Universal Truths

Relationship Blueprints

Part 1 of 2

At Universal Truths, we believe, through studying and consultations, that all disharmony in relationship, from upset to hatred and individuals to nations, stems from a mismatch in personal values (that which is important to us individually).

I've been reworking this Relationships Blueprint blog for some time now considering the most succinct manner in which I can share seven years of study and observation as well as experiences and findings on this subject concisely enough to produce a blog or two of around 800 words each.  More than half a dozen approaches must have come to me since commencing it the day after the previous blog was posted.

Relationships, although not the last of this Blueprint series, is the ultimate one because Life itself is about who we are being in relation to everyone and everything.  Our health, our work, our spirituality, our finances, and our many and varying relationships are all dependent on the manner in which we view and relate to these subjects.

Another fundamentally important aspect of relationships is the subject of communication because we communicate in alignment with our state of consciousness (who we perceive ourselves to be at any given point in time) and many people get, intellectually at least, that it's not what we say that counts so much as how we say it.  Therefore, the quality of all relationships are influenced by our ability to express ourselves in and through them.

By living in awareness of the laws that govern all life, we have come to know - intellectually and experientially - that the world and everyone we encounter is merely a reflection of our perceived self.  Conditions and people are our mirror image and tell us where we are up to or how we are tracking against what we think and say is "ideal".  An example of this is that I spent a period of my life believing people were angry and rude and the moment I began to eliminate anger and any form of rudeness from by expressions (facial, tonality, physical etc.) is the moment I began encountering different experiences. It took me many years to get to a place where I could accept this "mirror image" concept fully and today there is not shred of doubt left in me that this is a Universal Truth.  Don't take my word for it though, test it for yourself...

Who we are being, through the personalities we express, are yet again a composition of learnt values and behaviours. Our thoughts about a person, a place, a race, a country, alternative spiritual beliefs, sexual preferences, body piercing, hairstyles, fashion, tattooing, body compositions, public displays of affection, the rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, and the thief are, like all blueprints, initially taught to us, learnt and adopted.

To change what I see, hear, feel, know and reflect to myself about others, I change myself.  I have done this enough times now to know that every man is my teacher, reflecting to me a potential state of consciousness. Depending on the thoughts, feelings, and meaning I give to how someone else chooses to express themselves tells me where I am up to in my beliefs about whatever aspect of life they are expressing.  If I make a judgement, i.e. my thoughts and feelings are about them, I place my power to make a change outside of me.  If instead I make an observation, i.e. I view what is being said or done as merely an interesting way to express oneself, I empower myself to consider what I'm seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling about this tells me about myself.  I then become the change I wish to see in others - while not surprising anymore I am constantly amazed by the power these laws have to change my conditions. The understanding and implementation of judgements vs observations played and continues to play an integral part in living an ideal life.

When I first returned to the 'Big Smoke' recently to engage with the movers and shakers of our central business district or corporate world with my new found knowledge and skills, I was consumed by the public display of contrast available. The homeless, the shoppers, the buskers, the money collectors and so on and then, once inside a high rise, engaging with collegues, peers, senior executives as well as CEOs and an array of consultants and service providers who wish to converse and do business with us.  The world is our contextual field from which to define and design our ideals.

As a child I learnt judgment over observation. I was taught what was "right" and "wrong" sometimes with conflicting messages and demonstration. I was taught that what goes on in our home, stays in our home and this taught me how to live more than 'One Life'.  It was the days when visitors would just pop in because they were "in the neighbourhood".  The full blown argument that was occurring a one moment ago was set aside to act as though all was harmonious.  This could go on for hours before the visitors left and the arguing was picked up where things left off.

Within the past seven years I have learnt to live 'One Life' and maintain my centre of peace on a more consistent bases.  Once I could change my state of consciousness from "I feel great", to "I feel lousy" and everything in between many times a day. Now peace and contentment are my base achieved by exchanging swinging states of consciousness with regularly checking that my thoughts and emotions are aligned to my clearly defined ideals about how I wish to be perceived and relate to others - all human beings regardless of their current state of consciousness (who they believe themselves to be), or their race, skin colour, religious and sexual preferences and so on.

Who and how I relate with and to others is critical to Living a Life I Love. I have become more tolerant and compassionate by becoming engaging and genuinely curious and interested in other people's story.  I now understand that we are all living our dream life however for some this means nirvana while for others this is hell but all are derived by the same laws that govern life, whether we know them or not.  Our current conditions are derived from what we belief to be true and think about with feeling and are as temporary as our current thoughts about these subjects.

In Part 2 of Relationship Blueprints I'll relate more specifically to how blueprints affect our intimate relationships.

