Universal Truths

Relationship Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

At Universal Truths, we believe, through studying and consultations, that all disharmony in relationship, from upset to hatred and individuals to nations, stems from a mismatch in personal values (that which is important to us individually).

I've been reworking this Relationships Blueprint blog for some time now considering the most succinct manner in which I can share seven years of study and observation as well as experiences and findings on this subject concisely enough to produce a blog or two of around 800 words each.  More than half a dozen approaches must have come to me since commencing it the day after the previous blog was posted.

Relationships, although not the last of this Blueprint series, is the ultimate one because Life itself is about who we are being in relation to everyone and everything.  Our health, our work, our spirituality, our finances, and our many and varying relationships are all dependent on the manner in which we view and relate to these subjects.

Another fundamentally important aspect of relationships is the subject of communication because we communicate in alignment with our state of consciousness (who we perceive ourselves to be at any given point in time) and many people get, intellectually at least, that it's not what we say that counts so much as how we say it.  Therefore, the quality of all relationships are influenced by our ability to express ourselves in and through them.

By living in awareness of the laws that govern all life, we have come to know - intellectually and experientially - that the world and everyone we encounter is merely a reflection of our perceived self.  Conditions and people are our mirror image and tell us where we are up to or how we are tracking against what we think and say is "ideal".  An example of this is that I spent a period of my life believing people were angry and rude and the moment I began to eliminate anger and any form of rudeness from by expressions (facial, tonality, physical etc.) is the moment I began encountering different experiences. It took me many years to get to a place where I could accept this "mirror image" concept fully and today there is not shred of doubt left in me that this is a Universal Truth.  Don't take my word for it though, test it for yourself...

Who we are being, through the personalities we express, are yet again a composition of learnt values and behaviours. Our thoughts about a person, a place, a race, a country, alternative spiritual beliefs, sexual preferences, body piercing, hairstyles, fashion, tattooing, body compositions, public displays of affection, the rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, and the thief are, like all blueprints, initially taught to us, learnt and adopted.

To change what I see, hear, feel, know and reflect to myself about others, I change myself.  I have done this enough times now to know that every man is my teacher, reflecting to me a potential state of consciousness. Depending on the thoughts, feelings, and meaning I give to how someone else chooses to express themselves tells me where I am up to in my beliefs about whatever aspect of life they are expressing.  If I make a judgement, i.e. my thoughts and feelings are about them, I place my power to make a change outside of me.  If instead I make an observation, i.e. I view what is being said or done as merely an interesting way to express oneself, I empower myself to consider what I'm seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling about this tells me about myself.  I then become the change I wish to see in others - while not surprising anymore I am constantly amazed by the power these laws have to change my conditions. The understanding and implementation of judgements vs observations played and continues to play an integral part in living an ideal life.

When I first returned to the 'Big Smoke' recently to engage with the movers and shakers of our central business district or corporate world with my new found knowledge and skills, I was consumed by the public display of contrast available. The homeless, the shoppers, the buskers, the money collectors and so on and then, once inside a high rise, engaging with collegues, peers, senior executives as well as CEOs and an array of consultants and service providers who wish to converse and do business with us.  The world is our contextual field from which to define and design our ideals.

As a child I learnt judgment over observation. I was taught what was "right" and "wrong" sometimes with conflicting messages and demonstration. I was taught that what goes on in our home, stays in our home and this taught me how to live more than 'One Life'.  It was the days when visitors would just pop in because they were "in the neighbourhood".  The full blown argument that was occurring a one moment ago was set aside to act as though all was harmonious.  This could go on for hours before the visitors left and the arguing was picked up where things left off.

Within the past seven years I have learnt to live 'One Life' and maintain my centre of peace on a more consistent bases.  Once I could change my state of consciousness from "I feel great", to "I feel lousy" and everything in between many times a day. Now peace and contentment are my base achieved by exchanging swinging states of consciousness with regularly checking that my thoughts and emotions are aligned to my clearly defined ideals about how I wish to be perceived and relate to others - all human beings regardless of their current state of consciousness (who they believe themselves to be), or their race, skin colour, religious and sexual preferences and so on.

Who and how I relate with and to others is critical to Living a Life I Love. I have become more tolerant and compassionate by becoming engaging and genuinely curious and interested in other people's story.  I now understand that we are all living our dream life however for some this means nirvana while for others this is hell but all are derived by the same laws that govern life, whether we know them or not.  Our current conditions are derived from what we belief to be true and think about with feeling and are as temporary as our current thoughts about these subjects.

In Part 2 of Relationship Blueprints I'll relate more specifically to how blueprints affect our intimate relationships.

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Change for Goodness Sake (1 of 2)

I've been referring to change a lot lately and it's no coincidence - not that I believe in coincidences but that's another post.

As a race or species we are told by numerous sources that we are undergoing monumental change on every level of our existence.  Change that is beyond the detection of physical science because these changes are not only of a physical nature...they are predominantly of the Universal kind.  How do I know for sure whether or not this change is happening?  Because I am experiencing great change, in some shape or form, first hand, everyday.

