aim is to feel my feelings from an uncritical place of observation to the best of my current ability. I feel the feeling and ask the question in parallel, "what is this condition telling me about myself?"

and this is how parts are born… stay tuned for part 3 of 3 or perhaps 4... :D

until I post again
Live the Life you Love
J. x

source: You Can Heal Your Life, by Louise L Hay. 

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 1 of 4
(revised Tue, 16 Oct) 

It was via Abraham-Hicks that I first read that every subject has two subjects. Take this first subject of health for example, there is the subject of poor health and there is the subject of exceptional health.  In my further study and truth, it is not so much that every subject has two subjects but rather that every subject has two extreme contrasts that exist on either end of the same spectrum of possibility.  And, on this spectrum of possibility exists a myriad of contrast available for our choosing e.g. poor health, not enough heath, failing health; and on the other end, improving health, good health, great health, and so on.  

In my understanding, both ends of the spectrum exist simultaneously and are a single subject.  What determines our experience and conditions is what we place our attention on.

At one end of the health spectrum we have the limited, contracted, and undesirable aspect of the subject and at the other end we have health in all its fullness - expressed as a state of consciousness that is ideal.

If we were asked to role play or act out either end of the spectrum, generally speaking and with sufficient rehearsing, we would have no trouble thinking about, feeling the feelings of, speaking in terms that were conducive with, and acting in ways that expressed a person with either failing, or ever increasing health.  

Always, it's the same subject with both possibilities existing simultaneously depending on the role being rehearsed over and over in thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

Here is how I believe my Health Blueprint works: According to sociologist Morris Massey, our beliefs and values (which I'm referring to as our Blueprints) are effectively programmed into us in the same manner we are initially conditioned about our gender, taught language, adopt our spiritual beliefs, learn to crawl, or walk, gain an understanding of the roles we play in relationship, the value of money, or any other value or behaviour. Depending on the repetitive messages we receive verbally, visually, audibly, and kinaesthetically etc. determines our Blueprint about that subject.  

My recollections of the messages I received in relation to health included:

• new born babies through to teenage years require immunisations to prevent them from contracting and dispensing illnesses
• children go through primary school years passing on and receiving all sorts of highly contagious conditions including knits/hair lice as well as mumps, measles, and chicken pox
• ear aches and tonsillitis predominantly effect children
• if I move my cold extremities (fingers, toes, ears and nose) to heat too quickly I will develop chill blains
• headaches are caused by stress
• migraines are caused by poor eyesight, overuse of a computer, and stress
• poor eyesight is caused from too much computer use and reading fine print
• neck, shoulder, and back pain are all caused by stress and poor posture, predominantly from sitting at a computer too long, alternatively we can sleep wrong, or get injured through physical activity
• cold sores are initiated by receiving a knock to the chin or lip, and recur when being run down, and spending too much time in the sun
• thrush/candida is caused by wearing synthetic underwear like nylon and elastin
• acne is a puberty related condition, skin conditions are weather or stress related, and a rash means that we have an internal illness or used the wrong soap/detergent
• almost all of the above are all highly contagious
• depression is caused by a chemical imbalance
• fluid around my joints occurred from hours of dance practice and teaching
• diseases like cancer are illnesses we get by drawing a short straw, or abusing substances such as tobacco and alcohol
• as adults we are required to continue getting immunisations to travel, to prevent catching colds and flues; and to have babies when we can't seem to do so naturally; and
• that our eyesight, hearing, joints, organs, minds and memory deteriorate with age - not to mention all the other aches, pain, ailments and illnesses that come with ageing. 

The above are all conditions I recall dealing with directly or observing most in others.

If, as the sages of the ages tell us, thoughts with feelings create our reality, and I believe with everything in me - a belief founded on years of study and practical implementation into the Cause of Life - that this is the one and only cause of our life experiences, it's no wonder I was somewhat of a hypocondriac.  Although I don't think I was a sickly child on the outside I do remember contracting a share of whatever was going around.  More than this I remember entertaining thoughts of terminal illnesses and death a lot and being perplexed that we supposedly had an almighty, loving God with unlimited powers, yet there was so much earthly suffering.

This is what my Health Blueprint was and where it came from. In the following parts of the Blueprint on health, I'll share what I did to reprogram it and what results I achieved.

What are or were some of your messages about health?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

An Introduction to Blueprints

Throughout the various modalities and avenues of personal development Anthony and I have travelled, there is always a chapter about what keeps our ideals, goals, milestones, or whatever terms we give them, from manifesting or reaching us.  These blocks, obstacles, limiting decisions and beliefs, self sabotaging patterns of behaviour, or whatever terms these hindrances are given, play a key role in keeping us from living an ideal life.

Generally speaking, I believe that the achievement or non achievement of our ideals has a great deal to do with our Blueprints. I define my Blueprints as those set of plans and drawings, the model or prototype, upon which my conscious and subconscious minds have been programmed.  This programming is based on years, especially the vital first 10*, when our values, beliefs and understandings about major concepts governing our state of health, work attitudes, relationships, spirituality, and money are introduced and consolidated. The consolidation process occurs via the repetitive thoughts, feelings, words, and actions that occur in relation to each of these topics producing like conditions to affirm them as true, even when they are not.

A subject of great interest to Anthony and I is identifying ways to transcend or modify the Blueprints that no longer serve us.  More than this, we wanted to be able to do so in a manner that was easy and elegant and with results that enabled the change to be rapid and lasting. The process we developed, and which has produced the most effective coaching and self-coaching techniques we've discovered to date :o) is the four Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3.

This series of posts is a behind the scenes look at how and why the Awareness + 1, 2, 3 technique works. They are intended to drill down momentarily, taking a side step from the easy and elegant, rapid, lasting change process to show these working based on personal experiences and case studies we've undertaken.

My intention in writing and publishing these is that others may also obtain keys to unlocking doors that seemingly separate them from moving forward and prospering. It is to recognise those patterns or cycles that we can unconsciously produce that seem to land us over and over again in undesirable places and unwanted conditions.

The reason why I wish to present this information, free of charge, is because I feel divinely inspired to do so. While we are works in progress, we know that the information we have attained and the manner in which we have processed and codified it is highly valuable. Further, I accept the phrase that we teach what we want to learn most, and that the gift is in the giving and the receiving.

While the space in which to share is concise, considering I endeavour to keep my posts up to an A4 page of text, you are invited to utilise the comments sections on Facebook or TypePad to ask any questions on the topic at hand that are relevant to you, a member of your family, or on behalf of a friend.   If you wish to participate and remain anonymous, please email or message me via Facebook and I will maintain your anonymity. I will however publish all queries and respond to those queries publicly.

The first Blueprint to be introduced is one that defined, and continues to define, our state of health.

Let us begin…

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

* Refer post: What's important to you?

On the other side of comfortable...

I don't follow the news, I haven't for about seven years. I find there is always someone ready to share the unpleasant news of the world without immersing myself in additional sources of external negativity.  I believe developing strength of mind and emotions, eliminating all forms of fear, and designing and experiencing my "ideal" life is good for me and the good for others.

On the weekend however it was brought to my attention that apparently things are pretty “terrible” here in Australia in terms of job cuts of late. I was told folks are really hurting and there was a speculation of how much worse things are likely to get over the next 12 to 18 months. I also heard that members of our community collecting the dole (government benefits) are required to start passing drug tests to collect their money - a move that was predicted to result in an increase in violence, theft, and other heinous activities.