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Blueprints & Our State of Health

Part 1 of 4
(revised Tue, 16 Oct) 

It was via Abraham-Hicks that I first read that every subject has two subjects. Take this first subject of health for example, there is the subject of poor health and there is the subject of exceptional health.  In my further study and truth, it is not so much that every subject has two subjects but rather that every subject has two extreme contrasts that exist on either end of the same spectrum of possibility.  And, on this spectrum of possibility exists a myriad of contrast available for our choosing e.g. poor health, not enough heath, failing health; and on the other end, improving health, good health, great health, and so on.  

In my understanding, both ends of the spectrum exist simultaneously and are a single subject.  What determines our experience and conditions is what we place our attention on.

At one end of the health spectrum we have the limited, contracted, and undesirable aspect of the subject and at the other end we have health in all its fullness - expressed as a state of consciousness that is ideal.

If we were asked to role play or act out either end of the spectrum, generally speaking and with sufficient rehearsing, we would have no trouble thinking about, feeling the feelings of, speaking in terms that were conducive with, and acting in ways that expressed a person with either failing, or ever increasing health.  

Always, it's the same subject with both possibilities existing simultaneously depending on the role being rehearsed over and over in thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

Here is how I believe my Health Blueprint works: According to sociologist Morris Massey, our beliefs and values (which I'm referring to as our Blueprints) are effectively programmed into us in the same manner we are initially conditioned about our gender, taught language, adopt our spiritual beliefs, learn to crawl, or walk, gain an understanding of the roles we play in relationship, the value of money, or any other value or behaviour. Depending on the repetitive messages we receive verbally, visually, audibly, and kinaesthetically etc. determines our Blueprint about that subject.  

My recollections of the messages I received in relation to health included:

• new born babies through to teenage years require immunisations to prevent them from contracting and dispensing illnesses
• children go through primary school years passing on and receiving all sorts of highly contagious conditions including knits/hair lice as well as mumps, measles, and chicken pox
• ear aches and tonsillitis predominantly effect children
• if I move my cold extremities (fingers, toes, ears and nose) to heat too quickly I will develop chill blains
• headaches are caused by stress
• migraines are caused by poor eyesight, overuse of a computer, and stress
• poor eyesight is caused from too much computer use and reading fine print
• neck, shoulder, and back pain are all caused by stress and poor posture, predominantly from sitting at a computer too long, alternatively we can sleep wrong, or get injured through physical activity
• cold sores are initiated by receiving a knock to the chin or lip, and recur when being run down, and spending too much time in the sun
• thrush/candida is caused by wearing synthetic underwear like nylon and elastin
• acne is a puberty related condition, skin conditions are weather or stress related, and a rash means that we have an internal illness or used the wrong soap/detergent
• almost all of the above are all highly contagious
• depression is caused by a chemical imbalance
• fluid around my joints occurred from hours of dance practice and teaching
• diseases like cancer are illnesses we get by drawing a short straw, or abusing substances such as tobacco and alcohol
• as adults we are required to continue getting immunisations to travel, to prevent catching colds and flues; and to have babies when we can't seem to do so naturally; and
• that our eyesight, hearing, joints, organs, minds and memory deteriorate with age - not to mention all the other aches, pain, ailments and illnesses that come with ageing. 

The above are all conditions I recall dealing with directly or observing most in others.

If, as the sages of the ages tell us, thoughts with feelings create our reality, and I believe with everything in me - a belief founded on years of study and practical implementation into the Cause of Life - that this is the one and only cause of our life experiences, it's no wonder I was somewhat of a hypocondriac.  Although I don't think I was a sickly child on the outside I do remember contracting a share of whatever was going around.  More than this I remember entertaining thoughts of terminal illnesses and death a lot and being perplexed that we supposedly had an almighty, loving God with unlimited powers, yet there was so much earthly suffering.

This is what my Health Blueprint was and where it came from. In the following parts of the Blueprint on health, I'll share what I did to reprogram it and what results I achieved.

What are or were some of your messages about health?

until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x

One thing is for Certain

 
The company with whom I'm currently engaged is in the throes of massive transformation. No surprises there given my belief that everything and everyone, in my unique perspecitve of the world, is in some form or another a reflection of my Self. : )

The greatest corporate transformation I've experienced to-date was when the Melbourne aviation office I was engaged with from 1998 to 2004 outsourced its products and services resulting in the office's closer and redundancy of all team members.

During the closure period, around August to December, my business success and human potential studies were in their infancy.  They had progressed enough however to gain an intellectual understanding that, in Truth, "Life is happening through me, not to me".