Further, change is one of the main ingredients for producing our highest expression as human beings (human excellence) and human excellence is a subject of great interest to us here at Universal Truths.  We have come to believe, with everything in us, that change means evolution and evolution means Life. And Life lived in excellence, as the Sages of the Ages have taught us, is a Life truly worth living!

Whenever I entertain any doubt about whether change is good or bad, I remind myself that it is absolutely great because whatever is happening, regardless of its appearance, is happening for my highest good.  I can say this with conviction because I have begun reaping the rewards of years of training to refocus my attention toward my good and now recognise more and more that in reality there is nothing but this Goodness – it just so happens to include a vast array of contrast from which I can differentiate and select.

Like billions of others getting around on this extraordinary planet we call Earth, I wasn't always so sure or so clear about this concept.  Then, AND in the occasional now moments of living life, my doubt becomes apparent when I again function from the place of limited information and beliefs.  In doing so I reap the consequences of that limited thinking by producing undesirable conditions.

Through study, implementation and experience I have come to know that my conditions are not only a direct response to my thoughts, feelings, words, and actions, but they are 100% accurate, although not 100% exact - here's what I mean...

A reason why I haven't to-date instantly received millions of dollars in lottery prizes, engaged specific companies to share our services with, hooked up with people that look like this and act like that, cured ailments and illnesses this way by this time, or occupied a CBD abode in that building with this address, is because these are all a matter of how.   What I have learnt to do instead is open channels and receive big, happy, financial surprises, engage with large iconic Australian and global companies, meet and know many lovely and interesting folks, and focus on health and other desirable conditions.  And, how Life played out the details of these experiences through me, was not in ways I could have expected nor requested.

I’ve since learnt that how is the desire/Will of Life Itself and thank goodness this is so because it certainly makes things easier, more elegant, and far quicker than anything I could have produced myself.  Life has the means and the ways for how to manifest what we desire that is beyond finding out.

My role, as I now understand it, in the change/evolution process is to contemplate what and not deviate until what next activities (what we also refer to as Divinely Inspired Actions) appear in my consciousness.

To continue the process that starts with a thought, idea, inkling, or desire, I contemplate and hold my thoughts and feelings on what it actually feels like to be, do and have the details of that condition now.  I am continually becoming more and more disciplined in what thoughts I entertain and what I’m feeling because I now know this is part of the creative process; for the production of desirable and undesirable conditions.

An example of what thinking in order to change my condition of not enough money was to contemplate instead what it actually felt like now that I have (note: not "going to have" meaning its coming, but "now have") more than enough of the substance called money or currency to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and with who I want?  And, yes indeed, wealth includes much more than money!  No matter what stage of wealth we are demonstrating or expressing today, there is always more available...and for very good reason.

Regarding an ideal job, an example of this what thinking to manifest a change in my conditions is to feel deeply who I am being, what I am doing, and what I have, now that I am providing a service that contributes to my joy, and that is good for many.  When I thought about, and took action towards, providing a particular service because of what I could earn, and the money dilemmas this could solve, I earned little and often found the related activities arduous.  Now that I'm focused on providing a service because of the value I am and can yet provide, my income streams have opened up and money has arrived from a variety of unexpected channels.  A key here was to recognise the true Source of my supply – yet another topic for another time.

Regarding what thinking and an ideal relationship, I changed this by replacing my thoughts of being single and the looming doom of failure, distrust, and disappointment in any shape or form with my fairytale outcomes.  Today, I continue to change/evolve it by changing my own thoughts and feelings and by becoming the person I wish to be with, thereby attracting my perfect mirror as my reflection.  In my opinion, intimate relationships are most telling of where we are up to in our personality and its expression  - physically, mentally and spiritually, when viewed and conducted in an enlightened manner.  Anthony reveals to me areas to be healed and refined and the more I did and continue to do this, the more beautiful my mirror image becomes, literally and metaphorically.

My role, as I've come to understand and live it in the game of life, is to differentiate and select from the array of available life experiences.  In other words it is to decide what I desire to be, do, and have by contemplating what those conditions and experiences would feel like if they were true for me right now.  By holding these visions and imaginary experiences as true, I am breathing Life into them and playing my perfect part.  The fake it till you make it phrase and perfect practice are vital concepts when playing the change game.  Even scripture tells us to "call things that are not as though they were." 

Let's keep changing for Goodness sake...

until I post again...
Love the Life you Live
J x

One thing is for Certain

 
The company with whom I'm currently engaged is in the throes of massive transformation. No surprises there given my belief that everything and everyone, in my unique perspecitve of the world, is in some form or another a reflection of my Self. : )

The greatest corporate transformation I've experienced to-date was when the Melbourne aviation office I was engaged with from 1998 to 2004 outsourced its products and services resulting in the office's closer and redundancy of all team members.