On the other side of this same story I saw opportunity; opportunity for growth and progression. All conditions hold this duality - greater lack, limitation and contraction as well as improvement, betterment and expansion.

Even in the poorest of conditions people can become comfortable.  If lack is all that someone knows through their conditioning they may not know any different. Those that do recognise that there is another way to live and experience life may have also been taught that those better off are greedy, not nice people, or any number of attached limiting beliefs.

When I was doing it tough financially, emotionally, and/or spiritually, I was unaware of the alternative options available to me.   I lived in the comfort zone of doing without and discrediting those that had more - despite ever increasing feelings of frustration.

From my experience and observations we each have a comfort zone; a zone that, based on our conditioning, learnt behaviours and beliefs determines our behaviours and reactions to events and conditions.  Unless and until this zone is pushed upon in a way that may result in even greater lack and contraction, it is highly unlikely we will look for and consider, let alone adopt, a whatever it takes attitude to change our circumstances. Naturally these limits are different for everyone and this is why we have a planet of extremes and great contrast.

On hind side, I can see why it took me the time it did to apply deeply the wisdoms Anthony and I discovered through our study and coaching - namely because I was still in my financial, health and relationship comfort zones. It wasn't until these boundaries were all pushed to new limits, consisting of a magnitude of lack and limitation that caused me to metaphorically and occasionally literally scream "enough is enough", "no more of this...", "I'm done", that I would reach the cross road that in one direction read, "this way to check-out of life" and in the other, "this way to Live the Life you Love." I'm a girl with gusto! :)

Whenever I'm not achieving desired outcomes today, and experiencing contraction, I immerse myself yet deeper into the laws that govern us by monitoring even closer my Thoughts, Feelings, Words and Actions.

I find it beneficial to consider occasionally that if I had been born into another family, here, or anywhere in the world, I too could have experienced even greater lack, limitation and contraction then I did.  When I think of any person whose conditions I abhor I know that I too have the capacity to think, feel, speak and act as they do.

We are all expressing a concept of our self and it wasn't until I changed who I believed myself to be that my world began to confirm the change.

From Neville Goddard I heard that "I may conceive myself to be a rich man, a poor man, a beggar man or a thief, but the center of my being remains the same regardless of the concept I hold of myself.  At the center of manifestation there is only one I AM manifesting in legions of forms or concepts of itself and “I am that I am”."  I felt this to be true.

By my desire to experience a more abundant and prosperous life and to be a greater expression of that Life, initially at least, my conditions appeared to worsen. Things have a tendency to look and feel like they are falling apart before they come together.

I now know that this happens because I knowingly or unknowingly call into my space all that is unlike what I decide. In doing so I give myself an opportunity to be that which I decided and desired.

In the absence of that which is not,
that which is, is not.
~ Neale Donald Walsch

When committed to living an ideal life, contraction is always followed by expansion: and the degree of contraction is determined by our knowledge and application of the laws that govern us.

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. ~ Proverbs 23:7

So, what lives on the other side of comfortable…? Opportunity! Stupendous opportunity!

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Change for Goodness Sake (Part 2 of 2)

While the concepts I shared in the previous post (Part 1) are simple and purposely repetitive, i.e. that thoughts, feelings, words and actions (TFW&A) produce our desirable and undesirable experiences, we are prone to dismiss the simple things in life to our detriment.  However, while indeed they are simple, they are not always easy...

Our pre-programed beliefs and values, which are continually reinforced by our conditions, have a tendency to govern our experiences.  This is why my body developed an undesirable condition in the form of muscle pain and tightness between my shoulder blades last Wednesday afternoon (29/8/2012).  Knowing what I now know, I was able to begin the releasing process immediately by recognising the old program that caused it. These were to do with not feeling supported and "getting stuck in [thinking about] all that stuff back there".  I was focussing on what I haven't done or achieved rather than focussing on what it feels like to be living my ideal life now.  Through the love and skill of my world class change agent/coach Anthony, I was reminded that "Life always supports me and I am free to move forward with love in my heart".  In shifting my attention and again monitoring my TFW&A, by Friday morning (31 Aug) I was free of that condition.

It seems remarkable to me that once upon a time I would have dealt with this undesirable condition for weeks, if not months.  I may have had another bout of depression, swallowed umpteenth anti-inflammatories, additional pain relief for the headaches and migraines, been so annoyed I would have undoubtedly come up with a cold sore and attended numerous Osteopath treatments as well.  SUCH DRAMA!!

One of the reasons I have come to understand why change is not considered or experienced as easy or elegant initially is because our conscious mind tells us continually that what we desire is not yet so - which, by the way, is part of its function.  It also tells us when things are so.  The fact that our ideal conditions are not current is not the cause of the conscious mind so much as part of the guidance system for where we are up to.  It operates from our five physical senses, but that's not all there is.

The sub-conscious mind, the realm of feeling, when not engaged independently and with intention, supports the conscious mind attracting like conditions that we then experience consciously.  So, when I run the story that a thing is not so, over and over, by giving any aspect of it my attention via my TFW&A, I make it more so.  Simply put, what I focus on expands.

By engaging the sub-conscious mind independently and with intention it does not need the ideal conditions to be present to believe them possible or true now.  The way I engage the sub-conscious mind is by feeling the feelings of my wishes fulfilled!  I focus my TFW&A on the desired condition being true for me now.

This sets the cogs in motion for the manifestation of my desire into form and, by the natural Law of Growth, I became the person I need to be in order to do and to have my ideal outcomes.

By releasing my addiction to how something must play out, even in the minutest way, I concur that I don't know the intricacies of Creation and that I am part of something Greater than myself.  We are told in scripture that "all things we ask in prayer, believing, we will receive”, and that "His ways are past finding out".  I believe these statements to be so because I also believe that creation is complete - meaning there are no circumstances, desires, objects, or conditions that I can think of that do not have the ways and the means to manifest.  There are many things I enjoy in life that I cannot fathom the workings or production of and enjoy them anyway like electricity, gravity, and oxygen to name a few…

So, I can come to see and rest assured that anything I give my attention to, feel deeply about, AND believe to be true, in the now, is guaranteed to evolve into matter in this time-space existence.  This is the training (the perfect practice), the reprogramming (the necessity to obtain new information and fake it till I make it), and the Faith (the honest belief) required to experience good, joyful change/evolution.

It doesn't happen this way because I say so.  It happens this way because it has been written about for millennia.  It happens this way because science confirms the physical aspects of this process (such as thoughts are energy), as do all the sacred scriptures of the world, and because some seven billion human inhabitants of which I proudly call myself one are living proof of it every moment of their/our existence. 

We are all at Cause for the conditions before us, individually and collectively, and we are and can continue to Change for Goodness Sake ;)

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Change for Goodness Sake (1 of 2)

I've been referring to change a lot lately and it's no coincidence - not that I believe in coincidences but that's another post.

As a race or species we are told by numerous sources that we are undergoing monumental change on every level of our existence.  Change that is beyond the detection of physical science because these changes are not only of a physical nature...they are predominantly of the Universal kind.  How do I know for sure whether or not this change is happening?  Because I am experiencing great change, in some shape or form, first hand, everyday.