That small family of 10, part of a global company employing in excess of 25,000, united by consciously or unconsciously agreeing on a couple of key concepts including;

• One Thing for Certain is...Change; and
  
  
• Thoughts and Attitudes play a big part in our current change experiences and in our next professional engagement, our home life, our health, and goodness knows what else, now and in the future...

The outcome: every member of that family stayed until the final day and immediately transitioned to roles we considered to be an advancement for one reason or another.

Another major factor I believe contributed to that outcome was the leadership capabilities and competencies of our Managing Director. More about these another time - they're important!

On my newest stage, I find myself surrounded by more lovely people.  In my immediate vicinity there are 26 of them. My experience is that they are warm, friendly, professional, fun loving, family oriented, and highly intelligent people in their fields.

Late last week, following an office group function, five guys (amongst them leaders from our team) were chatting. Not too long after joining them to say hello, I asked the group a question... It went something like;

So, who here thinks they'll still have a job in 6 to 12 months? :|

My conscious mind, the one that operates in conjunction with my five physical senses, wants to dedicate the next couple of paragraphs to justifying why I asked the question in this manner, just as it briefly attempted to do at the time. Yet, when I invite my sub-conscious mind to contribute a perspective it offers something quite different...

My sub-conscious mind, the part that operates in conjunction with my feelings enables me to have an emotional attachment with the people I'm around, in fact people in general these days, that springs from a base of Love.  From that place my question resembles something more like;

"This is a big time for you guys, most of you are husbands and fathers, with homes and bills to pay, children to educate, lives to plan, relationships to be enjoyed. What are you making of this time and job security?" : )

Some of these guys have been with the company for a decade or more.  Fortunately, they are sharp and fast and got my intent real quick so we went on to have a candid conversation for the last few minutes of the gathering.

It was great to discover that these guys are not just colleagues, they're mates.  I loved they're honest sharing.  One colleague expressed it was Certainty he desired.  A knowing which way things are going to go - one way or the other.  They were frank in their understanding that new blood often brings known blood with them to the table - people they have worked with in the past.  So they most want to know where they stand.

When I asked if it really was Certainty they sought, another colleague suggested that it's Transparency in terms of simply being kept informed.

I agreed, I believe Transparency is paramount when people do not yet have the understanding and experience that we are creating our own reality and that in truth job security is not up to anyone or anything outside our self.  In this interim, Transparency forms part of the foundation of basic respect and is a two way street.

By the end, our conversation left me contemplating two Certainties...the first is as this post implies, Change is Certain. The second certainty is that we are always in transition and there is an easy and elegant manner for this transition to occur.

I believe company culture and company success, like individual personalities and our ability to prosper, are external expressions of our internal beliefs and values.

The significant Change that will determine this company
and individual's outcomes are the changes that are going on within.

Now, regarding Getting into the Spirit of my city abode...

until I post again...
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Who Am I Being?

"Keys to a Better Life" 

"All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you." ~ don Miguel Ruiz

Following a number of conversations and observations recently, I’ve been reminded of how much we are generally conditioned to spend our time discerning who someone else is being. By our comments, often unconsciously, we remark about whether or not we perceive others as being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on…

Over the past decade or so, I have been introduced and reintroduced to the concept, from a plethora of sources, that everyone and everything is my mirror. That is, all things and conditions are a direct reflection of what I think about and radiate about who I am. Having spent many hours contemplating this concept, and integrating it into my life, it became evident to me through these conversations, just how little (if any) time I now spend concerned with or about what or who someone else is being.

Instead, what has transpired is that I have become acutely aware of other people’s self expression but only for the purpose of providing me with a contextual field i.e. when I hear about, read a Facebook post or Blog from, listen to, or have a direct interaction with another, I use what my physical senses are transmitting to revalue and refine who I am being.

As an example, several people have been sharing their challenges and experiences with me in relation to their mothers, some of who are also their children’s grandparent. Our initial response to these conditions, based on our prior conditioning, often puts us in the position of being critical of what the other has said or done - usually a clear indication that a values conflict has occurred – leaving us open to slights, insults or getting sucked into their drama.

When we consider large concepts like, “everyone and everything is a reflection of who I am being”, and begin implementing and testing these concepts throughout our own life, we gain an insight into even larger concepts such as “I am the centre of my universe”. Doing so gives us an opportunity to recognise that everything that has every occurred, is occurring, and will occur is for the sole/soul purpose of causing our expansion and evolution toward a higher expression of the Self, through us.

Rather than reacting to old conditioning and continually drawing to us old and undesirable conditions, we can begin to dissolve them, not by critiquing or judging whether or not someone else is being a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ friend, partner, parent, grandparent, child, sibling, business owner, boss, colleague, politician, community representative and so on; but rather using their reflection to further become aware of, Who am I being as a … and, when we recognise there may be moments when we too are being impatient, unloving, uncaring, rude, hurtful, ignorant etc. we then get to ask, from a place of uncritical observation, Who do I now wish to be.