During the closure period, around August to December, my business success and human potential studies were in their infancy.  They had progressed enough however to gain an intellectual understanding that, in Truth, "Life is happening through me, not to me".

That small family of 10, part of a global company employing in excess of 25,000, united by consciously or unconsciously agreeing on a couple of key concepts including;

• One Thing for Certain is...Change; and
  
  
• Thoughts and Attitudes play a big part in our current change experiences and in our next professional engagement, our home life, our health, and goodness knows what else, now and in the future...

The outcome: every member of that family stayed until the final day and immediately transitioned to roles we considered to be an advancement for one reason or another.

Another major factor I believe contributed to that outcome was the leadership capabilities and competencies of our Managing Director. More about these another time - they're important!

On my newest stage, I find myself surrounded by more lovely people.  In my immediate vicinity there are 26 of them. My experience is that they are warm, friendly, professional, fun loving, family oriented, and highly intelligent people in their fields.

Late last week, following an office group function, five guys (amongst them leaders from our team) were chatting. Not too long after joining them to say hello, I asked the group a question... It went something like;

So, who here thinks they'll still have a job in 6 to 12 months? :|

My conscious mind, the one that operates in conjunction with my five physical senses, wants to dedicate the next couple of paragraphs to justifying why I asked the question in this manner, just as it briefly attempted to do at the time. Yet, when I invite my sub-conscious mind to contribute a perspective it offers something quite different...

My sub-conscious mind, the part that operates in conjunction with my feelings enables me to have an emotional attachment with the people I'm around, in fact people in general these days, that springs from a base of Love.  From that place my question resembles something more like;

"This is a big time for you guys, most of you are husbands and fathers, with homes and bills to pay, children to educate, lives to plan, relationships to be enjoyed. What are you making of this time and job security?" : )

Some of these guys have been with the company for a decade or more.  Fortunately, they are sharp and fast and got my intent real quick so we went on to have a candid conversation for the last few minutes of the gathering.

It was great to discover that these guys are not just colleagues, they're mates.  I loved they're honest sharing.  One colleague expressed it was Certainty he desired.  A knowing which way things are going to go - one way or the other.  They were frank in their understanding that new blood often brings known blood with them to the table - people they have worked with in the past.  So they most want to know where they stand.

When I asked if it really was Certainty they sought, another colleague suggested that it's Transparency in terms of simply being kept informed.

I agreed, I believe Transparency is paramount when people do not yet have the understanding and experience that we are creating our own reality and that in truth job security is not up to anyone or anything outside our self.  In this interim, Transparency forms part of the foundation of basic respect and is a two way street.

By the end, our conversation left me contemplating two Certainties...the first is as this post implies, Change is Certain. The second certainty is that we are always in transition and there is an easy and elegant manner for this transition to occur.

I believe company culture and company success, like individual personalities and our ability to prosper, are external expressions of our internal beliefs and values.

The significant Change that will determine this company
and individual's outcomes are the changes that are going on within.

Now, regarding Getting into the Spirit of my city abode...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Planning Precedes Performance

"Keys to a Better Life" 

I often hear individuals say they are desirous of living an "authentic life".

I too was desirous of this and it was my coach, beautiful friend and partner, Anthony, who reminded me that we can’t live anything but an "authentic life". After all, there is no other version of you and me on the planet. We are unique, one of a kind, therefore how could it be that the life we are living, here and now, be anything but authentic?

If this is so, how could it be that we were living authentically and often felt so miserable? What was it about the lives we were leading that felt so incongruent?

As we journeyed we discovered, amongst many things, that many facets of our personality were adopted...

To see how this could be so, let’s take a look at the definition of personality*:

1. The quality or condition of being a person.
2. The totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behaviour, that are peculiar to a specific person.
3. The pattern of collective character, behavioural, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person.

Where did these qualities, conditions, traits, characteristics, behaviours, temperaments, and emotions originate from? Initially at least they were learnt, taught to us, and adopted as we observed and profiled others, thought on things repetitvely, and formed our values and beliefs - consciously or unconsciously.

In the same way all skills, abilities, and expressions are mastered, like crawling, walking, language and so on, we take on these facets of our personality through slow normalcy and repetition.  And, depending on the extent of awareness and practice we dedicate to the task, we become anywhere between poor and extraordinary at expressing them…whether we like them or not.

When enough was enough, we discovered there was no time like the present to plan an ‘ideal’ version of our Self; so plan we did…

• We planned our new personalities
• We planned our ideal future
• We planned our greatest desires for the next year, month, week and day
• And these days we plan about pretty much everything...!

After we plan, we implement…we contemplate and meditate about the next inspired action(s) to take and we go for it! Some days we are better at this than others...but whatever the season, there are two things for sure, one is we never give up and the other is we are always getting better!

Today, we continue to define and refine these plans because there is no doubt in our minds and experience that "Planning Precedes Performance".

When we desire to excel in or at something, we require a plan of excellence to ensure that success because after all, "Like Attracts Like".

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Related post: What's important to you?

* Source: thefreedictionary.com/personality