Further, change is one of the main ingredients for producing our highest expression as human beings (human excellence) and human excellence is a subject of great interest to us here at Universal Truths.  We have come to believe, with everything in us, that change means evolution and evolution means Life. And Life lived in excellence, as the Sages of the Ages have taught us, is a Life truly worth living!

Whenever I entertain any doubt about whether change is good or bad, I remind myself that it is absolutely great because whatever is happening, regardless of its appearance, is happening for my highest good.  I can say this with conviction because I have begun reaping the rewards of years of training to refocus my attention toward my good and now recognise more and more that in reality there is nothing but this Goodness – it just so happens to include a vast array of contrast from which I can differentiate and select.

Like billions of others getting around on this extraordinary planet we call Earth, I wasn't always so sure or so clear about this concept.  Then, AND in the occasional now moments of living life, my doubt becomes apparent when I again function from the place of limited information and beliefs.  In doing so I reap the consequences of that limited thinking by producing undesirable conditions.

Through study, implementation and experience I have come to know that my conditions are not only a direct response to my thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, but they are 100% accurate, although not 100% exact - here's what I mean...

A reason why I haven't to-date instantly received millions of dollars in lottery prizes, engaged specific companies to share our services with, hooked up with people that look like this and act like that, cured ailments and illnesses this way by this time, or occupied a CBD abode in that building with this address, is because these are all a matter of how.   What I have learnt to do instead is open channels and receive big, happy, financial surprises, engage with large iconic Australian and global companies, meet and know many lovely and interesting folks, and focus on health and other desirable conditions.  And, how Life played out the details of these experiences through me, was not in ways I could have expected nor requested.

I’ve since learnt that how is the desire/Will of Life Itself and thank goodness this is so because it certainly makes things easier, more elegant, and far quicker than anything I could have produced myself.  Life has the means and the ways for how to manifest what we desire that is beyond finding out.

My role, as I now understand it, in the change/evolution process is to contemplate what and not deviate until what next activities (what we also refer to as Divinely Inspired Actions) appear in my consciousness.

To continue the process that starts with a thought, idea, inkling, or desire, I contemplate and hold my thoughts and feelings on what it actually feels like to be, do and have the details of that condition now.  I am continually becoming more and more disciplined in what thoughts I entertain and what I’m feeling because I now know this is part of the creative process; for the production of desirable and undesirable conditions.

An example of what thinking in order to change my condition of not enough money was to contemplate instead what it actually felt like now that I have (note: not "going to have" meaning its coming, but "now have") more than enough of the substance called money or currency to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and with who I want?  And, yes indeed, wealth includes much more than money!  No matter what stage of wealth we are demonstrating or expressing today, there is always more available...and for very good reason.

Regarding an ideal job, an example of this what thinking to manifest a change in my conditions is to feel deeply who I am being, what I am doing, and what I have, now that I am providing a service that contributes to my joy, and that is good for many.  When I thought about, and took action towards, providing a particular service because of what I could earn, and the money dilemmas this could solve, I earned little and often found the related activities arduous.  Now that I'm focused on providing a service because of the value I am and can yet provide, my income streams have opened up and money has arrived from a variety of unexpected channels.  A key here was to recognise the true Source of my supply – yet another topic for another time.

Regarding what thinking and an ideal relationship, I changed this by replacing my thoughts of being single and the looming doom of failure, distrust, and disappointment in any shape or form with my fairytale outcomes.  Today, I continue to change/evolve it by changing my own thoughts and feelings and by becoming the person I wish to be with, thereby attracting my perfect mirror as my reflection.  In my opinion, intimate relationships are most telling of where we are up to in our personality and its expression  - physically, mentally and spiritually, when viewed and conducted in an enlightened manner.  Anthony reveals to me areas to be healed and refined and the more I did and continue to do this, the more beautiful my mirror image becomes, literally and metaphorically.

My role, as I've come to understand and live it in the game of life, is to differentiate and select from the array of available life experiences.  In other words it is to decide what I desire to be, do, and have by contemplating what those conditions and experiences would feel like if they were true for me right now.  By holding these visions and imaginary experiences as true, I am breathing Life into them and playing my perfect part.  The fake it till you make it phrase and perfect practice are vital concepts when playing the change game.  Even scripture tells us to "call things that are not as though they were." 

Let's keep changing for Goodness sake...

until I post again...
Love the Life you Live
J x

Times they are a changing...

I have learnt to embrace change. I don't always love it but I certainly have made change my friend.

In my "past life", prior to the last seven years :o), I loathed change.  In my unconscious attempt to control everyone and everything, not in a conscious neurotic sort of way but from an unconscious place of deep fears, change represented uncertainty.  I found it scary, unpredictable and not always in my best interest.

These days I know that change is certain and
I view it as an ever ready portal
through which all my undesirable conditions can be transformed.

During my recent years of great personal transformation, it was a surprise to me just how many aspects of my life and myself I didn't like. The more I chose to shine the light on areas of myself and my life, the more I found I was less than content with.

Learning what we've learnt along the way, I got to change much about myself.  As I did I found that when I achieved the next version of "me" in an area I considered to be ideal, I would realise yet more was available, if I so desired.  I came to understand that not only can I continually and endlessly imagine other, grander versions of ideal, for ever aspect of my life, but that it is in harmony with Life Itself to do so.

It has become known to me at a cellular level that my number one purpose for existing at all is to partake in the Great Plan of Life/Evolution which by definition is "a gradual process in which something changes into a different and usually more complex or better form." *

Last weekend marked the "next step" of significant change for Anthony and I yet again. While most weekends do, the difference this time is that I wish to share the planning, the process, and the progress via this space.

The areas upon which the Light is currently being shone includes: our body composition (or personal physical expression), our expression via our home, and the manner and roles through which we express ourself in areas of service.

As I have blogged and posted in the past, planning precedes performance.  So, last weekend was when I put keyboard to screen and produced my latest "What" document. From a place of uncritical observation, I listed "What" conditions I am currently producing/receiving (Keys: Awareness + 1).  I then asked and noted, "What do I now desire?" (Key No. 2), and this elegantly led me too, "What" my new focus needs to be on (Key No. 3).

I also took some current stats in terms of my height, weight and measurements. To accompany these I took some now photos which I'm also doing with the cabin (our home). I intend to upload these on weekends or when the tools of the trade permit me to do so more regularly with ease. Whilst the body shots will be conservative for professional purposes they will reveal enough to document my progress.

And what does this have to do with manifesting an inner city abode or becoming a company culture change agent, you might ask? Everything of course! Absolutely everything as we'll come to see...

until I post again...
Love the Life you Live
J x

* source: meaning of evolution

One thing is for Certain

 
The company with whom I'm currently engaged is in the throes of massive transformation. No surprises there given my belief that everything and everyone, in my unique perspecitve of the world, is in some form or another a reflection of my Self. : )

The greatest corporate transformation I've experienced to-date was when the Melbourne aviation office I was engaged with from 1998 to 2004 outsourced its products and services resulting in the office's closer and redundancy of all team members.

During the closure period, around August to December, my business success and human potential studies were in their infancy.  They had progressed enough however to gain an intellectual understanding that, in Truth, "Life is happening through me, not to me".

That small family of 10, part of a global company employing in excess of 25,000, united by consciously or unconsciously agreeing on a couple of key concepts including;

• One Thing for Certain is...Change; and
  
  
• Thoughts and Attitudes play a big part in our current change experiences and in our next professional engagement, our home life, our health, and goodness knows what else, now and in the future...