In this way, instead of spending our time contemplating who someone ‘should be’, we begin investing our time designing and refining our next best expression of our Self.

Related posts:

Have you been sucked into the Vortex lately?
Judgement Vs Observation
We don’t smash the mirror
God send nothing but angels

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

Have you been sucked into a Vortex lately?

"Keys to a Better Life"

Over the past couple of weeks two Facebook (FB) occurrences captured my attention more than others. One was to do with local politics and the other KONY2012.

When the KONY2012 film swarmed FB, I took the time to watch it. I was deeply moved by its contents in a number of internal and external ways. It moved me into action by reviewing related posts on FB by the likes of Oprah Winfrey, Anthony Robbins, Louise L. Hay, Wayne Dyer and others. I visited the Invisible Children and related websites. I reviewed a number of related FB pages, including videos and YouTubes posted and, by my internal response to what I viewed, I was lead to ‘Like’ Pages and repost the KONY2012 film as well as the Invisible Children’s LRA Defection Flier video.

My contact with this FB occurrence made me feel uplifted, not by the atrocities the film reveals of course but by the commitment, passion, devotion, focus, determination, courage, unity, compassion, and generally progressive manner these individuals are demonstrating themselves.

The other event that occurred last week was that I came across a FB discussion between a local council candidate and local media representative.  Their dialogue also moved me however it didn’t generate any of the feelings the KONY2012 film did.  From this representation I wanted to distance myself, was deflated, disheartened, and saw no signs of how this style of self representation and discourse did any good for the individuals, or the community.

Since then, I have seen posts and a video contradicting the Invisible Children cause and all of the ones I have seen are again what I consider to be a contracted version of our highest representation.  The stance taken is to attack, belittle, put down, make demands of, and generally discredit another while in one manner or another promote self.  Not to mention the angry, attacking, often profane, ignorant comments individuals post with the intent to also judge and discredit.  Given we are all doing the best we can with the information we have, perhaps this is their way of feeling better about themselves and to continue using those outside of them as a distraction from looking within.

Regardless of the situation, we each have our own process for discerning whether a thing is ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ as well as the ability to exercise our intuition on such matters; both of which are more easily accomplished when our personal values and personality are being progressively refined. The negative folk amongst us always find negative evidence to support ones views while the positive amongst us the positive views - for the axioms “birds of a feather flock together” and “like attracts like” are truisms for a reason.

Regardless of what we bring to our attention, what matters most is how we choose to respond to it. This is the difference between being an observer for the purpose of defining and refining our self, or getting sucked into the vortex and making a judgement about what others are doing and who they are being.  Instead of getting sucked into the vortex of disharmony and chaos, another option is to ask our self, “What can I learn from this situation?” and “What does this situation teach/tell me about myself.”

By doing so we go from Awareness to Uncritical Observation and from a place of uncritical observation, we can choose and Desire what we perceive to be a better definition of personal expression. Once defined, by Focussing our attention on what we now want, and expressing Gratitude for its inevitable fulfilment, in time that desire refines our personality and comes into expression.

Do not imagine anything but good,
because under the law of thought combined with substance
it will sooner or later come into expression,
unless you head it off, eliminate it by denial.
~ Charles Fillmore

All events, situations and conditions are merely temporary occurrences in our grand contextual field for the purpose of providing us with an opportunity to further define and refine our highest personality.

Awareness is the Key and all the rest is 1, 2, 3.

until next time…
Live the Life you Love
J. x

God sends nothing but Angels

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

How do you identify what your current values and boundaries are?

My experience tells me we recognise these in two ways, through ‘pain’ or through ‘insight’.

It was Rev. Michael Beckwith who I first heard say,

“People grow in two ways, through pain or through insight. Many people choose the path of pain. They keep bumping their head up against life and then they begin to ask some empowering questions, like, why is this happening to me over and over again?”

I have also recognised that we experience these in two ways, through ‘role playing’ (pain), or through ‘role definition’ (insight). 

“All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts…” – William Shakespeare

An example of ‘role playing’ could be the conditions that surround Victims and their Abusers, whatever the extent.  We cannot witness an incident that results in abuse unless one party plays the role of the ‘Abuser’ and the other the role of the ‘Victim’ - consciously or unconsciously. 

These ‘players’ are expressing a set of individual values and boundaries (mostly adopted or inherited by others) through the roles/parts they play on the world’s stage.

"God sends nothing but Angels", says Neale Donald Walsch.  Every person, animal, and condition reflects to us the part we’re playing thereby giving us an opportunity to recognise and choose again.