The outcome: every member of that family stayed until the final day and immediately transitioned to roles we considered to be an advancement for one reason or another.

Another major factor I believe contributed to that outcome was the leadership capabilities and competencies of our Managing Director. More about these another time - they're important!

On my newest stage, I find myself surrounded by more lovely people.  In my immediate vicinity there are 26 of them. My experience is that they are warm, friendly, professional, fun loving, family oriented, and highly intelligent people in their fields.

Late last week, following an office group function, five guys (amongst them leaders from our team) were chatting. Not too long after joining them to say hello, I asked the group a question... It went something like;

So, who here thinks they'll still have a job in 6 to 12 months? :|

My conscious mind, the one that operates in conjunction with my five physical senses, wants to dedicate the next couple of paragraphs to justifying why I asked the question in this manner, just as it briefly attempted to do at the time. Yet, when I invite my sub-conscious mind to contribute a perspective it offers something quite different...

My sub-conscious mind, the part that operates in conjunction with my feelings enables me to have an emotional attachment with the people I'm around, in fact people in general these days, that springs from a base of Love.  From that place my question resembles something more like;

"This is a big time for you guys, most of you are husbands and fathers, with homes and bills to pay, children to educate, lives to plan, relationships to be enjoyed. What are you making of this time and job security?" : )

Some of these guys have been with the company for a decade or more.  Fortunately, they are sharp and fast and got my intent real quick so we went on to have a candid conversation for the last few minutes of the gathering.

It was great to discover that these guys are not just colleagues, they're mates.  I loved they're honest sharing.  One colleague expressed it was Certainty he desired.  A knowing which way things are going to go - one way or the other.  They were frank in their understanding that new blood often brings known blood with them to the table - people they have worked with in the past.  So they most want to know where they stand.

When I asked if it really was Certainty they sought, another colleague suggested that it's Transparency in terms of simply being kept informed.

I agreed, I believe Transparency is paramount when people do not yet have the understanding and experience that we are creating our own reality and that in truth job security is not up to anyone or anything outside our self.  In this interim, Transparency forms part of the foundation of basic respect and is a two way street.

By the end, our conversation left me contemplating two Certainties...the first is as this post implies, Change is Certain. The second certainty is that we are always in transition and there is an easy and elegant manner for this transition to occur.

I believe company culture and company success, like individual personalities and our ability to prosper, are external expressions of our internal beliefs and values.

The significant Change that will determine this company
and individual's outcomes are the changes that are going on within.

Now, regarding Getting into the Spirit of my city abode...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Turning the mundane into the magical

Administration is my professional game. It's where I started my professional career in 1987 and something that has remained my career focus for in excess of 25 years.

Having spent five years full time and a portion of everyday since, another two years so far, dedicated to the study and implementation of human potential and business success, administration was the last role I thought I would return to during or following the attainment of such powerful, life altering information and experiences. Yet...at this very moment...I am in discussion regarding a permanent role as an executive assistant to a senior group executive within the banking and finance sector.

Why is it happening this way? Well, I believe it's due to two fundamental concepts; one being that 'how' is not my responsibility, and the other is due to the natural Law of Growth - which I've touched on in earlier posts and will surely touch on again in future ones.

Over the years I have gained an understanding of what I believe is "my higher purpose for being here", and this has without doubt been key to experiencing more and more moments of peace, contentment and joy in my journey to 'evolve' my body, mind and soul. Prior to this recognition, sustainability of these desirable states of consciousness were few and far between, regardless of what I was doing.

Now, to the best of my ability, I spend as many moments of my day in recognition that more important than what I'm doing is the way I'm doing it, aka who I Am being. By this I mean awareness on the thoughts I'm having, what I'm feeling, the relationships I'm developing, and the way I move around etc. This along with the firm belief that these things are taking me closer and closer, moment by moment, thought by thought, word by word, and step by step towards yet a higher concept of myself, is absolutely what turns the ordinary into the extraordinary and the mundane into the magical for me on a daily and weekly basis.

With the understanding that my greatest desires are attained not through what I am doing, but rather through who I am being, I practice being a Company Culture Change Agent everyday now - and have been for the past nine weeks. A daily and weekly focus on an interim professional goal towards my bigger, breathtaking, most inspirational goal for which I continue to be on this planet and in this realm to experience.

For the most part I'm absolutely loving what I'm doing because of who it gives me the opportunity to be and where I believe it is taking me. In regards to those not so enjoyable moments...well, I use them as part of my contextual field from which to reflect and revise using our Universal Truths - Awareness + 1, 2, 3 process. By doing so, I believe I am continually transmuting my undesirable conditions and experiences into my future extraordinary and magical moments of now.

until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Planning Precedes Performance

"Keys to a Better Life" 

I often hear individuals say they are desirous of living an "authentic life".

I too was desirous of this and it was my coach, beautiful friend and partner, Anthony, who reminded me that we can’t live anything but an "authentic life". After all, there is no other version of you and me on the planet. We are unique, one of a kind, therefore how could it be that the life we are living, here and now, be anything but authentic?

If this is so, how could it be that we were living authentically and often felt so miserable? What was it about the lives we were leading that felt so incongruent?

As we journeyed we discovered, amongst many things, that many facets of our personality were adopted...

To see how this could be so, let’s take a look at the definition of personality*:

1. The quality or condition of being a person.
2. The totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behaviour, that are peculiar to a specific person.
3. The pattern of collective character, behavioural, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person.

Where did these qualities, conditions, traits, characteristics, behaviours, temperaments, and emotions originate from? Initially at least they were learnt, taught to us, and adopted as we observed and profiled others, thought on things repetitvely, and formed our values and beliefs - consciously or unconsciously.

In the same way all skills, abilities, and expressions are mastered, like crawling, walking, language and so on, we take on these facets of our personality through slow normalcy and repetition.  And, depending on the extent of awareness and practice we dedicate to the task, we become anywhere between poor and extraordinary at expressing them…whether we like them or not.

When enough was enough, we discovered there was no time like the present to plan an ‘ideal’ version of our Self; so plan we did…

• We planned our new personalities
• We planned our ideal future
• We planned our greatest desires for the next year, month, week and day
• And these days we plan about pretty much everything...!

After we plan, we implement…we contemplate and meditate about the next inspired action(s) to take and we go for it! Some days we are better at this than others...but whatever the season, there are two things for sure, one is we never give up and the other is we are always getting better!

Today, we continue to define and refine these plans because there is no doubt in our minds and experience that "Planning Precedes Performance".

When we desire to excel in or at something, we require a plan of excellence to ensure that success because after all, "Like Attracts Like".

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Related post: What's important to you?

* Source: thefreedictionary.com/personality

When I Thought I Had Lost My Mind

"Keys to a Better Life" 

Have you ever had a feeling that you’ve kind of lost sight of yourself? That you’re not sure if your Arthur or Martha? Coming or going? Here or there? Those “What the heck is going on?” moments and “Who the hell Am I?”  I sure have!

These moments were usually preceded or accompanied by a level of intense intolerance and irritation for everything and everyone around me, especially my partner. There was this overarching bewilderment of, “Why is everyone so darn incompetent in life?” yet everything that was not right always seemed to end up being my fault.    

After years of roller coasting in and out of these ‘moments’ I came to the point of feeling “I really don’t want to get out of bed today!” and “oh, what’s the use?”

For the most part, I did keep getting out of bed, until I didn’t.  I assured myself I’d “get over it”, or “it must be that time of the month”, or “what the hell have I got to complain about” and so on. I felt guilty, weak (despite my strong exterior), empty, sad, and lonely. I mostly felt very, very lonely (even though I was usually around others every day and night).

On top of this, life always seemed busy and when I thought life couldn’t possibly get busier, it did.  I felt like a rag doll being pulled from pillar to post yet never seeming to please anyone; no matter how hard I tried. I felt like I was the only one who really put in at work, at home, in maintaining friendships and family relations and yet it seemed it was never enough.

The results?

I became exhausted, fed up, disheartened, frustrated, withdrawn, and unhappy. I suffered with migraines, cold sores, back aches, neck pain, shoulder pain and a host of other undesirable conditions. I felt unappreciated, hopeless, despondent, unloved, and unattractive, and being intimate became the last thing on my mind.

I rode this roller coaster sufficient times to go from seeking a temporary ‘respite’ – a day off as sick leave here and there (which I referred to as “mental health days”), or stringing two or three days together (if I could muster the energy and courage to fetch a doctor's certificate), and sometimes I would go away for weekends. Then, I thought I reached the point of no return and began contemplating a ‘permanent out’!  It wasn't until I reached this point that I changed course and began defining and designing a new ME!

I figured that if I was going to consider ‘checking-out’ of life,
temporarily or permanently,
why wouldn’t I just change everything I didn’t like about it instead?

So I did!

I changed many things! In one way or another, I changed my job, my clothes, my home, my home state, my friends, and even my partner. And while today I have turned these not always pleasant changes into positives, I am writing this post to the friends and loved ones in my life, and to whomever it may concern, who now find themself in their own version of a “what the heck” moment.

As I have written before, we can change the name and the face, the car, the home, the job, and the ‘everything’, within our current environment yet there will remain the one constant in it all…OURSELF!

Friends, the problem is never the problem and when the mirror reflects back at us a version of our self that we are less than delighted with we don’t smash the mirror.

Over the past decade or so I have made it a specialty to recognise patterns in my life. It is what enabled me to overcome manic depression and a bunch of ‘other’ undesirable conditions.  Through activities such as journaling, researching, experimenting, observing, contemplating, and being coached, I began noticing patterns; patterns of thought, patterns of behaviour, and patterns of emotion; all of which ultimately led to patterns of conditions.

My aim, as I began gaining a better understanding of life via new information, activities and experiences, was to derail this roller coaster ride and transition instead from where I was to where I wanted to be in an easy and elegantly manner and with rapid lasting change.

All of these Universal Truth blog posts are dedicated to sharing about the areas Anthony and I addressed, and continue to address, to transition towards living our ‘ideal’ life.

In my next post, I specifically address a significant aspect of this transition and that is that “Planning Precedes Performance”…

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Too Cool For You

"Keys to a Better Life" 

How do I get rid of an old thought?

 
During the week, a friend of Universal Truths said and asked the following:

"I’ve been thinking about something and have a question. I realised that ever since growing up, I carry with me a standard that was past on to me which hasn’t served me any good then and now. It's a process that I recognise is getting in the way of my ability to be appreciative of others.

Growing up, I would take one look at a person and 'measure' their coolness. 

“I got teased when I was younger,
so I go out of my way to make sure I ‘fit in’.”

I have these categories where I put people in certain types of groups: 'people that are way too cool for me'; 'people that are cool enough'; 'people that aren’t so cool but I would still hang out with'; 'people that aren’t cool at all'.

I don’t just do that to others, I do it to myself as well. I put myself in one category as if that’s where I belong.

Today, I know it's getting in the way of feeling free to be me with others I encounter.

“How do I get rid of an old thought?”

Whilst there are a number of discussion points around this undesirable condition, this post has been primarily written to address the question: How do I get rid of an old thought?

The first Universal Truths Key to a Better Life is Awareness. Only by acknowledging or becoming aware that something or someone may no longer be serving our expansion towards living our highest expression, can we do something about it.

Further, the problem is never the problem! The problem here is not that this person had limiting beliefs passed on to them, or that they are unable to fully appreciate others, or that they got teased growing up, or that they categorise themself and others. These are all conditions and whilst many conditions from our past need acknowledgement and forgiveness, they are not today's problem. In fact, I would go so far as to say, there is no problem. Rather, what we have here is another opportunity to ‘feel free to be me’.

A distinction between what we do and what other personal development and psychological approaches do is that the latter often addresses the conditions and asks ‘why’ a lot. Why don’t you appreciate others? Why do you think you got teased? Why don’t you feel cool? And so on… Upon delving into these questions there is often an element of criticism that emerges for one self and others. Also, in our experience ‘why’, in this context, is useless because it is endless…

Instead, at Universal Truths, we turn Key 2 and suggest that once our awareness toward desirable or undesirable conditions has been identified, we become The Great Observer. That is, from a place of uncritical observation we consider ‘what’ impact has this style of thinking had? ‘What’ style of thinking is this? e.g. is it physical or spiritual, contracting or expanding, regressive or progressive?  ‘What’ feelings does this thinking generate? And, ‘what’ conditions did it produce?

Making uncritical observations broadens our awareness enabling us to become better equipped to contain situations, welcome them by understanding there are new gifts about to revealed, address them from the present moment, and progress in an easier, more elegant, and rapid manner.

Key 3 is to Refine our Imagination and is a real key in the ‘how to’ process. The masters tell us that ‘how’ is not our role to play. Rather, our role in the co-creation of our ideal life is to define and refine the ‘what’. 

We change old thoughts, word, actions and conditions by asking questions like, “What do I now desire?  e.g. my desire is to feel free to be me and to appreciate others. What feelings would the accomplishment of these new desires produce? e.g. feelings of freedom and liberty, respect and appreciation, oneness, worthiness etc. Who will this allow me to be? e.g. loving, friendly, fun to be with, relaxed, uniquely expressive. What new conditions will this new way of thinking produce? e.g. I’ll get to meet new and interesting people, enjoy beautiful interaction, and appreciate a variety of personal expressions. I get to express myself freely.

The more consideration and aliveness we give to Key 3 the faster we move from where we are to where and what we next desire to be, to do, and to have. You may wish to review the Phases of Change post for more detail about this process (a link has been provided at the end).

Once we have refined our imagination and given definition and life to the next greatest version of who we wish to be, the fourth and final key in the process is to be Grateful for the inevitable and joyous experiences that are already present, but which we haven’t been able to notice, as well as the new ones now rushing towards us through the natural Law of Growth and Cause of Life.

The moment we imagine what we now desire, the greater part of us, our eternal essence or the Spirit of Life becomes it immediately and through our focussed attention on what we want and how that feels now, we attract from Spirit its correlating matter or form. That is, we attract the like conditions.

So, in summary, my answer to the question, 'how do I get rid of an old thought?' is; by replacing it with a better one. And a process to do so is through the application of the four Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life”.

1. Become aware of it (the undesirable thought and/or correlating condition(s)).
2. Contemplate it from a place of uncritical observation.
3. Refine your imagination by defining what you now desire.
4. Be grateful for its completion by detaching from anything unlike your new desire, focussing on like thoughts, and feeling the feelings of your wishes fulfilled.