Through ‘role definition’ we can recognise our values and boundaries first and choose instead to define our role and play the part of a self loving, self respecting, self honouring individual.  When we play roles that are Love based, we either avoid all together, or find the ways and the means to release ourselves from a part that is playing the role of ‘Abuser’, ‘Bully’, ‘User’, ‘Task Master’, 'Addict', or any other role equally developed from the basis of Fear.

In all instances, when a role we play no longer serves our expansion towards the Joy of Living, we are free to revalue ourselves by redefining our character/role.  As we repeatedly do so, we become the next greatest version of us and the world confirms the change.

How do you identify what your current values and boundaries are?

The Straw that Broke the Camel’s Back

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

Identifying our values is a key to designing a ‘better life’.  So why is it that identifying what’s important to us can sometimes deliver challenges before delivering the peace, contentment and happiness we seek to achieve?

In my experience this occurs when:

a) the values we establish are truly our own, making them more important to us and worthy of greater investment than the ones we’ve adopted or inherited from others through life; and

b) we haven’t considered new boundaries and implemented a plan for inviting others to recognise and value what’s important to us.

For an explanation about establishing our own values you may find “What’s Important to You?” worthy of visiting or revisiting.

This Blog Post is dedicated to part b):

Developing boundaries and a plan for inviting others,
primarily our partner and children, to recognise and honour our values. 

I’ll use an example to deliver my point. I identify that one thing that’s important to me at home is that the place is kept clean and tidy.  This is the first step from the Universal Truths “Keys to a Better Life” – Awareness. 

The next step is to make an Uncritical Observation of what is.  For example, when activities required in the kitchen are not attended to i.e. the dishwasher isn't stacked and emptied, other dishes aren't washed up, bench tops aren't wiped down, the rubbish isn't taken out etc., or are left to me to attend to, it conflicts with what I have identified as important to me.

Another example could be that dirty clothes are left on the bathroom or bedroom floor instead of being placed in a dirty clothes basket again conflicting with what may have been identified as being important for maintaining, as a minimum, a clean and orderly home.

Our homes, cars, careers/vocations, partners, and everything else in our life are extensions of our personality. They represent who we are and the orderliness or chaos of our thinking which create our conditions.

As a next step, identify, “what do I now desire?”  An example here could be that I desire, for this season in my life at least, that each capable member of the household takes joint responsibility for the various kitchen activities and attending to and keeping their own clothes in a tidy and orderly manner.  By holding a picture in my mind and recognising the feelings that these conditions provide is certainly a critical part of the process.  Taking inspired action is another. So what is meant by the latter part?

My definition of inspired action is taking steps that produce my desired results in a joyful manner.  Namely, for these examples, this may include those actions that enable me to feel the preferred feelings and live in my preferred environment.  When I’ve identified clearly what I now desire, I expect new ideas to flow and I take action that feels uplifting, expanding, congruent, authentic, and joyful in place of those that feel uneasy, contracting, like a struggle, uphill, or against the current.

Some examples of inspired action related to these examples may include installing hooks, erecting shelves, purchasing a clothes valet or baskets, or perhaps placing clothes baskets in bedrooms or bathrooms to more easily accommodate.

It may involve having new conversations with family members to communicate my new desire and invite them to acknowledge and accept and/or provide them with an opportunity to present their ideal of what makes for a more pleasant relationship and living environment.

At some point, everyone needs to agree on at least one law. The natural Law of Cause & Effect whereby family members unwilling to play their part must accept the effects of their non compliance. And, everyone must clearly understand what will happen (the effect) if they don’t play their part.

In my early days in partnership, before I was in a relationship where both parties were committed to living a peace filled and joyful life, continually looking for ways to meet each other’s values without compromising their own, the effect I clearly communicated for clothes that were left lying around on the floor was that I would throw them into the backyard as a first step and into the rubbish bin as a follow up. 

Whatever effects you identify and communicate, be sure that you are willing to follow through.  I did!  I threw them into backyard once and clothes not longer littered our floors. Instead they were dealt with in an orderly fashion.

If spending time in the kitchen cooking and using lots of utensils and crockery doesn't work for you in this season of your life, think about what would minimise kitchen time.  During various seasons in our life, Anthony and I find that the slow cooker concept provides excellent time freedom and minimises the amount of time we spend in the kitchen. 

Instead of focussing on a problems, focus on the solution.

When all is said and done, and members capable of participating have committed to upholding one party's value as a unified one, whatever effects are established, they have to be ones you are willing to carry through and because the intention is to produce greater order and harmony, they must first be clearly communicated so that everyone understands what will happen if a team member doesn’t honour their commitment to their loved ones.

Anyone serious about living a “better life” always has clearly established values and boundaries in place as well as clearly established consequences if those values are encroached upon.  The effects or outcomes of having these boundaries crossed vary for person to person however, it’s important that they are established, communicated, and honoured by our self and others.

Relationships, especially partnerships are about what we can bring to the table, they are about enriching our experience as an individual, a couple and a family rather than looking for what we can take. If someone is unwilling to play their part in honouring what’s important to their loved ones and expanding their own life and environment in the process, perhaps the focus of the relationship is on taking rather than giving. 

Are you currently being a taker or a giver? And, what’s your limit before the straw breaks the camel’s back?

Another Euphoric Day

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

I’m grateful that the sun shone brightly today....on every area of my Life.  My desire is for more of these experiences that give me cause to feel Euphoric.

If you’re reading this Blog Post, it's because you are significant in my life. You can be assured of that because a) we are somehow connected; and b) by my concept of you, you provide a contextual field of my available choices in this Buffet of Life.  And, this occurs regardless of how near or far we think we are in time and space.

I fall more and more in Love when I think from the place of; it's not about whether or not we like each other, it’s about Loving each other for assisting us become clearer about who we now wish to Be, what we imagine that Being will enable us to Do, and what that Doing allows us to Have and to Express – as an individual, a partner, a parent, a family member, a friend, a colleague, a business owner, a resident of a state, a citizen or visitor in someone’s home or country, and as a representative of humanity.

Depening on how you choose to express yourself today and my interpretation of that personality, based on my current beliefs and values, you play your part in providing me with immense choice. For that, I have only Love for You.

If we're not contemplating and expressing our personal personality
in every moment, then we are expressing learnt behaviours,
inherited beliefs or adopted values.

Our personal version of Planet Beautiful is possible when we become responsible for, and ordered in, our every thought and feeling. Those not living an ideal life, and wish to with every cell in their body, will know they are ready to do so when they realise they are already living it. 'Now' is part of it.

Becoming aware of, observing, and choosing our every thought and feeling causes us to truly experience this ‘Now’ and enables us to design the next version with purpose, clarity, accuracy and pure intent. Our journey is not haphazard it is always precise, on purpose and valuable right now.

We are always being a demonstration and expression of Life.

By ordering our thoughts and feelings it becomes possible to be still enough to hear what initially is the soft angelic voice of Divine Guidance’s whisper, beckoning us Gently and Lovingly forward. Soon enough it becomes the same volume as the sound of our voice in our head. 

We all desire Order and “Order is Heaven’s First Law”.

There is no one else to show us how to know Love (Life), for knowing Love is a unique, personal journey that we alone are to enjoy with the Source of Life. There is no other you on the planet that is coming to play your part.

We’re always telling others what Love is. We’re always showing others.

Everyday we’re consistently Being our best individual expression of Love!

Killing with Kindness

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

An aspect of Anthony and I loving the life we live and living the life we love requires us to observe and provide options to individuals, families and organisations who are living and operating on the effect side of years of inherited beliefs, limited decision and learnt behaviours.

One of the perceived challenges the X and Y generations face, in my opinion, is the need to think for our Selves about everyone and everything.  While it may seem to some people that we are all free thinkers, we can share with you from experience this is simply not the case.

Until a conscious choice is made to examine every belief, decision, behaviour and aspect of our personality and where desired redefine them, we are living-out the effects of years of programming that feels so natural to who we are and what we do that it has become unconscious.  In other words, we are generally giving the ideas, outcomes and activities of our life as much conscious thought as we give to the blinking of our eyes, the beating of our hearts or the levelling of our blood sugar.

That’s right…for the most part we are on auto-pilot.

As a result, we have become products of our environment, not duplicates but individuals that have been profoundly influenced by the environments in which we were raised.  All too often, because Love is so grossly misunderstood and rarely demonstrated by our parents and carers, because they weren’t shown true Love themself, we are left floundering with what I call acts of disempowering kindness.  Good intentions and actions that, more often than not, are based on fear and do more harm than good.

Before I studied and implemented the sort of change I’ve referred to here, I spent from my mid teens through to my late twenties witnessing a family, particularly the parents, convince a young boy from about age five or six (that I know of) that he was good for nothing.

By whatever standards a lay person can measure, I knew this adorable child was of healthy mind and body. Yet, because of the continual barrage of insults, name-calling, verbal and sometimes physical abuse he received, he grew up with an intense lack of self worth and a whole lot of loathing for himself and others.