Try it for yourself and let us know how you go…

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Helpful Posts: What Vs Why; Phases of Change – A 6 Step Process

Assumptions Harden Info Fact

"Keys to a Better Life"


A Psychological Interpretation of "the Passover"
An Extract from Neville Goddard - Lesson 2
ASSUMPTIONS HARDEN INTO FACT

Neville says: "This Bible of ours has nothing to do with history. Some of you may yet be inclined tonight to believe that, although we can give it a psychological interpretation, it still could be left in its present form and be interpreted literally. You cannot do it. The Bible has no reference at all to people or to events as you have been taught to believe. The sooner you begin to rub out that picture the better.

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Our first story for tonight is found in the Gospel of John. This is a very familiar story, the story of the trial of Jesus. In this Gospel of John it is recorded that Jesus was brought before Pontius Pilate, and the crowd clamored for his life, they wanted Jesus. Pilate turned to them and said:

"But ye have a custom, that I should release unto you one at the Passover;
will ye therefore that I release unto you the King of the Jews? Then cried they
all again, saying, Not this man, but Barabbas. Now Barabbas was a robber."
John 18:39, 40

You are told that Pilate had no choice in the matter, he was only a judge interpreting law, and this was the law. The people had to be given that which they requested. Pilate could not release Jesus against the wishes of the crowd, and so he released Barabbas and gave unto them Jesus to be crucified.

Now bear in mind that your consciousness is God. There is no other God. And you are told that God has a son whose name is Jesus. If you will take the trouble to look up the word Barabbas in your concordance, you will see that it is a contraction of two Hebraic words: BAR, which means a daughter or son - or child, and ABBA, which means father. Barabbas is the son of the great father. And Jesus in the story is called the Saviour, the Son of the Father.

We have two sons in this story. And we have two sons in the story of Esau and Jacob. Bear in mind that Isaac was blind, and justice to be true must be blind folded. Although in this case Pilate is not physically blind, the part given to Pilate implies that he is blind because he is a judge. On all the great law buildings of the world we see the lady or the man who represents justice as being blindfolded.

"Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. " John 7:24.

Here we find Pilate is playing the same part as Isaac. There are two sons. All the characters as they appear in this story can apply to your own life. You have a son that is robbing you this very moment of that which you could be.

If you came to this meeting tonight conscious of wanting something, desiring something, you walked in the company of Barabbas. For to desire is to confess that you do not now possess what you desire, and because all things are yours, you rob yourself by living in the state of desire. My saviour is my desire. As I want something I am looking into the eyes of my saviour. But if I continue wanting it, I deny my Jesus, my saviour, for as I want I confess I am not and "except ye believe that I AM He ye die in your sins." I cannot have and still continue to desire what I have. I may enjoy it, but I cannot continue wanting it.

Here is the story. This is the feast of the Passover. Something is going to change right now, something is going to passover. Man is incapable of passing over from one state of consciousness into another unless he releases from consciousness that which he now entertains, for it anchors him where he is.

You and I may go to physical feasts year after year as the sun enters the great sign of Aries, but it means nothing to the true mystical Passover. To keep the feast of the Passover, the psychological feast, I pass from one state of consciousness into another. I do it by releasing Barabbas, the thief and robber that robs me of that state which I could embody within my world.

The state I seek to embody is personified in the story as Jesus the Saviour. If I become what I want to be then I am saved from what I was. If I do not become it, I continue to keep locked within me a thief who robs me of being that which I could be.

These stories have no reference to any persons who lived nor to any event that ever occurred upon earth. These characters are everlasting characters in the mind of every man in the world. You and I perpetually keep alive either Barabbas or Jesus. You know at every moment of time who you are entertaining.

Do not condemn a crowd for clamoring that they should release Barabbas and crucify Jesus. It is not a crowd of people called Jews. They had nothing to do with it.

If we are wise, we too should clamor for the release of that state of mind that limits us from being what we want to be, that restricts us, that does not permit us to become the ideal that we seek and strive to attain in this world.

I am not saying that you are not tonight embodying Jesus. I only remind you, that if at this very moment you have an unfulfilled ambition, then you are entertaining that which denies the fulfillment of the ambition, and that which denies it is Barabbas.

To explain the mystical, psychological transformation known as the Passover, or the crossing over, you must now become identified with the ideal that you would serve, and you must remain faithful to the ideal. If you remain faithful to it, you not only crucify it by your faithfulness, but you resurrect it unaided by a man.

As the story goes, no man could rise early enough to roll away the stone. Unaided by a man the stone was removed, and what seemingly was dead and buried was resurrected unassisted by a man.

You walk in the consciousness of being that which you want to be, no one sees it as yet, but you do not need a man to roll away the problems and the obstacles of life in order to express that which you are conscious of being. That state has its own unique way of becoming embodied in this world, of becoming flesh that the whole world may touch it.

Now you can see the relationship between the story of Jesus and the story of Isaac and his two sons, where one transplanted the other, where one was called the Supplanter of the other. Why do you think those who compiled the sixty odd books of our Bible made Jacob the forefather of Jesus?

They took Jacob, who was called the Supplanter, and made him father of twelve, then they took Judah or praise, the fifth son and made him the forefather of Joseph, who is supposed to have fathered in some strange way this one called Jesus. Jesus must supplant Barabbas as Jacob must supplant and take the place of Esau.

Tonight you can sit right here and conduct the trial of your two sons, one of whom you want released. You can become the crowd who clamors for the release of the thief, and the judge who willingly releases Barabbas, and sentences Jesus to fill his place. He was crucified on Golgotha, the place of the skull, the seat of the imagination.

To experience the Passover or passage from the old to the new concept of self, you must release Barabbas, your present concept of self, which robs you of being that which you could be, and you must assume the new concept which you desire to express.

The best way to do this is to concentrate your attention upon the idea of identifying yourself with your ideal. Assume you are already that which you seek and your assumption, though false, if sustained, will harden into fact.

You will know when you have succeeded in releasing Barabbas, your old concept of self, and when you have successfully crucified Jesus, or fixed the new concept of self, by simply looking MENTALLY at the people you know. If you see them as you formerly saw them, you have not changed your concept of self, for all changes of concepts of self result in a changed relationship to your world.

We always seem to others an embodiment of the ideal we inspire. Therefore, in meditation, we must imagine that others see us as they would see us were we what we desire to be.

You can release Barabbas and crucify and resurrect Jesus if you will first define your ideal. Then relax in a comfortable arm chair, induce a state of consciousness akin to sleep and experience in imagination what you would experience in reality were you already that which you desire to be.

By this simple method of experiencing in imagination what you would experience in the flesh were you the embodiment of the ideal you serve, you release Barabbas who robbed you of your greatness, and you crucify and resurrect your saviour, or the ideal you desired to express."

unitl next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Judgements Vs Observations

 

 "Keys to a Better Life"

I have a personal theme for 2012 that in a word is Congruence.  On a personal level, this means to be in alignment, agreement and harmony with who I say I am. I’ve also adopted a mathematical meaning for the visual construct it provides me which relates to a shape, a triangle for example, coinciding exactly when superimposed.

I placed a post on the Universal Truths Facebook Page recently mentioning that the difference between a judgement and an observation is that an observation informs us about our self. To obtain information on any subject, including our self, we must first ask questions – hence the statement, questions are the answers.

Recently, a friend was beside herself with fear and worry about what could be considered as seriously negative activities being carried out by her child. Although at a conscious, objective level she felt that she "had it all together’", based on the conditions being manifested, including a physical ailment that develops from the old thought pattern of, “Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Fear and tension. Too sensitive.” ~ Louise L. Hay, she accepted that something very different was going on at a sub-conscious and subjective level.

When we first began discussing the subject, she was using phrases like, “I’ll just have to let them go”, “they know what they need to do, they just won’t do it”, and “I just don’t know what else to do.”  During our conversation, I began introducing big concepts like, the world is our mirror, every man is my teacher, the difference between a judgement and an observation, and of course my favourite, the Law of Cause & Effect.

Given that her child is also a mature adult, there is no-thing any of us can do, without their desire and full cooperation, to assist them to change their situation. Therefore, to change our undesirable conditions and experiences, the areas to address include refraining from judgement and making many observations instead to assist us to become aware amd informed about, and change, ourselves.

As we do this, and the more those in relationship with anyone who appears to be caught up in undesirable behaviours does this, the more the undesirable behaviours will let go, fall away and disappear both from our reflection (the other person) and in our own life.

We cannot observe in another,
that which does not exist within our self.

There is but one of us.

So who do I say I am and who do I wish to superimpose?  Metaphysics and mental science has taught me that my highest personality is expressed in greater and greater form the more I recognise my relationship to the Great Oversoul of the Universe.  To me, this Being is Supreme Consciousness with attributes consisting of Life, Love and Beauty.

Based on this, I am welcoming, blessing and utilising all the characters and conditions currently in my life to inform me about myself.  Whenever I hear, see or feel an interaction that is displeasing in some way, I ask myself, “Where in my life am I being, saying, doing…?”  and, “Where in my life can I express more Life, Love and Beauty?”

With each answer to my questions I become further informed about actions I can take to become more congruent.

My friend left asking questions like, “Perhaps it's not my child I'll just have to let go of but the fear and worry”, “I know what I want to do with my life and it’s time I did it”, and “I know what else I can do.”

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Cause & Effect…

"Keys to a Better Life"

When we feel certain frustrations, we have a tendency to think that making changes to the conditions will fix everything. This is attempting to live by the law of effect & cause which is a reverse of the actual Law.

Using any law back-to-front produces back-to-front results. While it is true that changing our actions can generate changes to our conditions (effects)…our actions are not the First Cause of our experiences.

Acting better is as long term effective as thinking better;
both are surface level changes that produce temporary improvement.

First Cause consists of nouns and adjectives such as Being and Knowing so, when we change the reason (Cause) that attracted the undesirable conditions to us in the first place, we are sure to experience different conditions that ultimately generate more and lasting desirable results and feelings.

To change our unwanted conditions and outcomes, easily and elegantly and with lasting change, it is imperative we use the Law correctly. As it is the Law of Cause & Effect, we are to first contemplate the thoughts we have with feelings about the topic in hand, be it at home, at work, or in relationship. Following this key step we call 'Awareness', the rest is 1, 2, 3 * - all of which, in turn, cause us to take different actions which, in turn attract different conditions, and result in ongoing improved experiences and feelings.

Cause > Effect

Thoughts with feeling drive our words and actions
which attract, produce or reflect like conditions - (people, places and events).

Make 2012 about you, because we can't give what we haven't got and,
until next time...
Live the Life you Love!
J. x


* to read Posts about the Universal Truths "Keys to a Better Life" - Awareness + 1, 2, 3 click on Awareness (Part 2 of 5) or My Ideal Week, type Awareness in the Search field, or click on the Awareness Category from any page.

You Are The Person You Are Waiting For

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

"I used to say, "I sure hope things will change." Then I learned that the
only way things are going to change for me is when I change." - Jim Rohn

Often in life, when the conditions around our relationships, health, wealth and so on are not as we desire, we place the power to heal them outside ourselves. We think, say and do things that indicate when that other something changes, e.g. that person realises what they’re doing, we get that job, we find a doctor who can treat us correctly etc., then our unwanted conditions will change and everything will be OK.

However, when we truly understand that there is not a single anyone or anything outside of ourselves that needs to change for us to Be, Do and Have all that we require and desire, the power to change is back in the hands of the one and only person co-creating their involvement in the first place – our self! And how are we doing this? By our thoughts of who we are and the value we place on our existence!

"Don’t wish it was easier; wish you were better.
Don’t wish for less problems; wish for more skills.
Don’t wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom." - Jim Rohn

In this moment now we have all the talent, skills, intellect, ability, characteristics, resources, wisdom, and any other quality required to take the very next step towards Being the person, and living the ideal life, we imagine for our self.

The reason this is true, is because of our uniqueness. There is no other ‘you’ who is coming to take your place and be the person only you can be called to be, do the things only you desire to do, and have the things only you can desire and have.

We are here to Live a Life we Love and Love the Life we Live.

Until next time…
Live a Life you Love!
J. x

All paths lead to God

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

All paths lead to God!
Well, at least they did in our instance…

Anyone who has read our Home Page introduction on this website (www.universaltruths.com.au) will be informed that Anthony and I have dedicated ourselves as individuals, in relationship, and in our careers to the study of human potential, sales, and business performance.

When Anthony and I first connected in November of 2005, Anthony had been a celibate Christian for some 14 years and I, well, I had distanced myself from religion as far as I could although metaphysics and spirituality had been emerging in my life in preceding years.

Our beliefs were generally vastly different and at some point, very early in our relationship, Anthony suggested we proceed on the proviso that we conduct the study that will tell us whether or not the Bible and its content are in fact the Truth, the Light, and the Way, or not.

A new covenant three months after we met, a relocation from inner city Melbourne to the majestic setting of Zaggi Point in Wamuran Queensland, and the journey continues...

First, we did some internet research and quickly found a plethora of material for and against.

Around the same time, we were seeking a coach that could assist us with a mortgage broking business we commenced.  After a number of ‘non matches’ including successfully suing one company for misleading conduct and failure to fulfil our contractual agreement, I stated that from now on I was going to appoint Christ as my coach. He was the only wholesome character I knew who was trustworthy, possessed infinite intelligence, is extremely resourceful, and 100% reliable.

Have you tried having a meeting with Christ lately?  Some questions that immediately came to mind were; where do we meet, how do I address Him, and how will we communicate…

These questions led us to research individuals that had not only acquainted themselves with the western biblical text intimately, but had studied the Greek and Hebrew origins of it, all excluded and relocated scriptural text, as well as the spiritual origins and books of the world.

To cut a long story short in this medium of sharing today, just like a jigsaw puzzle, one revealing piece led us to the next until eventually the scales tipped and the jigsaw puzzle became both complete and eternally incomplete.

By emanating Christ as best we can, at this stage of our existence, our journey has led us to grasp a foundation of Truth that produced the quality of results and feelings we had been searching for and continues to reveal to us the infinite potential and possibilities available to us for experiencing.

Our journey has led us to a relationship with God, so personal in its nature, that it surpasses anything our religious backgrounds obscurely taught us.

God is our Truth, our Light and our Way! In Him do we live and move and have our whole being.

To our fellow seekers of Truth I repeat: "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. [Matthew 7:7-8; Luke 11:9-10]

Until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J x

Killing with Kindness

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

An aspect of Anthony and I loving the life we live and living the life we love requires us to observe and provide options to individuals, families and organisations who are living and operating on the effect side of years of inherited beliefs, limited decision and learnt behaviours.