By his mid teens he was a rebel and by the time he got his licence he was heading off the rails, fast.  Because he was ‘good for nothing’, all conditions that involved this young man were rarely short of drama. He wasn’t able to get a job and on the rare occasion someone lined one up for him, he wouldn’t keep it. Mum became the bank, the taxi and to keep the peace, not that it did or maybe it would have been worse, whatever he asked for he generally received.  His disregard for women and law and order meant that he was often heartbroken, in poor company, making poor choices, repeatedly losing licence demerit points and his licence, and accumulating fines.

Supposedly, to prevent the problem from escalating, mum in particularly would pay up, shut up and cover up as much of the now delinquent behaviour as she could. It quickly progressed to being somewhat of a full time job.  But no matter how hard she compensated for her contribution to this man becoming exactly what she, and others, expected of him and what he was told over and over again until it became true for him and them, there were two major events she was never going to be able to undertake on his behalf...going to jail and having a heart attack at around age 25.

As it turns out, this man was lined up with yet another job however this time he was made to feel as though his contribution counted.  He began to feel valued and valuable on a more consistent basis.  This in turn enabled him to regain some of his own self worth and instead of fulfilling a prophecy held by some, he did manage to avoid prison. Comparatively, he progressed well in this place of employment as well as building a home, getting married and having a child by around the age of 25. However, whilst he survived the second event, he did experience a heart attack at this young age.

Labels, name-calling, abuse of any sort, including inverted thinking,
and internal and external dialogue with our children,
our Selves and others counts all the time.

Children in particular want to do nothing short of please their parents and they will and do become whatever is told, demonstrated and expected of them literally.

It’s never too late to expect wonderful things for and of our Selves and the people around us.  If we or someone else is not currently living up to our expectations then Awareness is the key and the rest is 1, 2, 3.

In my next blog post I’ll provide an example of how these Universal Truth Keys can be applied to a situation such as this.

If you find information contained in these Posts interesting or useful, chances are others may too. Please feel free to share.

Financial Blueprints

 
"Keys to a Better Life"

Recently I was chatting with the father of two young boys aged approximately seven and nine.

While tucking his boys into bed one night dad asked his boys what makes them happy?

The nine year old responded that money makes him happy and his father asked him why? The boy didn’t have a response right away so dad asked him to think about it and told him he would ask again the next night.

When he asked his seven year old the same question, his response was “I don't know”, so dad asked him to think about it and told he would ask again the next night.

The following night, the nine year old informed dad that money made him happy because he could buy fun things. With the intention of "pulling him back a couple of cogs" dad said "but you know mate, things don't make you happy, so have a another think and I'll ask you again tomorrow night."

The seven year old told dad that spending time with his family makes him happy and dad was pleased with his response.

Notice firstly, that people, including little people, always tell us what they want and what's currently important to them. Are we listening carefully?  And, what messages are we giving them in return?

According to sociologist Morris Massey and others, we inherit our values or blueprints regarding finance, health, relationships and spirituality by age ten.

What if then, instead of pulling children back a couple of cogs by impressing our own financial blueprint upon them, which may be limited by the beliefs and attitudes we inherited from our parents and other carers, we encourage our children to obtain a healthy financial blueprint and support their grand and achievable imaginings?

For example, another response could have been along the lines of "you sure can buy fun things with money, for yourself and others, that’s so true. In fact, the more money you have the more you can buy.  What would you buy with a lot of money?"

From an uncritical place of observation you can enquire what else they would buy?...and what else?” And after a few nights of this perhaps you could share with him/her what you would buy and then chat with them about what you could both do with a lot of money. 

Money, in and of itself, has no power to generate positive or negative
conditions, greed or destruction, or generosity and benevolence.
These conditions are always dependent on who the user of this commodity
is Being.

Individual expression occurs in and through the unlimited States of Consciousness we are choosing, from moment to moment, to express.

The rich man, the poor man, the beggar man, the thief are all made of the same substance.  The only difference being that this substance, our blueprint or beliefs and value of our Self in relation to a particular subject e.g. money, is reordered. 

When we revalue our Self, the world confirms the change – Neville

Then, our external expression of form (i.e. the money) simply becomes another tool or instrument to aid our fullest expression of our true nature being Freedom, Liberty and Life.

What's important to you?

Relationship Problems & Personal Values

 
In my 3^rd post titled “Opposites attract, or do they?” I touched on the intense disharmony Anthony and I experienced early on in our relationship.  In this post, I wanted to hone in a little on the importance that personal values played in achieving our ‘ideal’ relationship. In fact, personal values played and continue to play an important part in achieving our ‘ideal everything’.

So, what are values?  The simplest way we’ve heard values explained is that they represent what’s important to us in any area of our life.

We have further adopted that our values are derived from what we believe to be true, and these beliefs are derived from thoughts that we think over and over again (Abraham-Hicks refers to these as  ‘chronic thoughts’).

So interlinked have we found thoughts, beliefs and values to be, that we cannot change one without impacting the others.

 

Figure 1: The interlinking of Values, Beliefs & Thoughts

To understand how we develop our initial values, We like Sociologist Morris Massey’s description of the three major periods during which this occurs.  At the end of this post, you'll find a one page PDF containing an extract of Massey's description.

More important to us than the discovery that thoughts, beliefs and values can be changed at will, by merely replacing current repetative or chronic thoughts with new ones, was the discovery that revising them, often, became one of the most important activities in our day.  For example, it no longer benefitted me to hold beliefs such as: the rich get richer while the poor get poorer; I'm an image of my mother, in every regard; that colds and other ailments and/or diseases are something humans transmit to one another or draw from a basket of unlucky numbers somehow; or that someone or something else in my life has to change before I can be happy, healthy, wealthy, or loved?

Having intentionally exposed ourselves and personally tested an abundance of teachings and information that suggests Thoughts or Imagination creates our reality, we have found this to be a Universal Truth.  We now appreciate the importance of revising these fundamental areas of our life that are the underlying programs operating our life and causing our every experience.

To become a purposeful creator of our ‘better life’, including our relationship, which was anything but ‘ideal’, we took the time to ‘GET CLEAR’ about what was important to ‘US’ in relationship.  We, like many others we suspect, began by listing what we didn’t want in relationship, and other areas of our life and over time turned these negative statements into positive desires.

Anthony often relays to our Clients that all disharmony within relationships (be it of a romantic nature or otherwise) is, in part, due to a mismatch in values.

By understanding what we valued most in a relationship, we could begin to consider if our values were ‘up-to-date’.  When Anthony and I carried out this activity, we discovered that many of the thoughts, beliefs and values we held, about a variety of aspects in our life, were not our own.  They had generally been passed on by others, limitations and all.

Eliciting and understanding our values gives great insight in what we think, say and do. When we are aware of our values we become more aware of why it is we attract the current conditions and experiences of our life.

"Revalue yourself and the world will confirm the change."

Download PDF - Massey re Values Development

Until I post again…
Live the Life you Love & Love the Life You Live
J x 

Opposites Attract

...or do they?

When Anthony and I met for a drink at The London Hotel on Beach Street in Port Melbourne for our first date on the 15^th of November 2005, there was no denying an instant attraction.  As our relationship unfolded over the weeks and months ahead, it appeared our initial perception of how similar we were, on the surface, became quite the opposite. So what were we really attracted to and why?

To give a very brief background, both of us had already undertaken a degree of personal development before coming together.  On the weekend we first made contact we were at a powerful personal transformation seminar.  So, when we dated about three weeks later, there was nothing to hide, we thought we knew all we needed to know about each other’s ‘skeletons’ and were now in a place of like mindedness.  It wasn’t long however, before we began perceiving radical differences and believed these difference to be the cause for much disharmony, confusion and unrest in our new found ‘love’.

Had the feeling that some Divine influence was responsible for bringing us together, not been present, it would have seemed easier to conclude this relationship early.  It was as though we knew where every pain button existed on the other to bring up disagreement and each other’s deepest hurts.  We became masterful, it seemed, at rubbing each other up the wrong way.  So why did we stick it out?

There were a few fundamental concepts about relationship, to this point, that had resonated with us enough to cause us to willingly put them to the test.  We only wanted to be in relationship if it could be fantastic as neither of us were interested in mediocre.  So, we tested concepts like, if you perceive something in another that causes you any upset it is a reflection of an unhealed part of you; and, everyone is your perfect mirror; and, you can change the relationship, however you will keep recreating the circumstances over and over again until you get the lessons – in other words, different face, difference name, same old stuff.

As I mention earlier, at this point in the relationship it seemed much easier to end it when the going got tough (which was about three weeks after our first date :0)) however, neither of us were keen to jump in and out of relationship to bring about personal healing and growth.  Further, there was that Divine connection thingy going on.  We genuinely felt we had the potential to create magic together and even though we had no idea what this meant nor was it very evident in our life at the time, we kept finding the patience, the compassion, the forgiveness and the will to make adjustments and go the next mile.

While everything about us seemed opposite such as our religious beliefs, our attitudes to accumulating assets and wealth, family relations, our culture, our values, and our behaviours, we were alike in this regard; we both wanted to experience an extraordinary love relationship and much more… It was our perceived opposites and differences that became the essence for our greatest individual change.

As the overall title of this Blog site indicates, I’d love to chat with you about your current views on what attracted you to your partner and why and whether or not you are enjoying your version of a great relationship or just sticking it out and if so, why.  I also welcome any queries or requests for clarification about anything I post.

Until I post again…
Live the Life you Love
J x