One of the perceived challenges the X and Y generations face, in my opinion, is the need to think for our Selves about everyone and everything.  While it may seem to some people that we are all free thinkers, we can share with you from experience this is simply not the case.

Until a conscious choice is made to examine every belief, decision, behaviour and aspect of our personality and where desired redefine them, we are living-out the effects of years of programming that feels so natural to who we are and what we do that it has become unconscious.  In other words, we are generally giving the ideas, outcomes and activities of our life as much conscious thought as we give to the blinking of our eyes, the beating of our hearts or the levelling of our blood sugar.

That’s right…for the most part we are on auto-pilot.

As a result, we have become products of our environment, not duplicates but individuals that have been profoundly influenced by the environments in which we were raised.  All too often, because Love is so grossly misunderstood and rarely demonstrated by our parents and carers, because they weren’t shown true Love themself, we are left floundering with what I call acts of disempowering kindness.  Good intentions and actions that, more often than not, are based on fear and do more harm than good.

Before I studied and implemented the sort of change I’ve referred to here, I spent from my mid teens through to my late twenties witnessing a family, particularly the parents, convince a young boy from about age five or six (that I know of) that he was good for nothing.

By whatever standards a lay person can measure, I knew this adorable child was of healthy mind and body. Yet, because of the continual barrage of insults, name-calling, verbal and sometimes physical abuse he received, he grew up with an intense lack of self worth and a whole lot of loathing for himself and others.

By his mid teens he was a rebel and by the time he got his licence he was heading off the rails, fast.  Because he was ‘good for nothing’, all conditions that involved this young man were rarely short of drama. He wasn’t able to get a job and on the rare occasion someone lined one up for him, he wouldn’t keep it. Mum became the bank, the taxi and to keep the peace, not that it did or maybe it would have been worse, whatever he asked for he generally received.  His disregard for women and law and order meant that he was often heartbroken, in poor company, making poor choices, repeatedly losing licence demerit points and his licence, and accumulating fines.

Supposedly, to prevent the problem from escalating, mum in particularly would pay up, shut up and cover up as much of the now delinquent behaviour as she could. It quickly progressed to being somewhat of a full time job.  But no matter how hard she compensated for her contribution to this man becoming exactly what she, and others, expected of him and what he was told over and over again until it became true for him and them, there were two major events she was never going to be able to undertake on his behalf...going to jail and having a heart attack at around age 25.

As it turns out, this man was lined up with yet another job however this time he was made to feel as though his contribution counted.  He began to feel valued and valuable on a more consistent basis.  This in turn enabled him to regain some of his own self worth and instead of fulfilling a prophecy held by some, he did manage to avoid prison. Comparatively, he progressed well in this place of employment as well as building a home, getting married and having a child by around the age of 25. However, whilst he survived the second event, he did experience a heart attack at this young age.

Labels, name-calling, abuse of any sort, including inverted thinking,
and internal and external dialogue with our children,
our Selves and others counts all the time.

Children in particular want to do nothing short of please their parents and they will and do become whatever is told, demonstrated and expected of them literally.

It’s never too late to expect wonderful things for and of our Selves and the people around us.  If we or someone else is not currently living up to our expectations then Awareness is the key and the rest is 1, 2, 3.

In my next blog post I’ll provide an example of how these Universal Truth Keys can be applied to a situation such as this.

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Phases of Change - A 6 Step Process

From my personal experience and my observation of others (who are engaged in a definite stage of transition in any area of their life), ‘change’ has phases.

The pace at which we move through these phases is personal, as all timing is.  However, we can and do influence time - all the time.  “How do we do this?”  An example might be, “How much time do you need to decide to do things differently?” or in other words, “How far is a decision?”

Having become aware that we desire a different condition to one that is currently undesirable in our life and observing it from an uncritical place of observation, we refine our imagination by asking our Self, "what would I now rather feel?"  And this, I believe, is where the phases of change come into play.

Phase 1:  The Research Phase

As Louise Hay, bestselling author of You Can Heal Your Life, so eloquently puts it, “Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand”.  When we want to do something differently, namely better, we often need to know and understand more than what is currently available to us.  So, this is the phase for researching and collecting data or evidence of another way to do something.

Fortunately, we live in a correlative Universe and therefore when we seek, so must we find.  When we genuinely set our intention on improving an area of our life, for example our finances, our health, or our relationships, the new knowledge and understandings are always provided.  Then it is up to us to pursue and assimilate these new findings.

This ‘showing up of information’ can occur in a myriad of ways: a conversation, observation of others ‘doing well’ in the same area we wish to improve, a book, a song, a website, a Blog post, a workshop, a consultation.  Depending on our available time and desire for change will determine the route we take to obtain the new information we require.

So, with new knowledge and understandings in hand, what happens next...?


Phase 2:  Replaying the old condition, with awareness

For a period of time, namely while gathering the new information as outlined in Phase 1, we can repeat old patterns of behaviour.  However, although we become aware of a new way of doing something, we may not yet have impressed these new thoughts, language and actions onto our sub-conscious mind.  And so, with our sub-conscious mind still wired to the beliefs and values of our past, the old action plays out.  This time however, we are able to recognise it and hopefully uncritically observe that we decided to experience a different outcome.  We all know that to get a different outcome, we must do things differently.


Phase 3:  Begin replaying the old, and stop mid stream

As we begin to implement our new knowledge and repeat these new behaviours over and over again, we begin to impress upon the sub-conscious mind the new thoughts, language and actions that will deliver the new results.

It takes courage to recognise the playing out of an old pattern of behaviour and stop mid stream due of our decision and awareness to obtain a different outcome. The quicker we introduce Phase 4, the faster Phase 3 phases out…


Phase 4:  Self-Contemplation

Ideally, I recommend going from Phase 1 to Phase 4 as quickly as possible.  Although highly desirable, given the numerous distractions many of us face in the course of daily living, this is not always possible.

When transitioning from Point A to Point B in any area of our life, taking the time to contemplate what the next greatest version of ‘me’ looks, sounds and acts like is imperative to experiencing any new outcome.

This is the time when the conscious mind impresses its new desires onto the sub-conscious mind and until this occurs, the new way of being is unable to flow as a natural aspect of our individual personality.


Phase 5:  Playing the new, sometime not all the way through

Similar to Phase 3, the duration of Phase 5 depends on the attention given to Phase 4.  However, this time it is not so much about how quickly we reach this phase but about the duration and quality of time we spend there.

The clearer we become in defining the next greatest version of our Self and impressing these thoughts, words and actions onto our sub-conscious mind (through meditation or any other form of self-contemplation), the sooner we obtain the new and improved personal qualities required to produce the new and improved outcome in our life.

Until then, we may partly carry out our new way of being and stop midway as though our language or actions etc. are not quite fully developed to see us all the way through.


Phase 6:  Demonstrating the new and next greatest version of you

Phase 6 can also be referred to as the Rewards phase.  This is the phase that makes any effort to create change in our life absolutely worthwhile.

It is our responsibility to Be the change we wish to see in others.  In fact, when we observe anything in our life that displeases us about another, it is always a reflection of an area within our Self that requires attention…

A great deal of satisfaction is to be had when our new way of Being is natural to us and we are now consistently achieving a new and improved result in that area of our life.  This is the time to enjoy these new benefits and Reward your efforts!


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Until next time...
Live the Life you Love
J. x